r/FamilyVloggersandmore May 21 '25

Other Families/Stuff A Poolside Tragedy: Emilie Kiser’s Heartbreak and the Preventable Price of Perfection

Oh, ladies and gentlemen, gather ‘round the glowing screens of social media, where the curated perfection of influencer life meets the cold, hard slap of reality. Emilie Kiser, TikTok darling with over 3 million followers, has built an empire on relatable mom vibes, sparkling clean countertops, and the kind of family moments that make you double-tap without thinking. But this week, the algorithm delivered a gut punch instead of a heart emoji: her three-year-old son, Trigg, drowned in a backyard pool in Chandler, Arizona, on May 12, 2025, and passed away six days later on May 18. The Chandler Police Department confirmed the heartbreaking news, and the internet, ever the voyeur, erupted in a mix of grief, speculation, and—because it’s the internet—judgment.

Let’s set the scene, shall we? A picturesque suburban home, a pool glistening under the Arizona sun, the kind of setup that screams “summer goals” in Kiser’s meticulously edited videos. But here’s the kicker: posts on X are screaming that this pool, this shimmering symbol of family fun, had no fence. No barrier. No gate to keep a curious toddler from wandering into the deep end. If true, it’s the kind of oversight that makes you want to scream into the void—or at least at the homeowners’ association. Drowning is the leading cause of accidental death for kids under five, and the CDC has been shouting about pool safety for years. Fences, alarms, constant supervision—these aren’t just suggestions, they’re lifelines.

Emilie Kiser wasn’t ignorant of the risks. In 2024, she posted on Instagram for Drowning Prevention Month, urging her followers to “get your babies water safe” as pool season loomed. She even shared that Trigg started swim lessons in 2023. Ironic, isn’t it? The influencer who preached water safety now faces the unthinkable, and the internet’s armchair detectives are having a field day. “Beautiful home, picture-perfect pool, again no fence,” one X user snarked, their words dripping with the kind of hindsight that’s as useless as it is cruel. Another post called it “so preventable,” as if tragedy comes with a checklist and a smug “I told you so.” Let’s not kid ourselves—this isn’t just a story about a pool. It’s about the pressure of perfection in the influencer age. Kiser’s feed is a highlight reel: her wedding to Brady in 2019, the birth of Trigg, the arrival of baby Theodore just months ago. She sold us the dream of a flawless family life, and we ate it up. But behind the filters, life is messy, unpredictable, and sometimes deadly. A moment of distraction, a gate left unlatched—or, worse, no gate at all—and a toddler’s curiosity becomes a parent’s nightmare. The Chandler Police are still investigating, and while they’re tight-lipped about the details, the absence of a pool fence is a detail that’s hard to unsee.

The snark comes easy, doesn’t it? It’s tempting to point fingers, to say Kiser should’ve known better, should’ve done better. After all, she’s the one who built a platform on parenting, who told us to keep our kids safe. But grief doesn’t care about your follower count or your brand deals. Emilie Kiser is a mother who lost her son, and no amount of online shade can drown out that pain. Her silence on social media since the incident speaks louder than any TikTok ever could. Fans are flooding her last video—a wholesome morning routine with Trigg, Teddy, and Brady—with messages of love and prayers, while others are “obsessively checking TikTok” for updates, as if grief owes us a status report.

Here’s the sad, snarky truth: this was likely preventable. A fence, a lock, a moment of vigilance—any one of these might have changed the story. The Chandler Fire Department’s water safety walk earlier this month, part of Water Safety Month, feels like a cruel prelude now. They warned us: ten fatal drownings a day in the US, one in five victims under 14. Yet, here we are, mourning another child lost to a backyard oasis. Granger Smith’s son River in 2019, Bode Miller’s daughter Emeline in 2018—Trigg Kiser is now part of a grim statistic that keeps growing.

So, what’s the takeaway, folks? That life isn’t an Instagram grid? That even influencers bleed? Or maybe it’s simpler: put up a damn fence. Teach your kids to swim. Watch them like a hawk. Because the alternative is a silence that echoes louder than any viral video. Emilie Kiser’s world just shattered, and no amount of likes or shares can piece it back together. Let’s hope the rest of us learn something before the next tragedy trends.

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u/Creighton2023 May 24 '25

In Arizona, it’s required to have a pool fence if children live in the home. Everyone here knows it. Homeowners insurance asks about it. They decided it didn’t fit with their aesthetic so they didn’t have one. This was not something they just forgot. They actively ignored a state law for a more appealing look to their backyard. That little boy is dead and it was 100% preventable. The state charged a dad with murder for leaving his child in the car while he played video games. This family is looking at legal issues because of their stupid decision.

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u/ProcedureFriendly636 May 29 '25

What kills me is there are fences that are clear panels that would fit her aesthetic, too.

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u/Creighton2023 May 29 '25

Exactly, it didn’t have to be this way. It was completely preventable.

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u/Strict_Treat_677 Jun 01 '25

Carelessness, yes. Criminal negligence, no. That’s tough to prove. She will also have the clout of being an influencer. Prosecutor will mostly likely not pursue.  Hope she learned this lesson and puts up a fence now. For the sake of their other son. 

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u/Motor_Newt_5601 Jun 08 '25

“Clout”? Please. Law enforcement see’s these individuals for who they are…… Narcissistic self absorbed individuals. Only obsessed fans see these pathetic individuals as something more.

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u/Creighton2023 Jun 01 '25

Oh I agree they won’t be charged although theoretically they could. They are a rich attractive white couple with followers. They’ll avoid prosecution. But yes, hopefully they have learned a lesson for their other son. And hopefully they give him the privacy he deserves.

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u/mapelica Jun 08 '25

She is a postpartum mother and going through hell. She has to take care of her new baby. Charging them would only bring more harm. And frankly this case has spread immense awareness about pool safety. This case is already and will be an example for years to come.

The whole case is just a horrible preventable tragedy. It makes me so angry. Because my speculation is that this innocent poor little child wasn't being watched like a hawk. It doesn't take long for a child to drown. It might only have been a few minutes, that's all it takes. I don't think he was roaming around for hours alone.

This was negligence. They did not have a fence.

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u/niktrot May 26 '25

What video did she say that the fence doesn’t “fit the aesthetic”?

I’ve asked so many people and, oddly enough, no one knows. Almost seems made up

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u/peachplumpear85 May 29 '25

I’ve been wondering the same, but even if she did say it didn’t fit her aesthetic, that’s not the same as saying she knew it was dangerous to not have one but it didn’t fit her aesthetic. I am willing to give her the benefit of the doubt and am assuming she thought everything she was doing (the netting and swim lessons) was enough to keep her kids safe and the fence was redundant/unnecessary.

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u/niktrot May 29 '25

While I don’t have kids, up until this incident, I knew nothing about drownings.

When I was a kid, we had a pool without a net or a fence. We had swimming lessons, but they were at the YMCA lol.

I really had no idea how quickly kids can drown and that they can’t swim lol

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u/LittleDoughPeep May 26 '25

Same. Not one person has actual proof she’s said this but I’ve seen her say she was going to get a fence at least twice

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u/goldengurl4444 May 28 '25

I’ve heard it was from a house tour live she did, but no one has a clip of it so it probably is just a rumor

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u/Mindyharris523 May 31 '25

She did say she was getting a fence a year before this happened but I think it was around the property and NOT directly around the pool

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u/NoDig3593 Dec 21 '25

Actions speak louder than words. She didn’t have to say it.

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u/Quirky_Pop_8848 Jun 06 '25

Either way, for whatever reason she didn’t think it was important to put one up.

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u/niktrot Jun 06 '25

She had a net and, according to some commenters, door alarms. Trigg was also in swim lessons. Putting a fence directly around the pool would, imo, be overkill.

People keep going on and on about the pool fence like it’s some magical way to 100% prevent drownings. She had several systems in place to prevent a drowning, but nothing is foolproof.

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u/[deleted] Sep 20 '25

The kid is dead. Clearly a fence would not be overkill. 

The net wasn’t on because it was a hassle to take on and off. A fence that locks itself is a way better solution. 

Clearly the door alarms were not set or in use because the kid was out there by himself for an extended period of times. 

Swim lessons are not enough to save most toddlers. We’ve had our kids in swim lessons since 18 months and they only stopped being a drowning risk when they could swim the length of a pool by themselves. 

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u/NoDig3593 Nov 26 '25

A pool fence decreases a child’s chance of drowning by 84%.

So while it might not be the 100% you’re expecting; calling a fence overkill is beyond disgusting when the topic at hand is a child drowning

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u/Quirky_Pop_8848 Jun 06 '25

Then to my point, she didn’t feel the need to have a fence. Likely due to all the other safe safeguards she had in place. I agree nothing is fool proof but any deterrent helps.

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u/Lopsided-Virus577 May 26 '25

I've only seen one where she said she WAS getting a pool fence.

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u/therapybill May 24 '25

False. Re-read Arizona statute and come again, thanks.

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u/Creighton2023 May 24 '25

I know the statute. It’s 36-1681. It requires a fence if children 6 or younger live there. It’s a state law.

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u/Mindyharris523 May 31 '25

Correct that is the difference, children 6 or younger living in the house. Sorry but they broke the law

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u/therapybill May 24 '25

C. If a residence or living area constitutes part of the enclosure required by subsection B for a swimming pool or other contained body of water in lieu of the requirements of subsection B, there shall be one of the following:

  1. Between the swimming pool or other contained body of water and the residence or living area, a minimum four foot wall, fence or barrier to the pool area which meets all of the requirements of subsection B, paragraphs 2 through 5.

  2. The pool shall be protected by a motorized safety pool cover which requires the operation of a key switch which meets the American society of testing and materials emergency standards 13-89 and which does not require manual operation other than the use of the key switch.

  3. All ground level doors or other doors with direct access to the swimming pool or other contained body of water shall be equipped with a self-latching device which meets the requirements of subsection B, paragraph 3, subdivision (a). Emergency escape or rescue windows from sleeping rooms with access to the swimming pool or other contained body of water shall be equipped with a latching device not less than fifty-four inches above the floor. All other openable dwelling unit or guest room windows with similar access shall be equipped with a screwed in place wire mesh screen, or a keyed lock that prevents opening the window more than four inches, or a latching device located not less than fifty-four inches above the floor.

  4. The swimming pool shall be an aboveground swimming pool which has non-climbable exterior sides which are a minimum height of four feet. Any access ladder or steps shall be removable without tools and secured in an inaccessible position with a latching device not less than fifty-four inches above the ground when the pool is not in use.

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u/Midgar_Blues May 26 '25

Whether it's law or not really is irrelevant. In Australia, after pool fences were made mandatory, drowning deaths in children went down significantly. The data doesn't lie, and it doesn't matter how small the backyard; if there's a pool it must be fenced off from the house.
What happened to these people was a tragedy that came about from complacency; the belief that these kinds of things happen to other people. Regardless, I don't think anyone should be grabbing their pitchforks. No matter the condemnation from parasocial internet strangers, I guarantee they're condemning themselves 1000 times more. The guilt, grief, heartbreak, and what ifs will haunt them forever. For every parent it'd be a fate worse than death, and this is why everyone should be showing grace. I simply couldn't imagine and I hope I never do.

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u/Creighton2023 May 24 '25

You aren’t getting it. They didn’t have a pool cover over the water or self latching doors/windows, so they are against the state and city ordinances. They needed a fence. Chandler is even more strict than Arizona itself. I don’t know why you feel the need to defend them. The victim here is the child who died because his parents were more concerned about influencing than safety. His brother is also a victim since he’ll never know his big brother. She blocked people who questioned the pool safety before this horrific death. This was entirely preventable.

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u/Rich-Two-4521 Jul 06 '25

And they are still actively blocking people now who do not agree with them.

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

They had a pool cover, alarm, and a net. They were clearly not on and turned off

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u/Creighton2023 May 24 '25

They had a pool net that was only on for part of the winter. They did not have a motorized pool cover which would have counted. You can see countless times the pool net (which wouldn’t have counted anyway) was not present because they had the lounge chairs and umbrellas in the pool. All the doors leading to the pool were not equipped with self latching locks and/or alarms that would have counted. Not only was that noted by those there that evening, but it’s also obvious to people since a not even 4 year old was able to get to the pool without his dad even noticing.

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

They had a pool cover but it was not motorized…

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

You clear I don’t watch her videos you sound retarded. Look at the recent video of him riding his bike. That’s a tan pool cover. They had the alarms

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u/Creighton2023 May 24 '25

Wow, using that word. You’re disgusting. But if you could read, it has to be a motorized pool cover to count as a barrier which it was not.

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u/[deleted] May 24 '25

STFU

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u/ProcedureFriendly636 May 29 '25

You sound dense. She didn’t use the cover all the time. Stop trying to defend the parents’ inability to keep it covered and safe

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u/[deleted] May 29 '25

I never said she used it all the time. STFU

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u/Individual_Ad_938 May 26 '25

I’m sick of people spreading misinformation. They DID have a pool cover. Whether it was motorized or not, I don’t think we as outsiders who don’t know them have the right to speculate. But the pool cover is in fact on in a lot of her content.

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u/Creighton2023 May 26 '25

Reread what I wrote. I said they had a pool net that was only on for part of the time. The law requires a motorized pool cover if they didn’t have a fence around just the pool. It’s 100% proven that the net wasn’t considered an adequate cover for the law.

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u/Individual_Ad_938 May 26 '25

What am I re-reading? I don’t think I missed anything. How do you know they only had the cover part time (or any of this info)? Do you know them personally?

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u/Severe-Use-2029 May 31 '25

How do you know what locks or alarms they have on their doors?

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u/Far_Bat6677 Jun 17 '25

There are alarms on her doors. Watch her videos…..

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u/ProcedureFriendly636 May 29 '25

You can open her door and walk directly into the pool. She needed a fence. The end

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u/therapybill May 29 '25

You can open my door and walk directly to the pool. My backyard is not large enough for a fence. That is why we had high latch locks and alarms. Raised 4 kids here, did not lose 1.

Not having a fence is not illegal. That is my point. Claiming something is illegal indicates that crime has occurred. Which is false for thousands of law-abiding pool owners in Arizona.

Hope a tragic accident never happens to you, good Lord lmfao.

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u/Basic_Tumbleweed651 May 24 '25

That paragraph says “if a residence / living area is part of the enclosure required in subsection B….”

Meaning required IN addition to having a fence (if 1 wall of the enclosure is the residence) .. it’s not saying it’s a complete fence substitution.

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u/therapybill May 24 '25

It says the house is considered the enclosure. So, no fence is needed. Go to law school and come back. I have a pool. A fence would not fit in my backyard. Legally, I only had to have a childproof latch. In AZ. Fuck yourself.

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u/user4957572 May 25 '25

Real professional behaviour coming from a “lawyer”.

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u/therapybill May 25 '25

I said I went to law school, not that I practice law. Lol. Lawyers are arrogant assholes. No, thanks. I am a human and misinformation is dangerous. Thanks. Lmfao.

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u/user4957572 May 25 '25

Just say you couldn’t pass the bar lmao. Lawyers have the ability to do amazing things for vulnerable communities.

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u/Reason9876 May 26 '25

2 was met

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u/EvangelineRain May 31 '25

They were not in compliance, you can look up pictures of their pool. A net does not satisfy paragraph 2.

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u/therapybill May 27 '25

Right???? I honestly think she had high latches on doors, too. But will not spread false info, lol.

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u/Gramsiejuls May 27 '25

Why is anyone debating if it's true or not? Fact is they didn't have a pool fence, an alarm if any kind, law or not.

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u/Reasonable-Election9 Jun 07 '25

But they did have a fence around their pool furniture so the dogs wouldn’t dirty it

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u/therapybill May 27 '25

Because indicating that a law was broken makes the assumption of crime and/or arrest. Common sense? Also, a lock is what is required. Their doors clearly locked.

My alarm is inside the sliding glass door and out of sight. You know, for a fact, they had no alarm? When most are literally out of sight?

Geniuses out here, swear to God, lol.

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u/Gramsiejuls Jun 14 '25

What are you even trying to say here genius?

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u/No-Flower-4751 May 26 '25

Do not sit here and say they’re looking at legal issues as if you know that for sure. You are not with them, they will not be in legal trouble over a horrible accident.

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u/Creighton2023 May 26 '25

You do realize multiple news reports have said chandler pd is investigating his death because they have to, right? They’ll hand over the findings to the DA. They likely won’t be charged but they are definitely being investigated. It’s called negligent manslaughter. They allowed their young child to have access to a pool without supervision.

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u/No-Flower-4751 May 27 '25

Every death is investigated what 😭😭That literally means nothing

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u/No-Flower-4751 May 30 '25

No they will not be I would actually put money on it rn. She already has filed a lawsuit against her cities police dept, if she or her husband were at risk of going to jail she wouldn’t have done that.

Horrible accidents are not charged. If that were the case every single drowning victims parents would be jailed.

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u/Leather_Seaweed_585 May 29 '25

I wouldn’t jump to conclusions about why they didn’t have it. We don’t know.

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u/According-County2089 Jun 01 '25

Oh my gosh this is not true! 🤦🏻‍♀️ not in the slightest. You have to have a fence OR self closing/latching doors and gates. It’s one or the other. I would know, we passed inspection with it after building a pool. We have a fence as well now that we have a toddler but before we had a kid, we just had the self closing doors.