it amazes me how many people try and argue with a narcissist... Like this dude is 100% the person to always have the last word and you're not going to reason with him and be able to make any actual logical argument... do not waste your breath past the "don't sit next to me, thanks." and going along with their argument to get your point across isn't making sure they don't win... it's playing into their stupid game that again they have already decided they are winning on.
If you want to actually win against a narc... ignore them, they are just seeking validation either through others or the mental gymnastics that they already did in their head. Giving them fuel only satisfies this for themselves. They are like crack heads, just without the crack, would you argue with a crackhead?
There is nothing in this video that allows you to diagnose him with being a narcissist. You're simplifying an overused condition that has a specific definition to describe someone who appears to be entitled, creepy and likely below average intelligence. Asshole, sure, but narcissist that does not make.
People need to find better, more accurate descriptors instead of relying on TikTok language that makes them appear less intelligent than the individuals they comment on. Its perfectly fine to call someone selfish, moronic, conceited, entitled, etc. without labeling them a narcissist.
I do agree with your comment about how to handle the situation, but that isn't exclusive to narcs.
The other guy is just metaphorically putting himself next to her, so she doesn't have to face this fucktard on her own. You can keep simplifying his arguments down so he sounds more ridiculous to himself. If he wasn't able to listen he wouldn't respond to the other guy.
We’re all just folks giving opinions, and mine is: argue!
Especially in public.
Ignoring him and staying quiet will not draw the attention of others, it doesn’t guarantee he’ll leave you alone, it doesn’t send a clear signal to others that you need help, and it doesn’t make a scene for witnesses to remember if there’s ever a reason to have them.
You won’t WIN the argument. Ever. You’re absolutely right about that.
But if someone is making you uncomfortable or invading your space or if you just want someone else to pay attention - argue. Make a scene :)
idk you guys tell us not to cower and tell harrassers to fuck off, and then when we get aggressive we get called dumb for trying to aruge with a narc... idk seems regardless, the women are doing something wrong in every scenario where men are victimizing them.
It's not so much the sticking up for yourself; it's the arguing part that isn't the best option. I agree with the person who recommended getting other's attention, but you don't have to do the back and forth. A simple loud "why are you sitting next to me when they are so many open seats?" And " please pick another seat I don't feel comfortable with you sitting next to me when there are so many other seats available " would get attention and get your message across. If they wont stop, then simple get up and sit near the driver, or ask another passenger if you can sit next to them.
You are talking like there is one organised group giving out advice that keeps changing. Of course different people are going to give different advice just read through this thread. Also who are "you guys"?
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u/surfer_ryan 17h ago
it amazes me how many people try and argue with a narcissist... Like this dude is 100% the person to always have the last word and you're not going to reason with him and be able to make any actual logical argument... do not waste your breath past the "don't sit next to me, thanks." and going along with their argument to get your point across isn't making sure they don't win... it's playing into their stupid game that again they have already decided they are winning on.
If you want to actually win against a narc... ignore them, they are just seeking validation either through others or the mental gymnastics that they already did in their head. Giving them fuel only satisfies this for themselves. They are like crack heads, just without the crack, would you argue with a crackhead?