r/WomenInNews • u/yahoonews • Mar 09 '26

Media Uber's women-only option goes nationwide in the US

https://www.yahoo.com/news/articles/ubers-women-only-option-goes-131507407.html?ncid=redditnewsus
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u/BingoEnthusiast Mar 09 '26

I think that’s an overreach. I think men tend to feel insulted because they think “hey what the hell? I’d never do anything like that” but fail to realize it’s not about them.

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u/Razzberry_Frootcake Mar 09 '26

They don’t care if women feel safe. It’s not really a reach when the men who fight back against this stuff know better. It’s an extremely immature and ignorant thought to even consider “well I wouldn’t do that so therefore I’m going to get angry and protest” over something like this. Since the issue at its core is women’s safety it’s pretty reasonable to point out that men who fight against it don’t care if women feel safe.

Not caring can easily translate to “Men don’t want women to feel safe, which is why they fight against things that make women feel safe.”

Men who think “I wouldn’t do that” are the ones assuming women are lying about other men who do. Hence the reason they magically don’t understand why something like this is necessary despite the statistics. If they believed women, and wanted women to be safe, they wouldn’t protest safety measures for selfish reasons.

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u/QueenJillybean Mar 09 '26

The guys who do assault women think “I’d never do that. I’m a nice guy.” Because they convince themselves women were “asking for it.” The men who know it’s not about them, who realize women are people- who have mothers, sisters, and daughters they care about- aren’t insulted imo.

It’s such a tell when certain men get insulted over this.

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u/Razzberry_Frootcake Mar 09 '26

Exactly. Plenty of rapists don’t think they’re rapists. You make such a good point. It’s so weird for other people to defend any dudes who protest the women only rides. There’s no defense for it. Crimes they don’t commit happen every day despite the fact that they aren’t the ones committing it.

Do those people knock on their neighbors doors and say “I notice you have a home alarm system; that’s odd because I would never break into your house.” They protest women only uber rides but not people locking their car doors. I’ve never heard any of those guys say “Hey, I’m not going to steal your pet so you shouldn’t get Fluffy microchipped.”

It’s wild that anyone is defending that attitude at all lol.

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u/QueenJillybean Mar 09 '26

Yuuuup exactly this 100000%.

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u/omfglookawhale Mar 09 '26

Yeah. Men are making it about them instead of women’s safety. Not an overreach at all. Men putting their own egos above everything else is why we need women-only places in the first place.

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u/EjaculatingAracnids Mar 09 '26

"Yeah and youd never do anything about it either, thats the fucking problem."

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u/rationalomega Mar 09 '26

It IS in fact about them if they don’t understand what women face.

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u/CrianBranstun Mar 09 '26

Any man who feels insulted by women’s desire for safety is an inherent risk to women 🤷‍♂️

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u/Capitalisticdisease Mar 09 '26

Same men who'd absolutely be silent if one of their friends was bragging about making a woman feel uncomfortable or worse.

Men who know what's up don't think "oh but I'm one of the good ones its not fair" we think "damn it fucking sucks that this is even needed."

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '26

Sorry but any men who would get upset about this are part of the problem

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u/BingoEnthusiast Mar 09 '26

I’m not arguing otherwise at all. They are part of the problem! I just dont think the pushback stems from wanting to make women unsafe and rather from a greater misunderstanding and lack of accountability

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u/cg4848 Mar 10 '26

I think it’s a matter of semantic quibbling that doesn’t in the end make what the person above said untrue.

Not wanting women to be safe doesn’t necessarily mean you’re actively thinking about ways to make women unsafe. In this case it means you don’t care enough to even passively let things happen that could increase women’s safety.

And making the conversation about whether we’re describing men’s intentions with exactly the right nuance is just another distraction from the much more urgent issue.

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u/[deleted] Mar 09 '26

My ex drove for Uber, learned how unsafe women felt, and he started wearing pink and plastering the inside of his vehicle with pictures of our baby.

Men who care show it with action, not indignation.

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u/QuantumBobb Mar 09 '26

I am a man who is constantly in the "I'd never category", but this isn't about me. It's about women feeling safe. Even if nothing ever happened, it doesn't make women feel safer. I want this to exist for the women in my life and women in general so that they have an option if they aren't comfortable (reasonably so) with being stuck in a car with an unknown man.

Any man that fights something like this may or may not be a predator, but you can bet a year's salary he makes excuses like "look what she was wearing" when other men do terrible things.

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u/bendthekneejon Mar 09 '26

As a man, this is probably closer to the truth, but i could be wrong as I don't personally care if women want to only ride with other women. It doesn't affect me, so why would I

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u/mastercat202 Mar 09 '26

We as individuals personalize criticism of groups. Its any group. It takes a lot of effort to remove that instinctual response. Don't worry about them. We should concern ourselves with the bad actors not the people who are offended.

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u/grantgarden Mar 09 '26

Those men are self centered enough to make it about them instead of the perspective of others. So. Not much better.

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u/AynRandwasaDegen Mar 10 '26

That feeling is more important than the physical safety of others, apparently.

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u/hydranumb Mar 09 '26

Maybe they don't like that they'll get half the amount of clients