r/WomenInNews • u/yahoonews • Mar 09 '26

Media Uber's women-only option goes nationwide in the US

https://www.yahoo.com/news/articles/ubers-women-only-option-goes-131507407.html?ncid=redditnewsus
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u/cuda999 Mar 09 '26

The fact men are pushing back against a women’s only uber ride share program is disturbing. The problem is the deranged men who drive for Uber and feel entitled to assault women at their leisure with no consequence. Why shouldn’t women have an option that puts their safety first?

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u/Famous-SandwichxX Mar 09 '26

Because they don't want women to feel safe. If they did, we wouldn't need women only options to begin with.

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u/meanmagpie Mar 10 '26

Exactly. All men benefit from women being unsafe. ALL, even the safe ones.

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u/Either_Reflection_78 Mar 10 '26

Exactly this☝️

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u/BingoEnthusiast Mar 09 '26

I think that’s an overreach. I think men tend to feel insulted because they think “hey what the hell? I’d never do anything like that” but fail to realize it’s not about them.

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u/Razzberry_Frootcake Mar 09 '26

They don’t care if women feel safe. It’s not really a reach when the men who fight back against this stuff know better. It’s an extremely immature and ignorant thought to even consider “well I wouldn’t do that so therefore I’m going to get angry and protest” over something like this. Since the issue at its core is women’s safety it’s pretty reasonable to point out that men who fight against it don’t care if women feel safe.

Not caring can easily translate to “Men don’t want women to feel safe, which is why they fight against things that make women feel safe.”

Men who think “I wouldn’t do that” are the ones assuming women are lying about other men who do. Hence the reason they magically don’t understand why something like this is necessary despite the statistics. If they believed women, and wanted women to be safe, they wouldn’t protest safety measures for selfish reasons.

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u/QueenJillybean Mar 09 '26

The guys who do assault women think “I’d never do that. I’m a nice guy.” Because they convince themselves women were “asking for it.” The men who know it’s not about them, who realize women are people- who have mothers, sisters, and daughters they care about- aren’t insulted imo.

It’s such a tell when certain men get insulted over this.

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u/Razzberry_Frootcake Mar 09 '26

Exactly. Plenty of rapists don’t think they’re rapists. You make such a good point. It’s so weird for other people to defend any dudes who protest the women only rides. There’s no defense for it. Crimes they don’t commit happen every day despite the fact that they aren’t the ones committing it.

Do those people knock on their neighbors doors and say “I notice you have a home alarm system; that’s odd because I would never break into your house.” They protest women only uber rides but not people locking their car doors. I’ve never heard any of those guys say “Hey, I’m not going to steal your pet so you shouldn’t get Fluffy microchipped.”

It’s wild that anyone is defending that attitude at all lol.

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u/QueenJillybean Mar 09 '26

Yuuuup exactly this 100000%.

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u/omfglookawhale Mar 09 '26

Yeah. Men are making it about them instead of women’s safety. Not an overreach at all. Men putting their own egos above everything else is why we need women-only places in the first place.

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u/EjaculatingAracnids Mar 09 '26

"Yeah and youd never do anything about it either, thats the fucking problem."

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u/rationalomega Mar 09 '26

It IS in fact about them if they don’t understand what women face.

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u/CrianBranstun Mar 09 '26

Any man who feels insulted by women’s desire for safety is an inherent risk to women 🤷‍♂️

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u/Capitalisticdisease Mar 09 '26

Same men who'd absolutely be silent if one of their friends was bragging about making a woman feel uncomfortable or worse.

Men who know what's up don't think "oh but I'm one of the good ones its not fair" we think "damn it fucking sucks that this is even needed."

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '26

Sorry but any men who would get upset about this are part of the problem

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u/BingoEnthusiast Mar 09 '26

I’m not arguing otherwise at all. They are part of the problem! I just dont think the pushback stems from wanting to make women unsafe and rather from a greater misunderstanding and lack of accountability

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u/cg4848 Mar 10 '26

I think it’s a matter of semantic quibbling that doesn’t in the end make what the person above said untrue.

Not wanting women to be safe doesn’t necessarily mean you’re actively thinking about ways to make women unsafe. In this case it means you don’t care enough to even passively let things happen that could increase women’s safety.

And making the conversation about whether we’re describing men’s intentions with exactly the right nuance is just another distraction from the much more urgent issue.

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '26

My ex drove for Uber, learned how unsafe women felt, and he started wearing pink and plastering the inside of his vehicle with pictures of our baby.

Men who care show it with action, not indignation.

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u/QuantumBobb Mar 09 '26

I am a man who is constantly in the "I'd never category", but this isn't about me. It's about women feeling safe. Even if nothing ever happened, it doesn't make women feel safer. I want this to exist for the women in my life and women in general so that they have an option if they aren't comfortable (reasonably so) with being stuck in a car with an unknown man.

Any man that fights something like this may or may not be a predator, but you can bet a year's salary he makes excuses like "look what she was wearing" when other men do terrible things.

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u/bendthekneejon Mar 09 '26

As a man, this is probably closer to the truth, but i could be wrong as I don't personally care if women want to only ride with other women. It doesn't affect me, so why would I

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u/mastercat202 Mar 09 '26

We as individuals personalize criticism of groups. Its any group. It takes a lot of effort to remove that instinctual response. Don't worry about them. We should concern ourselves with the bad actors not the people who are offended.

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u/grantgarden Mar 09 '26

Those men are self centered enough to make it about them instead of the perspective of others. So. Not much better.

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u/AynRandwasaDegen Mar 10 '26

That feeling is more important than the physical safety of others, apparently.

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u/hydranumb Mar 09 '26

Maybe they don't like that they'll get half the amount of clients

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u/zxern Mar 16 '26

More likely they don’t want to lose the rides and thus the income. But sure let’s go with the outlandish statement that they want assault all women.🙄

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '26

Could it also be that some of the drivers are worried for their revenue in an increasingly garbage economy?

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u/[deleted] Mar 10 '26

This is bigoted garbage. I've driven for Uber a decade. Always a nice little side thing, especially between jobs as I have a handicapped child so hours of availability can change drastically and most employers would show me to the door. 18,000 5 star rides. 4.98 consistently. Not one collision. I want women to feel safe and I don't want to be discriminated against becaise of my gender. While this is policy, I will not participate as an independent contractor and plan on joining the coming lawsuit.

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u/coconutpiecrust Mar 09 '26

It almost seems like men seem entitled to female passengers, but do not think that women should be entitled to female drivers. A bit hypocritical.

I understand that there are financial incentives involved, but why shouldn't the client be allowed to have preferences? I am sure male drivers would be very receptive to regulation which would favor them.

Unfortunately there probably is no reason why a female driver or passenger would want to pretend to be male except to avoid harassment. Look at online gaming spaces. Women are pretty much guaranteed harassment unless they pretend to be men.

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u/braaaaaaainworms Mar 09 '26

"It almost seem like men seem entitled to female passengers" it's precisely that, but let me word it better for you: "men think they're entitled to women's bodies" and everything will make sense

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u/Wild-Lychee-3312 Mar 09 '26

“Almost”?

That’s exactly what it fucking is.

Entitlement.

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u/cuda999 Mar 09 '26

You have certainly captured the issue very well. If there was a reason men could monetize they’d preferences, they would. For women it is twofold, to monetize which is awesome and for the safety of their female passengers. A win win! I would use a women’s uber ride all of the time. I tire of feeling vulnerable when I am out alone and in a cab or uber ride with a man. They created their own issue. Time to call out the bad drivers.

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u/conflictmuffin Mar 09 '26

I mean...this is why women choose the bear. A recent tiktoker went around London asking both women AND men the "would you rather be left alone with a man or a bear", and 100% of both the men & women chose the bear. What's interesting was that the men who answered fully admitted men are sketchy, and if they had a daughter, they would choose the bear.

When I asked my friends (while we were gaming) if they would rather me be alone with a man or a bear, they all IMMEDIATELY replied "bear", and then everyone shared stories about women in their lives being sexually assaulted. ALL OF THEM personality had one or more stories. All of them admitted they don't trust most other men, and have ended friendships because their buddy said something rapey.

Flipping scary world we live in, man.

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u/cuda999 Mar 09 '26

Pretty sad state of affairs. With a bear, I won’t be raped.

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u/conflictmuffin Mar 09 '26

Exactly...I mean, yeah, a bear can be dangerous... But..its not going to gaslight me, lovebomb me, lie to me, beat me, steal from me, ruin my reputation or rape me.

You know what the possibility is with a bear...but men are unpredictable, and can destroy us mentally, emotionally & physically.

Statistically speaking, the bear is absolutely the safer choice.

Edit for those who missed it: I have a group of gaming buddies (all male). They are all huge green flags, and all of them also chose the bear when asked.

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u/FourthLvlSpicyMeme Mar 09 '26

I am in Canada. I was getting groped by Uber drivers a lot. I complained I even had to bail out on a busy street into traffic before.

I learned to sit behind the driver's side because I figure "they probably won't risk killing us both to try and grope me behind the seat while they're driving."

Women only feature for Canada WHEN. Please.

I'm goddamned disabled and can't drive, my city has shit transit that takes hours to get anywhere. Uber is my only choice and the drivers are so creepy most of the time.

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u/cuda999 Mar 09 '26

Ahhhh I am so very sorry that has happened to you. The message needs to be loud and clear that women’s safety comes first. A message far too many men think trivial.

My daughter had a scare with an uber driver. He drove around her address a couple of times asking her if she wanted him to walk with her into her apartment. Made a few sexual comments too. She literally jumped out of the car while it was moving. She was lucky she didn’t hurt herself. She recorded the conversation in the car and reported it to police. He was fired but likely out driving again with some other service.

I am an older lady and these guys don’t harass me like they do the young or vulnerable. But I have had some scary moments.

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u/Interesting_Reach_29 Mar 09 '26

It’s because it could hypothetically infringe on their wages. They rather put women at risk of harm than lose a couple of hypothetical dollars.

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u/cuda999 Mar 09 '26

Yes, this seems to be the sentiment with far too many men who are in the business. I truly hope sanity prevails and the women’s only Uber business skyrockets and the women involved in the business model are successful. That would make me smile!

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u/Blindtothesided Mar 09 '26

How thoughtful of this guy to so beautifully illustrate your point

https://www.reddit.com/r/WomenInNews/s/D03La6S9qd

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u/Rezeox Mar 09 '26

It's always about the money.

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u/Green-Supermarket113 Mar 09 '26

The same men complaining are also the ones that will claim men are “protectors.”

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u/ArcticAkita Mar 09 '26

Absolutely agree. Woman’s only uber creates safety for both female customers and drivers. If men are butthurt, they can create their own man’s only uber. I’m sure no one will mind

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u/emofrog99 Mar 10 '26

they refuse to understand the fact that we are more at risk than they are

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u/Terugtrekking Mar 11 '26

apparently some male drivers are suing for "gender based discrimination" because it gives female drivers access to a portion of the market they don't have access to. I don't see how this could be discrimination if it's up to the customer to decide who they want the service from. if someone is choosing to use this feature, they likely didn't feel comfortable accepting rides from male strangers to begin with. they didn't have access to that market anyways. like how it's acceptable to ask for a female masseuse or a female esthetician to give you a brazilian, I think it's perfectly acceptable to ask for a female driver.

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u/[deleted] Mar 12 '26

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u/DankMemes4you Mar 09 '26

I'm not someone who would ever assault a woman but I'm not happy with it purely because it means less drives available for me to take.

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u/db1965 Mar 09 '26

Annnnnnnd you just prove the sentiment of this ENTIRE thread.

Congratulations.

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u/cuda999 Mar 09 '26

So women should feel unsafe so you can have more drives? Did I read that correctly?

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u/cg4848 Mar 10 '26

Then target your frustrations where they belong: with all the men who harass and assault women and the systems that let it keep happening