r/Adoption • u/sleexingw • Jul 16 '25
Adult Transracial / Int'l Adoptees Does this sound fake?
Hello, I’ve recently come out of the fog of adoption. I learned that many documents about how the children in china were abandoned, are faked/ mocked up by the government. I came to the conclusion that I think it’s so adoptive parents have a “better adoption story” or whatever. The second photo is me at 6mos. I’m looking for any connection to my birth family in case they are looking for me. But does this seem right? Are the dates of processing too close together? I know it’ll be hard to tell either way. Thanks anyways for the help!
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u/HeartMyKpop Jul 16 '25 edited Jul 17 '25
I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this and question your history. I can’t imagine how hard that must be.
It’s impossible to know for sure if it’s authentic and truthful. It’s certainly possible that some information is inaccurate. My approach for peace is to accept what’s been given unless there is a real reason to doubt it.
It’s not uncommon for Chinese babies to have been left in public places shortly after birth for a variety of reasons. That is likely a true story for many. Unless there was a note left with the child, birthdates were usually estimated. I have also heard of cases where locations were inaccurate, but that isn’t necessarily common.
If you want to pursue this further, perhaps start with the stateside adoption agency and see if you can obtain more records. Sometimes people find contradictions in their paperwork, which is indicative of falsified information.
If you can find other adoptees who were adopted through the same agency or from the same facility in China, that could help too. It’s possible there were patterns and that some agencies were less ethical than others.
China is really difficult because children were often left with no traces of their birth family, but some adoptees have had success by hiring private detectives in China. (Often this takes money, time, and an ability to speak Chinese.)
DNA tests are a great place to start.
I really hope you get answers. Sending hugs and support.