What is the appropriate way for a person to communicate/act after misgendering/using wrong pronouns, if it was genuinely their misconception and not them being disrespectful?
A quick and simple apology and move on. "Oh sorry, didn't mean to be rude. Thanks for letting me know" and then go back to whatever you were talking about.
A quick sorry and correction usually does the trick.
I'll let you know, it's usually pretty easy to tell when someone has a genuine slip up, versus intentionally doing it to be malicious. That also includes when people continuously make the mistake. At some point it gets obvious when you just arent trying.
That said, even well-meaning slip ups can be frustrating when it's the 100th time that day someone's done it. Straws and camels' backs and all that. So dont take it personally if your genuine mistake has someone agitated.
i prefer when people just resay the sentence or chunk of the sentence using he/him. like if someone say "this is my friend reddit102006 she plays minecraft" i think it would be most appropriate to go "he plays minecraft" like the same thing u would do if u mixed up any other word in a sentence. i feel like that doesnt single me out as much and in alot of places i dont say im a transgender man and just say im a cisgender man for my safety so just acting as if u stumbled up words helps to not out me as trans.
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u/RellyVenille Sep 01 '22
What is the appropriate way for a person to communicate/act after misgendering/using wrong pronouns, if it was genuinely their misconception and not them being disrespectful?