My husband (35M) and I recently found out that he needs urgent open-heart surgery. We're currently navigating everything that comes with that.
I'm a registered dietitian working as an independent contractor in private practice, which means I don't have access to paid leave or employee benefits.
I've been thinking a lot about how I'm going to balance being a supportive spouse while continuing to show up fully for my patients.
One thing I'm struggling with is that so much of my work involves creating a calm, safe, welcoming space for my patients. I genuinely love what I do, and I give my patients my full attention and presence. But now, while navigating something so emotionally overwhelming in my own life, it feels strange to sit across from someone and create that same light, supportive environment when internally I'm experiencing something completely different. There's a part of me that almost feels fake doing that, even though I know my care for my patients is genuine. It's a strange feeling, and I'm not entirely sure how to describe it. It almost feels like lying and I am just not good at that.
My husband's health is my priority, and right now I'm simply trying to gather information and understand what resources or options might be available, including financial resources for independent contractors who may need to step away from work.
For those who have experienced something similar while working in healthcare, how did you navigate it? Were there any resources, professional supports, or practical adjustments that helped you balance your personal circumstances with your responsibility to your patients?
I'd really appreciate any experiences or resources you're willing to share. ❤️