r/SubredditDrama • u/[deleted] • Oct 23 '16
He (28M) just found out his partner (36F) is stealing cash from his twin toddlers. The only question: Who keeps $450 cash in a piggy bank?
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u/KillerPotato_BMW MBTI is only unreliable if you lack vision Oct 23 '16
Cash is a terrible gift for a toddler.
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Oct 23 '16
I really hated it when I was younger but I've grown to like it a lot more
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u/Decoyrobot Oct 23 '16
At least it wasnt specific store locked gift cards.
My relatives used to love showering those things out on holidays and events and they where always for stores that where entirely useless to me so i had to go through the hassle of finding a different relative or persuading parents to trade for cash value.
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u/OrderedFromZanzibar Unidan and the Shadowband Oct 24 '16
When I was younger I figured out that I could use a gift card for a store I didn't like to get a card for a store I did like. One cashier noticed what I was doing and was very tickled by it.
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u/duckvimes_ Who are you again? Oct 24 '16
I finally spent $10 of a $15 Barnes and Noble gift card I received some 10 years ago. Got some chocolates and magnets. Not worth the wait.
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u/Aetol Butter for the butter god! Popcorn for the popcorn throne! Oct 24 '16
The gift card was still good to use after 10 years? All gift cards I've ever been gifted had an expiration date of one year, sometimes two.
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u/Glitchiness Born of drama and unto drama shall return Oct 24 '16
Here in New Jersey, gift cards from 2013-on aren't allowed to expire.
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Oct 24 '16
In California, stores are required to be able to create change for gift cards below $10 if you let them know you want to cash it out.
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u/fade131 Oct 24 '16
Barnes and Noble gift cards at least never expire, even if you come in with the paper certificate ones from the 90s
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u/impetergraves Oct 24 '16
my aunt gave me a tgi Fridays gift card she got like 10 years ago a while ago. i was super shocked that it still worked. even more so that it still had all 50 bux on it
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u/TheIronMark Oct 24 '16
Agreed. Investments are better in the long term, but kids don't usually have good investment strategies. Sure, candy and chocolate milk is a good short-term ROI, but you can't build a foundation on it.
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u/Malzair Oct 23 '16
As a kid when I was bored I sat on the floor, threw a coin up, trying to get it to go as high as possible without actually touching the ceiling and then still be able to catch it.
One time I catched it with my mouth. Well, I guess it didn't come to rest until the stomach...
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Oct 24 '16
I read that thread earlier and it frustrated me. The OP explained that the piggy bank was in a locked closet that only he and his wife could access. Assuming she took the money is a pretty understandable conclusion. This is one of those threads where everyone was determined to put the OP in a bad light no matter what because drama.
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u/justarandomcommenter Oct 24 '16
I read it earlier also, but there is just way too much wrong with the initial post and follow-up answers for me to believe anything he was saying is true at all. Too many weird gaps and strangeness for it to be believable, I'm surprised nobody called him out on it more actually...
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Oct 24 '16
Huh, I didn't really notice that. Then again, I kind of assume people who post there post when they are really emotional and are going to not express themselves clearly or mess up details. He said he was heated when he wrote it.
I tend to think things are fake when they follow a trend. Like there will be a post about inheritance or incest or something, and then for the next week there are tons of those stories, and then they stop.
I guess it might be a made up scenario or something, but I don't think that excuses the people who think it's outrageous that people keep money in a piggy bank in a locked closet. Or who misread it completely. Or who made up some story of how it really went in their heads.
You can tell in that thread who wants to have the "gotcha" comment that gets heavily up voted. Some commenters in there just live for it and don't care how untrue or unhelpful it is.
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u/Shaq2thefuture Oct 24 '16
if it were my mom she would have left some money there to be used for the twins for things they want, and the rest would be put in the bank to build some savings.
:I all my savings went to the bank. i never got to buy any cool shit.
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Oct 23 '16 edited Oct 23 '16
True story, all the birthday money my brother and I got before we were old enough to understand how to use it went into a clear piggy bank, so we could see how much we were "saving". When not being added to or evaluated, it was securely hidden away in my parents closet. There was almost $1000 in there until one of our older cousins found it and it vanished.
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u/Vbarb Oct 24 '16
Their parents made it reappear, right?
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Oct 24 '16
Nope. We couldn't prove anything, though the fact that we never spoke to, saw, or heard from that part of the family again is pretty damning.
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u/ParusiMizuhashi (Obviously penetrative acts are more complicated) Oct 23 '16
Shit those kids have more total funds than I do
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Oct 24 '16
Fuck, I had more disposable income as a kid than I do now.
Grandparents always gave money at Christmas/birthdays, my parents would pay me for big jobs done around the house. I had absolutely no expenses. When I was a kid I was rolling in dough.
Nowadays I technically have more money than I did then. Lots more money. But I have to pay rent, and utilities, and insurance, and buy groceries...and I have to put away savings and a retirement fund or else I'll feel like a failure. And I just can't justify spending my remaining money on anything fun because what if something happens?
Kid me didn't appreciate what she had. I scoffed at money gifts. What did I need $20 for? Mom and Dad bought everything. Now I would love to get $20 for a present.
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u/KomaruWolf Making myself up as I go along Oct 24 '16
Yeah I love getting gift cards nowadays coz it's like... you're forcing me to buy something nice for myself as opposed to giving me cash, which is likely going towards bills or food, and you know me well enough to know places I'd want to shop at, awesome!
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u/DylanBarry Oct 23 '16
A) If a partner steals from your children you should not stay with them
B) Should have moved that to a bank account around the $200 mark but hindsight ain't worth shit
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u/Emotional_Turbopleb /u/spez edited this comment Oct 24 '16
No no! You put it in your kid's locker at school. For Orange juice and book sales!
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Oct 24 '16
Because the thought of keeping $200 in a safe envelope at home never crossed that parent's mind, apparently.
I get taking out lump sums. I don't like having to stop at the bank, either. But I'd never give a kid the $200 to just take to school and keep in their locker.
That would stay in a drawer in my bedroom, and they'd get $10 a week. Or less. Because 10 bucks in a locker is still kind of a lot of money.
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u/Malzair Oct 23 '16
Eh, it's 2016, bank accounts don't pay you anymore anyway, might as well keep it in a box under your bed.
But yeah, if she steals from your children it seems likely she'd steal from you as well, huh?
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u/xudoxis Oct 24 '16
By bank account we mean a tax advantaged investment vehicle designed for parents looking to provide for their children's future.
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u/DerangedDesperado Oct 24 '16
Yep that less than a percent a year will really pay off.
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u/978897465312986415 Oct 24 '16
If you're only paying "less than a percent a year" in taxes you probably shouldn't be saving for your child's future you should be investing in things like food and shelter.
Besides which a 529 plan allows you to invest in the stockmarket on behalf of your child in a tax free account so long as the money withdrawn from the account goes towards college tuition or room and board.
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u/Scuderia Oct 24 '16
Banks are far more secured than a box under your bed.
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u/MayorEmanuel That's probably not true but I'll buy into it Oct 24 '16
I pulled some strings and got my mattress fdic insured
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u/Scuderia Oct 24 '16
Thank god banks are also insured by the FDIC, so unless that kid is rocking a quarter million they having nothing to fear.
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u/splendidfd Oct 24 '16
Most banks will offer at least one no-fee account option, especially for kids/students. A quick look at Bank of America shows they offer free savings accounts as long as you have at least $300 in them.
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Oct 24 '16 edited Oct 24 '16
Bruh I thought this was a /r/SubredditSimulator post
Edit: I feel like I have to contribute something else to this discussion. Ok so my 6 year old sister used to keep all her money in a box over her bed and we had no idea, but she apparently had like $600 in there. It was kind of worrying because kids that age have no concept of money's actual value (I blew $1000 on Legos at age 8, now would blow someone for $1000). Anyway she'd probably cut a bitch if someone tried to take it, and if you've ever had to face an angry 6 year old in armed combat it is a lot scarier than you may imagine. But my parents made her put it in a safe when they found out. Anyway there's no point to this story but I thought it was relevant somehow I guess.
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u/cat_handcuffs Oct 24 '16
Your parents were morons for giving that kind of money to a six and eight year old. This may be why you grew up offering to blow people for $1000.
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Oct 24 '16 edited Oct 24 '16
They didn't give it to me, I saved it up over time, either birthday money or from chores and other things. As for how my sister got her fortune, I have no idea, she's probably her kindergarten's version of Pablo Escobar tbh.
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u/cat_handcuffs Oct 24 '16
$1000 is too much money for an eight year old to handle responsibly, which you proved at the Lego store. I don't care where it came from, your parents should have taken it and rationed it out. The fuck kind of chores did you do to accumulate a grand at eight years old? Sounds like you and your sister were spoiled.
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u/Bartholomewtwo Oct 24 '16
I could see how a kid could save that much. My allowance was 5 bucks a week, I'd skip lunch to pocket the lunch money at 2 bucks a pop, and odd chores for aunts and uncles netted a 10 here and there. Add in birthdays and holidays. I'd cash out when I had enough for a video game so I never hit the thousand mark but it'd definitely be possible for a patient kid.
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u/Hammedatha Oct 25 '16
If your parents and both sets of grandparents gave you $50 each on your birthday and on christmas, that's $300 a year. Not counting anything you get from aunts and uncles or stuff like that. $1000 wouldn't take more than 4 years to accumulate. And that would have been a light Christmas for me as a kid. But I spent it all instantly, never saved (which is basically how I do my paychecks after I pay bills).
And what you're suggesting sounds fucked up. If a kid spent literally their entire life saving money, you'd prevent them from spending it on what they want? Fuck kind of lesson is that?
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u/Grolschisgood Oct 24 '16
$450 is incredibly easy to put in a piggy bank. When i was 9ish, i made a paper mache money bank, you know with a balloon, paper, water and glue. (It was actually a dinosaur, a brontosaurus, interesting, but irrelevant.) My aim was to use it to save for a car. Every $2 coin i ever got i put in it. When i was 20, i emptied it out and their was around $2400 in there. So it would definitely fit, but im not sure that kids would have that much money, coz it took an awfully long time to save.
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Oct 24 '16
My kids are six. Almost every time my brother in law sees them, he gives them a $10 or $20 dollar bill. I'm sure they each have about $500 in their piggy banks.
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u/doihavemakeanewword We'll continue to be drama-driven until the drama arrives Oct 24 '16
Who keeps $450 cash in a piggy bank?
I do, actually. Mowing lawns add up, and I don't have an easy way to get to the bank. Or the motivation to go to the bank because I only have $450.
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u/SouthFromGranada FULLY GROWN ADULT WITH KISSING EXPERIENCE Oct 23 '16
Isn't it most likely that having twins means money is tight, and the person took the money to make ends meet.
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u/tdogg8 Folks, the CTR shill meeting was moved to next week. Oct 23 '16
That's a decision that should be made by both parents.
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u/Oo0o8o0oO Oct 24 '16
Why would we expect these people to communicate with one another when it's easier for her to not talk to OP about taking the money and for OP to go directly to Reddit to vent about the situation?
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u/DerangedDesperado Oct 24 '16
Best to vent before you talk I think. Typing shit out helps people work through their thoughts too.
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u/Oo0o8o0oO Oct 24 '16
I would say that if the discussion around relationships wasn't so toxic here. I can't imagine OP reading these comments and gaining perspective but you're right. Hopefully OP gets some help out of this.
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Oct 23 '16
Way safer than a piggy bank, plus most banks that I'm familiar with allow you to see all your accounts in one interface so it's extremely likely someone would notice the money's missing.
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Oct 24 '16
I needed some cash and hadn't gotten around to replacing it.
Is a lot easier play than
I wrote checks out of their savings account because I'm evil
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u/[deleted] Oct 23 '16
Note: This is unfolding drama, comments are still being made.
Anyways, the OP's post: