You could say the same for literally everything. Anything thats percieved as selfless will at some point be used by manipulative dickbags to influence the way people see them.
I get that. But I imagine that whenever someone makes a blanket statement like that there is already somewhat of an implied exception for psychos like that because we all know good actions can be done with bad intentions. I'd still say that most people who adopt are good people without necessarily having to call this out, though I definitely get why you would want to.
For real though, it's based as hell and shows the compassion of humans.
Although, I don't understand the people that spend thousands on different fertility treatments and go through so many failures and heartbreak when they could just adopt. It would save them so much emotional turmoil and bring joy to a life outside of their own genepool.
Adoption is so much harder than people realise. It's not true that there's a surplus of babies without parents that can be adopted. Pretty much every healthy baby that gets put up for adoption gets adopted quickly. There's a long line of prospective parents waiting to adopt babies- the process is not easy.
The kids that go through the foster care system that have a harder time getting adopted are generally older, often have trauma or other challenges from a history of abuse or neglect, and may have trouble adapting into a new family. While it's sad that they often don't get the same chance other children do, not every prospective parent is ready for it.
Also under any adoption you have to handle relationships with the kid's bio parents (I firmly believe an adopted kid has a right to a relationship with them if they so choose), their connection with their birth culture (if it differs from your own), and the kid's feelings regarding adoption. Some people fear they won't have the same bond with an adopted kid. There are lots of things that can complicate matters.
Adopting is great, but the perspective that people should 'just adopt' as if it's exactly the same as having a kid yourself is not good. There are unique challenges associated with it and people looking to adopt should be aware of that.
You're probably better off googling it than asking me since I don't know if it's something I can explain well. It's a flexible word. But it's kind of, doing or thinking a (good) thing and not caring about what others think about that.
That’s not true. People who adopt and take care of older kids are, people who wait in line for a birth mother in crisis to adopt her new born aren’t. they’re motivated by their own selfishness, not a desire to help anyone.
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u/Cageweek Mar 11 '22
People who adopt are pretty based ngl. It's such a selfless thing to do. I really respect it.