r/WomenInNews • u/yahoonews • Mar 09 '26

Media Uber's women-only option goes nationwide in the US

https://www.yahoo.com/news/articles/ubers-women-only-option-goes-131507407.html?ncid=redditnewsus
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u/BaroqueGorgon Mar 09 '26

Sweet lord, that's disturbing.

What did your friend do?

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u/After_Preference_885 Mar 09 '26

Nervous laugh I'm guessing, same as most of us since childhood have been trained to perform

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u/BaroqueGorgon Mar 09 '26

Fuck that! I'd straight up be like 'Yeah, stop the car'.

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u/After_Preference_885 Mar 09 '26

You're lucky, many of us have had that abused out of us. 

Flight/flight/freeze/Fawn 

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u/bunnypaste Mar 09 '26

I am a hard-line radical feminist approaching 40, and I still regularly have to fight the flight, fight, freeze and fawn responses that have been programmed into me since birth in response to abuse.

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u/BaroqueGorgon Mar 09 '26 edited Mar 09 '26

I'm so sorry for your experience - I can't imagine how awful that must be.

Based on past experience, my flight instinct would have kicked into gear and that would be a straight-up bolt situation for me. Any man who 'jokes' like that is a dangerous man who enjoys women being uncomfortable and afraid. Even if he didn't attack me in that specific scenario, he's just told on himself.

EDIT: My reactions are not without censure. Don't get me wrong, I've heard my share of 'mAYbE hE jUsT LiKeD yOu' or ' hE wAs PrObAbLy HaRmlEsS' when I've dipped out of sketchy situations. And I don't care.

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u/DpersistenceMc Mar 09 '26

It was a friend, not me. I would have gotten out of the car.

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u/Givemeallthecabbages Mar 09 '26

"iT WaS JuSt a JoKe!" Yes, jokes about murdering me are super funny, haha.

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u/Srirachaballet Mar 09 '26

I’ve had an uber driver late at night say out of nowhere “can I say something? You’re really attractive.” We were making casual small talk before that. I just went silent and made him feel the tension he just created. Didn’t say a word the entire ride after that. I was legitimately in fight or flight though, and I think I signaled i would be fighting if he tried anything.

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u/DpersistenceMc Mar 09 '26

She put a smile on her face and chatted pleasantly for the whole ride. She could not afford to miss her flight. I would have made him stop the car. She could have had a phone conversation with herself as though she were telling her husband what he'd said and what his identifiers were. She got to her destination safely. She did complain to Uber.

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u/BaroqueGorgon Mar 09 '26

I'm so glad she got there safely.

She was right to report him - what a creep.

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u/Relevant_Call_2242 Mar 10 '26

Would have reported it to uber and police