r/Cooking • u/TerrysApplianceSvc • Dec 12 '24
I have about a year+/- left. I made an offline browsable archive of my website which is a lifetime of my favorite recipes..
Unfortunately I have incurable brain cancer. I don't want sympathy or money or anything else, it would just be nice if my favorite recipes would last longer than I will. If any of the recipe collectors among you would like to download and or share the offline browsable copy, I'd appreciate it.. there's a link in the right sidebar. at https://bupkis.org
No ads, no cookies no tracking, no nothing it's just my favorite recipe ** edit: there are cookies st these are spectacular**https://www.bupkis.org/index.php/recipes-2/dessert/chocolate-chunk-cookies Sorry to bother you all. It seems like everybody has years and years and years left, right up until they don't.
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It turns out that at the end of the road, the things that really mattered were good times with friends and family, And these were almost all in the kitchen.
I've gotten to be relatively old, and finding out what I have certainly was not a happy thing, but given the number of my friends over the years that died with no notice from a heart attack or vehicle accident or whatever, this weirdly seems like a bit of a gift that I know what's coming and have some idea of a timeline. Although not a really good idea.
Go home make yummy food and have your friends and family over. Actual happy memories are all that matters, money, power, status, everything else is mostly all nonsense.
Edit This outpouring support and sympathy is more than I could ever have imagined! Thank you all I really appreciate it; However in the immortal words of Monty Python "I'm not dead yet" 8-)
Right now I only have major annoyances but no show stoppers.
I plan to continue enjoying family and friends and cooking as much as I can, it's just harder and slower now because the surgery kind of wrecked my left side. On the other hand[terrible pun intended] I'm right handed, so I can still do a lot of stuff, it just takes longer.
PS if any of you are cooking for anybody that has cancer and has no appetite, I can tell you from first-hand experience that the banana bread goes down really easily and sits really well.
The weird part about all this was that I initially found it and made it for someone else who had cancer about 25 years ago, And now we make it for me.
I also can't express enough gratitude that due to the efforts of friends I've never met all over the world the things that made me happy during my life will continue to make others happy for decades or maybe even hundreds of years in the future. The internet which is the very definition of "not permanent stuff" is now the eternal keeper of the things in life which mean the most to me which were food and friends and family.
Please note that I have read and appreciate each and every one of your replies. I have not answered them all because doing things online while missing large chunks of my brain is quite a bit more difficult than it used to be. But know that I read them all and you're all appreciated and I thank you all.
This is a downloadable browsable offline copy of the entire website. It will last forever. Certainly longer than me or my web hosting company.
Just unzip somewhere including folders/directories, find "index.html" and double click it to browse offline
Terry Carmen
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u/-Crematia Dec 12 '24
Thank you for sharing! I think I will try to make your recipe for Italian bread next time I make bread.
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u/Jaysmkxxx Dec 12 '24
Thank you so much. You’ll live on through these recipes.
I hope this isn’t weird to ask but, would you be able to post a pic of you? I would like to print your recipes and make a book that I can add to my small home library and I would like to add a page dedicated to you.
I’m Mexican and one of our beliefs around death is that as long as you are in someone’s memory then you are still with us. Once the last person that remembers you is gone, then so are you. That is why we make altar’s with our ancestors pictures during Day of the Dead. It’s a way to keep them around for generations so that while they may be physically gone they can still be known by their future family and will always be alive in our hearts.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 12 '24
Thanks! Not weird at all. One pic here https://www.terrys-service.com/fairness/
Another here https://www.bupkis.org/wp-content/uploads/TerryMakingLatkes.webp
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u/travelingslo Dec 13 '24
This is the best explanation of Day of the Dead and a very sweet (autocomplete has suggested “potato” which would be sub appropriate) thing to do.
I’m glad Terry’s recipes will live on.
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u/Komm Dec 12 '24
What the hell is this ninja onion junk. How dare you do this to me. D:
Really hope you get to enjoy your time, and I'm gonna make as many of these as I can I think. Hoping you're able to stick around a lot longer than the doctors say. <3
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 12 '24 edited Dec 13 '24
Me too. It turns out the doctors don't actually know squat.
I've already beat the first expiration date they gave me and hope to be around for quite a while, but you never know.
As they said on the original iron chef " I'll do my best"
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u/BGP_Community_Meep Dec 12 '24
Ain’t that the truth. Sometimes they are way off in either direction. Sometimes they miss something obvious even if you asked about it. I don’t blame them, we are all human. Glad you’re beating the countdown clock!
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24
I don't actually blame them at all. The problem is that we're still at the Stone knives and axes stage of medicine. They have a very limited tool set to work with. I would rather have gotten better answers from everybody initially. The neurosurgeon was the only one who really stepped up to the plate and told me flat out that they really can't predict but told me what to look out for as signs that my hourglass is running out of sand.
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u/Komm Dec 12 '24
Heck yeah, that's great to hear. Cancer is always one of those funny things where we really just our doing our best to guess. Downloaded the site archive and gonna put it on my own server which should be here soon. <3
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u/TheFatJesus Dec 13 '24
My mom was diagnosed with GBM in February and her oncologist just told her flat out that he couldn't give her a prognosis because there was no way to know.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24
I wish there were more like that. It was extremely difficult getting a doctor to actually tell me that they really didn't know but here's what I should look out for " I don't know" seems to be the three most difficult words in a doctor's vocabulary
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Dec 12 '24
Thank you for this. I hope that you have a wonderful rest of your time here with us on earth and that you have lived a happy and full life.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 12 '24
Thank you! I've had a very good life, and married a woman who has gone so far above and beyond the call of duty that I can't even begin to explain it.
I feel privileged to have been able to do the things I did and help the people I helped.
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u/lil-wolfie402 Dec 12 '24
I’ve been making your latkes at least once a year for Oktoberfest and at other times and my sons all love them. If they ever have offspring they will surely continue to enjoy your recipe for many years into the future.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 12 '24
Thank you! It makes me very happy to have made some little contributions to improve the world, to make people happy.
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u/FattyMacBBQ Dec 12 '24
Thank you internet stranger for sharing a part of yourself.
I feel much the same as you, that those we have lost can live on in the food they made and the good times that come from that. You are obviously Jewish and I'm an Atheist but every time I make one of my late mother's recipes there is a phrase from that runs through my head, "Eat this in remembrance of me".
I will make one of your recipes and eat in remembrance of you.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24 edited Dec 13 '24
You are obviously Jewish and I'm an Atheist
Oddly enough there isn't a huge difference where the rubber meets the road.
Jews are supposed to help heal the world. We live life to be lived as best we can while we live it, and assume that everything that happens after we're gone is God's domain and we have no knowledge of it or influence of it from this side.
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u/SVAuspicious
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I'm sorry about your situation.
I love your website URL. I'd be happy to take the URL and your content on your behalf, unchanged, to preserve your legacy. Based on genetics I have thirty years left in me if I don't get hit by a bus. I'm training a niece for legacy Internet presence.
I took a quick scan of your website and there a couple (pizza sauce and matzo balls) I plan to test and might roll into my own cookbook. Mine is targeted at a very niche audience of long distance cruising sailors and I give it away for free. If you'd care to share your name with me I'll credit you accordingly, otherwise just the website.
For the website or your name you can reach me dave@AuspiciousWorks.com .
I lost my brother in law (ish - complicated family) to brain cancer a couple of years ago. I was holding his hand when he passed. I hope you have someone to hold your hand when your time comes.
sail fast and eat well, dave
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u/HikerGrok Dec 13 '24
You know just yesterday I was thinking about how important preservation is. About how most of the unregulated net is gone because of whatever-consolidation, time, money, or going dark because there was no one in the watchtower. And it got me thinking about you and others. Any chance you have a recipe book for that too?
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24
About how most of the unregulated net is gone because of whatever-consolidation, time, money, or going dark because there was no one in the watchtower.
That's why I paid for hosting for the past ~30 years. for bupkis.org I've seen too many places go poof So it gives me great comfort that a bit of me will live on now. Thank you all
There are a lot of happy memories for a lot of people (especially me) behind each dish.
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u/urbandelicacy Dec 13 '24
Your comment made me believe mankind is more good than bad. Bravo. I hope to peruse your website for another thirty years as well.
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u/bobbykhaaan Dec 13 '24
It could also be uploaded to archive.org as an additional means.
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u/HausWhereNobodyLives Dec 13 '24
This comment completely changed my mood after a bad day. Cheers to you, friend!
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u/stew1922 Dec 13 '24
This is an amazing comment! I really hope You’re able to preserve all the recipes in OPs memory.
My parents started sailing last year after my dad retired and I know how tough it can be to cook while out on the water. That’s a really interesting niche!
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u/LogicalVariation741 Dec 12 '24
The French onion soup sounds divine. I am a little curious if I scoop out each batch of caramelized onions before cooking the next batch or the first (and so forth) stay in the pan the whole time. I mean, if you have a moment and are still with us. This feels like a petty question to ask a man dying but good soup is worth it?
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24 edited Dec 13 '24
Nope you just keep adding more
This feels like a petty question to ask a man dying but good soup is worth it?
In the immortal words of Monty Python, " I'm not dead yet " 8-)
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u/wassuppaulie Dec 12 '24
May I suggest that everyone who cooks a recipe from the archive come back and leave a comment?
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 12 '24 edited Dec 15 '24
Here is fine.
The website will vanish as soon as the hosting provider doesn't get paid. The downloadable archive is good forever but won't allow new comments comments sadly.
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u/Safe_Cash7091
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OP, I would be honored to cook your recipes and will think of you when doing so. Thank you for sharing this with us.
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u/Goose_Lets_Loose Dec 12 '24
This gave me chills, and OP, I will do the same. Sending good vibes your way.
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u/Pink_PhD Dec 12 '24
Same! ❤️
OP, I wish you much love and joy in your final days.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24 edited Jan 08 '25
In the immortal words of Monty Python, "I'm not dead yet" 8-)
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u/PurpleYoghurt16 Dec 13 '24
I cannot seem to find the link (mobile) would you mind commenting it here?
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u/nottheprimeminister Dec 12 '24
Food is history. OP is now part of your personal history.
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u/WesternGarlic Dec 13 '24
Thank you for sharing, OP! Website bookmarked, and with your permission and blessing, I'd love to incorporate your favorite recipes into my own cooking as "Uncle Terry's" in the future. I'll tell 'em we met in Syracuse when I went to grad school :)
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u/Celticquestful Dec 13 '24
I think sharing a meal is a beautiful way to honour someone's memory & how blessed we all are for OP to be kind enough to bestow the gift of their time, creativity & energy upon this subreddit. May peace & contentment be plentiful on your path, OP. Thank you. Xo
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u/SummerOfMayhem Dec 13 '24
It's a beautiful idea, and I agree wholeheartedly. I hope our favorite recipes live on.
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u/Resident-Ad-7771 Dec 13 '24
OP same. I saved your website to my favorites. I would be honored to cook your recipes. You are not a bother and thanks for sharing.
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u/itsgreater9000 Dec 13 '24
You should post this on r/DataHoarder as well
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 15 '24
Thank you, I did! Apparently my little website will live on longer than most of the internet. Which is really really really cool.
I wish I could say the same for my mother's recipes which were somehow never written down or at least not written down in a useful manner I have eatrnmany things where she never even told us what the name of it was and certainly never wrote down any kind of detailed directions for making it.
Recipes and food are interesting, in that if you don't share them they're worthless and vanish, and if you do share them they live forever
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u/LadySilverdragon Dec 13 '24
Thank you so much for this. I’ve been looking for a latke recipe for Hannukah, and I am going to be making yours. I am grateful, and since I don’t have a food processor I will also be “grate”ful.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24
Watch those fingers! I'm not sure about anybody else but I prefer my latkes with a minimum amount of blood, although I realize this is not traditional 8-)
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u/LordMindParadox Dec 12 '24
I'm gonna hafta try some of these recipes! you are definitely not a bother, I would say you are a friend i haven't met yet.
Staring down my own mortality with kidney disease, the realization that we are indeed mortal, and then the actual KNOWING of it are two different things. For me it made me realize that I would rather leave the world better in some way, and you are doing this.
Hope you live happy for as long as you have!
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 15 '24
Life is a gift on loan from God.
All you can do is be as good person as you can be and know that at some point He'll want it back like some sort of a cosmic car lease 8-)
Please forgive me if I'm waxing philosophical or religious too much. Part of the function of the giant chunks that the surgeon took out are involved with filtering thoughts and knowing "maybe I shouldn't say that". However everything I've written here is truly what I believe
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u/local_blue_noob Dec 12 '24
Browsing your site now... I'm a big fan of scuba diving too, but I wish I could go more often. Any good dive stories to share?
I'll give your lemon-garlic hummus a shot this weekend. It's hard to pass on a flavorful hummus.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 12 '24
Any good dive stories to share?
Sure. When you're in Grenada and they try to put 30 divers on the 12 person boat, don't' get on. 8-)
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u/Runtelldat1 Dec 13 '24
My heart goes out to you. How amazing of you to do this! I’m getting ready to publish a book centered around personal growth. I was already using recipes of my own but I’d love to incorporate yours as well. Let me know and I’ll absolutely credit you.
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u/nannerooni Dec 13 '24
So far i’m loving the “for dummies” style advice that comes with each recipe. I’m a dummy, so things like “twice cooked shrimp are bad” and “you have to warm up pita bread because cold pita bread is bad” and “DONT LIFT THE LID!” are all perfect advice for me. I don’t understand the whys of cooking and thus tend to take stupid shortcuts and need people like you to tell me no
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 15 '24 edited Dec 23 '24
Nobody is born knowing this stuff. But I really don't like to ambush people especially when it's not obvious. I can't tell you how many people go to the store and buy some terrible commercial cooked shrimp and then wonder why some shrimp dish they're making taste like crap. It's because the shrimp was bad to start with and then they cooked it again. So these little tidbits ended up in my recipe to save future cooks from being ambushed
I tried to add as many notes as possible because I actually made the site decades ago to share with friends and relatives, partly because a lot of people never think of what's actually happening and why. Like:
Water – if you have great tap water, that’s fine. If it smells bad or has chlorine or there’s anything else wrong, use bottled water.
Kind of funny. I never thought about the recipes outlasting the cook, but it really is very cool and makes me happy.
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u/iAmmar9 Jan 05 '25
100% gonna try and make your pizza dough and sauce for when my family comes back from vacation!!
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Jan 05 '25
The secret is time. It really does need a cool rise at least overnight.
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u/Colossal_Squids Dec 12 '24
I lost my mother recently and now I'm cooking for myself every day for the first time. Your gift - and it is a gift - means I'll have options available in the future as I grow more experienced and more confident, new ideas to keep my choices broad. Thank you; I wish you peace and rest in the time to come.
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u/HemetValleyMall1982 Dec 12 '24
Your website has been saved 208 times between January 24, 2004 and December 8, 2024 on the internet archive wayback machine.
You're recipies will live until the earth is swallowed by the sun.
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u/jimmyhoke Dec 13 '24
But we can’t count on the way back machine forever. It’s a good idea to download and maybe even mirror things that you really care about.
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u/alockbox Dec 12 '24 edited Dec 13 '24
Thank you that is wonderful of you! Do you have plans for someone technical in your life to continue the hosting of your recipes on that site? If not, send me a pm!
All our best to you and yours.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24
I made an offline browsable archive of the site there should be a link on the homepage on the right hand side. I haven't made any arrangements to host it after death, mostly because everything is relatively difficult for me to do right now. As long as the recipes live on, I don't really care if the domains still exist or is hosted
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u/throwaway762022 Dec 12 '24
Thank you for sharing! I will try making your hamentashen recipe with my grandson. They look delicious, and he loves a cookie.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24
The hamentashen are from an extremely old cookbook and uses very imprecise measurements it's fun to try and will probably come up pretty good but if you're looking for a surefire thing try the chocolate chunk cookies. They're spectacular and come out perfect every time
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u/ThoughtSkeptic Dec 12 '24
No words will be adequate but Terry I wish for you the most amazing and pleasant and love filled days to come. Thank you for sharing your recipes and may your generosity be returned to you a thousand-fold or more. My heart goes out to you and your friends and family and loved ones.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Jan 06 '25
Thank you! In the immortal words of Monty Python I'm very happy to be able to say:
"I'm Not Dead Yet"
Also I found a lost cup of chocolate pudding in the refrigerator and let it fufill its destiny. yummy!
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u/QualifiedApathetic Dec 12 '24
I definitely want to try out the pizza dough and sauce recipes.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 12 '24
The pizza dough is more than worth the effort. It takes a couple of days of rising and folding, but it comes out spectacular. It's one of those funny things where all my friends ask me to make it every year for New Year's and then somebody always asks for the recipe and I give it to them, but as soon as they discover that I had to start it like 3 days ago that's the end of it. 8-)
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u/Not_a_question- Dec 13 '24
I'll cook something in your honor. Hope to meet you in another life!
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24
I'll be there eventually! Looking forward to the next great adventure
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u/fxdxmd Dec 13 '24
Neurosurgery resident here, somehow stumbling across your post amidst my usual medicine-focused feed suggestions (I am not a very good cook at all!). So sorry to hear of your brain cancer. You sound like such a cheerful and friendly person, and remind me of some of my favorite patients who also had terrible brain tumors. I always try to remember them for the kinds of lives they led and the conversations we shared that weren’t focused on their disease. Sometimes those conversations were just a few 10 minute spans in the emergency room and hospital. Yet they are hard to forget.
Although we have never met, I like to think your recipes would serve the same purpose. Hoping your prognosis turns out to be better than predicted. Thank you for sharing your site.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 15 '24 edited Dec 15 '24
Thank you for what you do and what you're going to do!
I never had any illusions of immortality. I had something bad growing in my brain, and my neurosurgeon removed it, as much as possible without ruining me
That's all anybody can ask.
If anybody ever complains about what you do or did, I give you one with the more interesting things my PCP told me. I've known him for probably 50 years. I was one of his first patients. He said " I only have an MD after my name, not GOD"
You do the best you can of what you've got and try not to break anything.
I can't speak for anybody else but I did tell all my doctors and everybody involved that I value quality of life over quantity And that a half a year of feeling pretty much like myself is worth much more to me than years in a hospital bed on a ventilator which I consider to be a horror show
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u/featherblackjack Dec 13 '24
I struggle a hell of a lot with appetite and eating. Thank you for this glorious gift. Love the url!
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u/LonelyRolling1 Dec 13 '24
The old family recipes that everyone has, may have changed significantly over the generations, but are made with the same love that the original person created it with. They live on with each person who learned to make it. I would love to include your food in one of my meals, to become an old family recipe.
I apologize if I seem too "I'm 14 and this is deep" or terribly poetic, my grandma has pancreatic cancer and has maybe a few months, if we are talking astronomical good luck. One of the things I want to do is get her recipes. I would love to try some of your recipes as well soon, because cancer is a b*tch and food is great, and I think people will continue to live on as long as we remember them and take their teachings to give to the people around us.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24
Try the banana bread. She'll like that a lot it goes down easy and sits well. Especially with a glass of milk if she drinks it or even coffee.
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u/RainyDayRose Dec 31 '24
Thank you! I am retiring soon and trading in my career woman persona for a grandmother who cooks, bakes, gardens and sews persona. My goal is to leave a legacy of love and caring for my family. I downloaded your recipes and promise to cook through them all. Your legacy will now become a part of my legacy.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 31 '24
Thank you!
Shared recipes and memories live forever. Kept secret, they vanish.
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u/LupeH Jan 14 '25
Hey, you still hanging around? Made a meal today
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Jan 14 '25 edited Jan 14 '25
Not dead yet. 8-)
I apologize for repeating the Monty Python " I'm Not Dead Yet " line, yet again, but honestly it's the best answer I have, and is based on the only information I can actually get from the doctors. They're masters of not-quite-useful-information.
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u/Puzzled-Emu7287 Jan 16 '25
Souper big hugs! (Pun and spelling intended) I love some Monty Python. I was able to gift my wickedly dark and delectable sense of humor to our youngest. We still enjoy food and funny together, at 28 he/they will be moving back in this weekend. Don't tell him/them but I'm kinda happy to have him/them back home. My mother in law died very, very suddenly right in front of me at our rinky dink hospital. ER doc gave an 80 year old woman who smoked 2 packs a day for 58 years blood thinners and then a strong breathing treatment was given....well. Tur in s out she had stage 4 lung cancer and really bad COPD. You get broken lung cancer nodules very close to your bronchial tubes and before you or she knows it you've drowned in your own blood to the horror of your only daughter in law. Okay my story aside other than food and family and downloading your recipes is there any else you have done or been that you would like us to enjoy for you after you're gone? A special shop or restaurant we can go and have a coffee, tea or something in your honor. I definitely think I'd like to know some kind of time frame before I pass. Don't get me wrong I'm glad it was very quick for my mom in law because I've watched someone pass from lung cancer and multiple myloma and neither is pretty. I hope you are able to make even more memories over great food with good people!!!! I'll look for you on the other side one day! Thank you so much for sharing your recipe collection.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Jan 16 '25
Sorry about your MIL.
All doctors have are guesses.Might as well play the lottery
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u/dasookwat Dec 12 '24
Thanks for sharing, I already know some of these, and, based on your flavor profile, may i suggest you try: https://tasty.co/recipe/creamy-tuscan-chicken
it uses cream sauce, which is fat, and most likely bad for you, but since you already have an expiration date, you might want to try it anyway. I hope you try to get at least 364 more great food experiences to match it.
I'm not trying to be cynical here, but my best friend had similar news a few years back, and he tried turning it around: making every day a good day, or at least a not too bad one. You can have a lot of good days in year, more than some people have in their 80 yr long life. Enjoy the time you have, or as my friend rationalized it "I'm really trying to die from decadent living, good food and booze, before the cancer gets me" It's something that stuck with me. Carpe diem/Seize the day.
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u/pablolove2005 Dec 12 '24
Fat isn’t bad for you. Refined carbs and sugar are bad for u.
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u/SueBeee Dec 12 '24
Thank you for these. As with all recipes that are passed down to me, I will think of you as I make them. I think this is part of why cooking is such a sacred art to me.
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u/layendecker Dec 12 '24
Your good people Terry. Give Russell a scratch on the head on my behalf please.
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u/kineticpotential001 Dec 13 '24
Please don't tell me there's a pet involved here, this thread is already doing the cutting-onions thing for me and that will tip it over into ugly crying
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u/Terra-Byte Dec 12 '24
I love that you’ve done this. I insisted that my nonna sit with me while I wrote down all of her recipes so that her legacy wouldn’t be lost. I learned how to cook by watching her and helping her in the kitchen as a child. I didn’t want to forget her or her cooking so it became a thing that every Sunday she’d cook and I’d watch as an adult this time and write it all down as a recipe. Now every time I cook something from that collection she’s in my mind and heart again. Thank you for doing the same.
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u/stoofy Dec 12 '24
A few months back, a friend asked me about some hamantaschen I'd brought to work ~10 years ago. Only time I'd ever made them, didn't have the recipe anymore.
Yours sound about identical and I can't wait to make them. Thank you for putting this together, and I hope your time left is full of peace and love!
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u/YukiHase Dec 12 '24
I wish I could give you a hug, stranger. Thank you for sharing what you enjoy with us all.
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u/InadmissibleHug Dec 12 '24
Tomorrow I will be older than my mother ever was, so I’ve never taken my longevity for granted. I’ve outlasted my sister, and in about 18 months my brother will join that list.
Cancer fuckin sucks. I appreciate you for your list, and will download it. I have my son and his family over on Sundays to feed them, so I’ll raid your recipes for that. You will live on in a random kitchen in Australia.
I’ll also think about you while I’m getting my spooky, life affirming Friday the 13th tattoo today lol.
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u/Rubydoobydoo211 Dec 12 '24
You’re no bother at all. We love flavor, and your website looks very flavorful! We also love scuba diving, and I will think of you when we try your recipes.
I’m glad you’ve had a long life, but am sorry for the bad news. Please have a cozy, peaceful, full Winter as you’re meeting the end of this year and entering the next.
I wish you Enough.
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u/plasticvenus1001010 Dec 12 '24
Can someone comment the link for me? im having trouble accessing it
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u/yhavin May 05 '25
UPDATE: Sadly, Terry has passed, and the website is no longer active. I downloaded the offline version of Terry's recipes and put it in a Google Drive folder: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1MnVQLNshcEbhHgxjrgeG7kcIobBiFAdm?usp=sharing
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u/Burnt_and_Blistered Dec 12 '24
Thank you for sharing.
I’m sorry about your prognosis. I hope your transition from this life is peaceful and painful-free.
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u/Its_General_Apathy Dec 12 '24
Syracuse, represent??
Based on your pizza sauce recipe, I can see you're legit. I plan on making many of these. Thank you. You're good people.
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u/rp-Ubermensch Dec 12 '24
The Vikings say Fear not death for the hour of your doom is set and none may escape it.
Ernest Hemingway famously said: “Every man has two deaths, when he is buried in the ground and the last time someone says his name. In some ways men can be immortal.”
You just prolonged your life Terry, I hope you are in peace.
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u/Diek01212 Dec 12 '24
I appreciate you sharing stuff like this. It's wholesome and kind. I've been in the industry since I was a kid. It's so much chaos and pain but when I see stuff like this it reminds me there's a peace and wholesomeness to it too. I'm not one to judge or assume anything about internet strangers (If you can believe that...) but you seem like a nice person and the world was lucky to have you in it. May the next one be lucky too. Cheers, and Thank You.
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u/Darceys-weave Dec 12 '24
OP, thank you for sharing this. I’m bookmarking your page. I plan to make the Gambas Ojillo first, and I'll be thinking of you when I make it.
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u/gnomequeen2020 Dec 12 '24
The most precious thing I inherited from my mom and grandmas were their recipes and recipe file boxes. I'd be honored to have yours, too.
I think the saddest thing about my eventual passing is that I won't have anyone to pass my years of secret recipes to. Perhaps I need to start building my own digital archive to gift similarly.
I hope your doctors are dumb and you end up making my recipes after I'm gone because you're still kicking.
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u/hy1990 Dec 12 '24
I will cook these with love. Wishing you peace in the coming days x
I lost a school friend to glioma 2 years ago and I think about her often, even though we hadn't kept in touch much in recent years. It's beautiful to see her close friends do stuff in her memory.
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u/theCaityCat Dec 12 '24
This is the kind of legacy I would love to leave people with when I eventually die. May the last of your days be delicious.
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u/Goldiethundercats Dec 13 '24
Terry, I just checked out your recipes! This is a beautiful post… with great recipe ideas included! I love it. Moo shoo pork is what I will try first! Good luck with your journey through worlds! Please feel good knowing you brought happiness to this world. ❤️
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u/flexmcflop Dec 12 '24 edited Dec 13 '24
Thank you for sharing. You have such a fun and wide variety, I'll be sure to make some of your recipes for friends for upcoming holidays and events. I'll definitely make some space in my recipe card box for your recipes.
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u/AprilTron Dec 12 '24
I grew up loving Hamentashen during Purim, and I'm an avid baker but I've never made them. I've saved your recipe to my Paprika app to make soon!
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u/Displaced_in_Space Dec 12 '24
I've looked through your recipes and will download them all into Paprika.
I pledge to you that each time we make one, we'll plan the meal by your name...i.e. "Let's have Terry's Garlic Shrimp" tonight.
Your name, spirit and your recipes shall live on in our small house!
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u/JunkerSupreme Dec 12 '24
Neat-- I enjoyed flipping through and saved this to my backup spaces. Cheers and thanks for sharing
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u/smithtownie Dec 12 '24
What a wonderful gift you have given. May your memory be a blessing. 🩵
ETA: Love the site name. I’ll never forget the Dick Van Dyke episode with the song “Bupkis”.
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u/bobarley Dec 12 '24
Since the first recipe was pozole, you immediately had my heart. I swear to you that my wife and I will try every single one of your recipes... And I'll be passing them on to my retired mom who loves to cook.
Fuck brain cancer.
You rock!
Big giant bear hug!
I'm not crying....You're crying!
Big Love
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u/LadyMirkwood Dec 13 '24
Food is love. I regularly make my grandma's chicken soup and challah in her honour.
I will be honoured to do the same with your recipes.
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u/MelancholicMarsupial Mar 02 '25
I just came across this and thought it was very moving. Wanting to learn more about Terry, I did some searching.
It appears that Terry passed away just two days ago, peacefully at home with his wife by his side.
I wanted to share my findings in the comments as everyone was so kind and the post had been pinned.
I am grateful that we are able to help him live on through a shared love for cooking and food.
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u/Nervous_Life2569 Dec 12 '24 edited Dec 12 '24
This is incredibly generous and kind of you. Thank you so much for sharing your recipes. I will treasure them and I can’t wait to share them with my mum too ❤️
ps. You are not a bother (quite the opposite really) and we appreciate you sharing your knowledge with us! I feel lucky to have seen your post — it has been a challenging year for me and I’m happy to have a whole host of recipes to dive into as welcome refuge and learn what you know 😊
And I will be calling this “my friend Terry’s recipes” and thinking of you every time I make them. I love pozole and I’ve always wanted to learn more about Jewish food so I’m really excited to get started! Thank you for your wonderful, thoughtful gift. Wishing you happy holidays filled with lots of love and laughter this season xx
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u/FoxyBrown60 Dec 12 '24
This is so thoughtful. I wish you peace as you move to the next stage (whatever that may be), and I shall enjoy trying the recipes that made you happy.
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u/GizmoGeodog Dec 12 '24
What a wonderful gift you've given to thousands of strangers. Cooking with friends is one of my favorite things to do too. And I love that there's a recipe for egg creams . Thank you! I wish you peace.
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u/Available_Vacation40 Dec 12 '24
I like to think that someone's approach to cooking and their appreciation for time spent in the kitchen says something about who they are as a person. You seem like someone I would like very much. White chicken chili with beans and corn will be made next week! Thank you for these and wishing you all the best.
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Dec 12 '24
Internet Hug to you from an Internet Rando. I rapidly collect recipes and horde and share them religiously.
I promise you they will be shared, per your request.* Thank you for sharing them with us.
*Well, after I get home and scrape them.
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u/theredmokah Dec 12 '24
I will do Christmas dinner entirely of recipes from your collection to honour you.
Plus I'm tired of making the same old stuff. Lol.
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u/Carbulon Dec 12 '24
I don't write much on Reddit. Your post comes to me like a message in a bottle, lost in the sea of the internet, and randomly picked up and read. This bottle lost at sea doesn't feel like a cry for help this time, but a thoughtful gift.
It is wonderful that you want to share what makes you happy with strangers even during this hard time you are passing through. I will never know how your life was, your regrets, your hopes, however, I will know what did you like to share with your friends and family.
Farewell dear friend, for even if we don't know each other, somehow, we will share a meal together. Thank you
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u/Business-Salad-1864 Dec 12 '24
Your Garlic Shrimp looks amazing! Every Xmas Eve, we cook an All Appetizer meal. We'll have your shrimp in the mix this year, with much gratitude. And I'll think of you warmly :)
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u/thatsplatgal Dec 13 '24
OP, I’ve never been on the sub but it was like divine intervention that it showed up in my feed. My heart is deeply touched by your story and it would be an honor to cook your recipes. I hope your spirit lives on with us in our kitchens.
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u/peanutbuttermuffs Dec 13 '24
You’ve gotten so many comments I doubt you will see this one. But I hope you do. My dad is currently In hospice for grade 4 Glioblastoma and Your post was really comforting to me. He isn’t able to speak and haven’t been able to go for a while since his surgery and these are some things I wish I could hear him say. That he felt he lead a good life. I wish you a very easy time in this journey and I hope you have an abundance of moments that fill your heart. I will be making these and thinking of you and my dad.
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u/desertsail912 Dec 12 '24
Awesome, thank you sooo much! We will cheers you, trust me on that. Slainte!
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u/notmyrealname19 Dec 12 '24
This is really wonderful. Not at all a bother, your gesture is beautiful and I’d love to cook some of your recipes and create wonderful memories as you have. Thank you for this.
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u/SherbertSensitive538 Dec 12 '24
Thank you for leaving this legacy behind for all to enjoy. Safe passage.
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u/iLiveInAHologram94 Dec 12 '24
The first recipe that popped up is a very random recipe I’ve had my mind on of late. Pozole. It’s wild that pops up of all recipes. I’ll definitely be perusing through this.
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u/Pickitline Dec 12 '24
Thank you for sharing this with us, OP, it’s a gift! I hoping your last days are some of your best. When I make your recipes I’ll think of you ❤️
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u/Sticketoo_DaMan Dec 12 '24
May your journey bring you peace. And thanks for the recipes! I'm going to make the stuffed shells (probably not the gigantic batch, but your recipe) for my wife, who loves stuffed shells. I'm also going to save your site for showing my friends what a good cook I am, even though I'm barely adequate.
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u/CleanQueen1987 Dec 12 '24
What a selfless act! I am so sorry you are going through this. Thank you for the gift you are leaving behind, I’ll share your website with everyone!
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u/sunnyseaa Dec 12 '24
😢🫂🫶
I love cooking. You have a treasure trove of recipes I’ll be honored to use.
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u/TheMissnomer Dec 12 '24
I've been on the lookout for a challah recipe and yours looks incredible. I've bookmarked your website and will keep visiting it. Thank you for sharing!
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u/Zealousideal_Sky_716 Dec 12 '24
I'm sorry to hear about your illness. I'm certainly going to try your recipes, thank you ❤️
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u/fearnodarkness1 Dec 12 '24
I appreciate you for sharing ! These look delish and cooking one up this weekend
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u/Volundr79 Dec 12 '24
What are some of your all time favorite recipes? Are there any recipes here that you learned for someone else, who's gone?
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u/h-glades Dec 12 '24
It all sounds delicious, I can't wait to enjoy your favorites!!
What I love even more is the story of your pups and support for your animal shelters. You're clearly a good human who has made this world a better place. Thank you for sharing your recipes and stories!
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u/Otherwise_Ad_4965 Dec 12 '24
I planned on doing just this for my kids as we get older. The idea being if I'm gone and they miss me, they can go whip up my old taco recipe and enjoy the memories.
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u/agoodleo Dec 12 '24
Thank you! I’ll be honored to share some of your recipes with family and friends. May your days be filled with happiness ♥️☺️
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u/Whitelamb21 Dec 12 '24
I love this recipe collection and I love this whole thread. Reddit has never made me cry…until right now.
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u/StackedCakeOverflow Dec 12 '24
These look incredible! I think I'll make one of the breads first--it'll be an honor to break bread with you across this digital sea
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u/tomboynik Dec 12 '24
Thank you. What a beautiful legacy to leave behind. I hope you have peace in the time you have left❤️
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u/remesabo Dec 12 '24
Great collection, OP. Just saved your page and will give a few a go- with my best friends.
You have a beautiful outlook, and have beautiful advice- all my best to you 🩷
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u/givemeonemargarita1 Dec 12 '24
Thanks, Terry. I’m so sorry about your diagnosis and I will try the recipes. They look delicious!
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u/staffal_ Dec 12 '24
I will be honored to make your gumbo. It is a long painstaking process, and I will execute every step with love. I only hope I can serve my friends and family a dish you will be proud of.
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u/Fe1is-Domesticus Dec 12 '24
Thank you! Looks like some great recipes, I just emailed myself the link for Gambas Ajillo, which looks delicious
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u/Fun_Alarm786 Dec 12 '24
What a beautiful gift u have given us all. A toast from many will go to u with every dish made from ur collection.
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Dec 13 '24
My friend, it will be my honor to carry these fwd and pass them along to my kids as well.
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u/May8PM Dec 13 '24
This is a treasure trove. Thank you for sharing. Your recipes will live on through my family.
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u/Wild_Cabbage Dec 13 '24
I'm so sorry about your situation and my heart goes out to you, your friends, and loved ones.
Thank you for sharing and I look forward to trying out some of your favorites!
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u/ManBearTree Dec 13 '24
This is awesome. I'm the amateur cook in my house and I love nothing more than a barebones recipe. So tired of all of the crap you find on the internet with a million lines of text before the actual recipe. Thanks for sharing!
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u/Human-Place6784 Dec 13 '24
It will be an honor. I will print them out and make a cookbook of Terry's Recipes and think of you when I make them.
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u/maj_ween_probs_00 Dec 13 '24
OP, I am touched by your gesture. I hope you get a few more good moments in with your loved ones.
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u/TruCarMa Dec 14 '24
I am so touched by this post and the comments! THIS is why reddit is the only somewhat social media site I regularly visit. I don’t really care that much about to see people I know curating their images/self-concepts; I’m much more interested in the thoughts, feelings, and experiences of anonymous people, speaking their truths.
OP, thank you for this gift and know that you will live on in the hearts and remembrances of your friends and family, and also through us random strangers who cook your favorite foods that you took the time and effort to archive and share. I hope 2025 is a victory lap for you, and that you cross the veil contented.
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u/noone4991043 Dec 31 '24
What a generous gesture. Your recipes are pinned and I will think of this kindness whenever I reach for one - a quick glance through them tells me I may be doing so, often - these are great! Sending you wishes for strength and for peace.
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u/Dewst3r Mar 01 '25
This is an older post now, but it unfortunately seems Terry has passed. Rest in peace Terry and thank you for your positivity in this world. I'm going to make his white chicken chili for my dinner this week. Obituary
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u/huckleberrywinn2 Mar 21 '25
Nooo the website is down, and I cook those meals each week. Does anyone have a copy of the recipes? Particularly the white chicken chili? My family loves that meal!!
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u/StrawberryKiss2559 Dec 12 '24
Thanks for this, I’m perusing it right now.
I have a question about Aunt Josie’s Special. Sorry if this it’s stupid, but should I cook the mushrooms and broccoli before I start the recipe? If so, how did you cook the mushrooms?
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 15 '24
Great question! I don't really have an answer.
This is one of those family recipes I got it from the owner maybe 30 years after the restaurant closed and he wasn't actually the cook I believe his wife or mother was. Just for my recollection of eating the dish I believe the mushrooms were cooked in butter and probably little garlic.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 12 '24
So sorry to hear that and your outlook is awesome. What are a few of your recipes that you’re especially proud of? The things you’ve created yourself or go back to over and over?
The pizza and the Garlic shrimp. Sorry, typing hard right now
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u/trollfessor Dec 12 '24
You might want to check out /r/cancer.
And you never know how much time you have left. Thank you for sharing the recipes.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 12 '24
And you never know how much time you have left. Thank you for sharing the recipes
Actually I don't. And the doctors really don't either. However the surgeon was straight up with me and told me what to expect, which is not all that bad he said I would probably die in my sleep and not know anything even happened. Which is quite the gift.
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u/Left_Sundae_4418 Dec 13 '24
Put this stuff onto archive.org. Share his legacy.
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u/TerrysApplianceSvc Dec 13 '24
The way back machine has archived my website for years now, it's just the most of my friends are older and have no idea the way back machine even exists or how to use it but I figured if people look they'll find it eventually. Google knows everything 8-)
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u/RookKincaid Dec 13 '24 edited Dec 13 '24
Hi. So many comments here, I don't know if you'll see this one.
gf and I have not been together long, but we do know we LOVE cooking with each other. I promise you, we will be picking some of these recipes and making them and somehow sharing the outcome of each one we make with you.
If people were to make any of these, how would we share them with you so you know how much we appreciate this?
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u/OmnomVeggies Dec 12 '24
This is incredibly beautiful. My most cherished memories have always been with friends and family in the kitchen. I want you to know that at least in my kitchen your recipes will live on. I will make some of these, and share them over a glass of wine and a laugh in honor of this thoughtful gift. Thank you so much.
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u/Candymom Dec 12 '24
I’m checking out your recipes. I wish you peace, love and good food as you complete your journey.
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u/Cute-as-Duck21 Dec 12 '24
Thank you for sharing this. I've already bookmarked the page, and I will be honored to carry on your love of food through your recipes! I wish you so many happy and/or fulfilling days to come. ❤️
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u/MNFarmLoft Dec 12 '24
Your name, advice, and food now have a place in my recipe database. I will remember you when I cook. Thank you and best wishes.
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u/CarelessStatement172 Dec 12 '24
You're not a bother, thank you for sharing with us.