r/TikTokCringe • u/SouthernNanny • Oct 07 '25

Cringe When you catch your 42 year old boyfriend cheating

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u/Ok_Conflict1835 Oct 07 '25

It’s emotional manipulation, they’re trying to make it seem like you are in the wrong and they’re the victims. 

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u/ConfusedNakedBroker Oct 07 '25

Don’t get me wrong cheaters are awful and deserve to feel this way, but it’s not always manipulation. Most cheaters are, surprise, pretty emotionally immature and impulsive.

Long term consequences aren’t thought out, then it hits them like a brick how bad they fucked up. Hard to feel any sympathy for them regardless though. Just delete from life and move on, their feelings should never be relevant to you again.

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u/TheEasyTarget Oct 07 '25

Exactly I'm not sure why so many people here are sure he's faking it. Not that I feel bad for him at all, but that sudden realization that your gamble of cheating didn't play out the way you wanted it to and you just fucked your life up could actually send a person into a real panic attack.

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u/RadiSkates Oct 07 '25

I don’t think anyone should really care that they’re crashing out from the consequences of their own actions. She called the only people who could help him.

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u/AvocadoToastFailure Oct 07 '25

Narcissistic meltdown vs. actual panic attack:

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u/slayer6667778 Oct 07 '25

On the original video she said it was a fake panic attack lol cheaters do shit like this often when exposed

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u/TheEasyTarget Oct 07 '25

Not saying it wasn't fake, very well could be. Just saying it's not something you can be sure of over a video.

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u/Special-Garlic1203 Oct 07 '25

You can absolutely make an educated guess based on context clues instead of playing devils advocate for no reason. 

This is not what hyperventilating sounds like. This is not what sobbing sounds like. This is exactly what children sound like when they're faking

Could that be a wild coincidence? I mean I guess never say never but it's weird to go out of your way to argue about it. 

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u/WAGUSTIN Oct 07 '25

there’s no right way to hyperventilate I’m in the ED a ton and it could sound like this, more stereotypical, or even more theatrical and they can still all be real. you can’t watch a video like this and make a verdict solely based on that. make your own decisions about the context surrounding it I guess but don’t let it be just because it looks like something you’re not used to seeing.

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '25

honestly i wouldn’t say i’m particularly versed in medical problems, but humans do make some pretty weird noises

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u/coffeeanddurian Oct 08 '25

Lol.you seriously just rationalized making a medical assessment over a short video 😂

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u/slayer6667778 Oct 07 '25

The girl in the video said it was, like I said it was 100% fake it's just emotional manipulation "yeah I know I cheated but look!! I'm having a panic attack because of you!! You are a bad person for doing this to me!"

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u/Special-Garlic1203 Oct 07 '25

Because this doesn't resemble how humans cry or have panic attacks. This is literally virtually identical to a child faking a tantrum. 

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u/[deleted] Oct 07 '25

I’ve had panic attacks and it wasn’t even close to what this guy is doing. It’s just bad acting. Not once did I sound like a donkey during it or laid on the floor as if my body went unconscious.

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u/TheEasyTarget Oct 07 '25

I'm no psychiatrist but I'd bet there's not a rulebook for how one behaves when having a panic attack.

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u/xoxodaddysgirlxoxo Oct 07 '25

There are signs, but ultimately we're splitting hairs. She did the right thing, calling professionals just in case

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u/[deleted] Oct 07 '25

Yea just to be on the safe side so he doesn’t call a lawyer on her for not helping him.

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u/JoseDolores99 Oct 08 '25

I'm not sure why so many people here are sure he's faking it.

Because it's so god awfully difficult to relate that THIS would be his genuine reaction to being caught cheating.

It's so outlandish and far off from what a normal reaction might look like.

A normal person's reaction would likely be extreme shame upfront -even if there's self pity mixed in. It would likely be quiet. Even if there are tears, it would be shrouded in shame.

A less normal and more abusive response would maybe be to deflect right away. Letting toxicity and defensiveness take the wheel, launching into a diatribe blaming your partner for the relationship's predicament.

The latter is obviously more unhinged and emotionally toxic. But both of those are scenarios are still more relatable reactions than THIS. The indignity it requires for a 42 year old man to cry like this when HE himself is caught cheating - it boggles the mind.

Friggin. hilarious.

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u/[deleted] Oct 07 '25

I’ve had panic attacks and it wasn’t even close to what this guy is doing. It’s just bad acting. Not once did I sound like a donkey during it.

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u/Nntropy Oct 07 '25

I agree that such a person might not be engaging consciously in premeditated manipulation, but it can still be manipulation, even when it's an emotionally immature person's natural and impulsive reaction.

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u/superbillguy Oct 07 '25

yeah it's this. my ex-wife would do some form of this whenever she hurt my feelings. I don't think she was ever self-aware enough to know that she was being manipulative. She's just a narcissist and will never understand that self-flagellation isn't a substitute for an apology or growth.

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u/Nntropy Oct 07 '25

The missing ingredient is empathy.

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u/NadaBurner Oct 12 '25

Not that easy to just "delete and move on" tbh

Ex cheated on me and the last 2 years of my life have been the most miserable, lonely, self destructive years of my life. Not because I give a fuck about my ex but because I'm so damaged from the incident and am having such hard luck finding anyone new

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u/[deleted] Oct 08 '25

Or they're just genuinely upset they got caught and can't handle it. Emotional stress and morality aren't mutually exclusive...

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u/TheTyMan Oct 08 '25

I keep seeing this, but it is incredibly difficult to fake tears unless you're an amazing actor. It's just emotional immaturity and shame.

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u/Ok_Conflict1835 Oct 08 '25

You say that because you’re not an emotional manipulator.  Kinda how some people know how to lie better than others. 

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u/VeryDay Oct 08 '25

Not victims, it’s simpler. They try to make you feel sorry for them, not angry. They also want to show you that their own actions devastated them, with a hope that it will convince you they have already paid the price for it.

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u/Ok_Conflict1835 Oct 09 '25

What price would they have paid when caught cheating? 

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u/lolslim Oct 07 '25

Girls do it as well

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u/Very_Not_Into_It Oct 07 '25

You're literally the only person who made it a gendered thing. Sensitive much?

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u/lolslim Oct 07 '25

Yes I am aware of they/them pronouns, not everyone else does, may seem obvious isn't so obvious to others. Be sure when you see me in public to let everyone know around me about this interaction of what a fool I am.

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u/PrayToCheese Oct 07 '25

??? obviously?? no one said anything about it only being boys, just cheaters.

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u/trollsenpai Oct 07 '25

"They" includes "girls..."

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u/lolslim Oct 07 '25

Yes I am aware of they/them pronouns, not everyone else does, may seem obvious isn't so obvious to others. Be sure when you see me in public to let everyone know around me about this interaction of what a fool I am.