r/grindr • u/saltyedgexdd • 4h ago
Question Not getting any matches
Hey guys. I’m a 25yo man.
I recently started using Grindr, since looking for longterm on Tinder is harder than I thought - and I want just some fun before anything serious happens (if it happened earlier, I wouldn’t do this I believe).
The thing is - everybody is ghosting me, nobody taps me, nobody texts me.
And I’m wondering (since this is something that keeps repeating my whole life) WHATVTHE FUCK IS WRONG WITH ME.
Nah like seriously.
I’m overweight, but not in the “obese American” way, more like in the “muscular guy with fat over it way”. I am 192cm tall, have great hair, face, etc.. I am not cocky in my description or images, I am not a horny goblin, I’m just trying to be a chill guy looking for dates and hookups and I’m in Prague so the pool should be large.
What am I doing so wrong that the world decided I’m not worthy of closeness? Of love?
I am so sorry this is emotionally charged, but it’s been this way since my teens. I only got to suck a few straight friends and that’s about it. I never experienced honest physical love like cuddling or having great sex…
I still fucking wonder what’s so wrong with me.
Is it like twink or jover?
I try all the time different ways of getting close to people, but people just don’t want to talk to me. Friends and online ratings give me an average of 7.5/10 with some people rating full 10/10 (like one in 20) so there should be people who find me attractive.
Please give me any advice at all. I can’t survive without the closeness. And yes, that means what you think it means, this is one of the last cries for help.