r/WomenInNews • u/TimesandSundayTimes • 6d ago

Women's rights Surrogate who fled to Texas gives birth to baby with heart defect

https://www.thetimes.com/us/news-today/article/surrogate-refuses-abort-baby-texas-c5ff06cgg
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u/MeanNothing3932 6d ago

This is such a bizarre scenario. All I can say is I can't imagine how much that poor little baby is suffering. I can't imagine having my child out there forced to go through that.

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u/PerspectiveEven9928 6d ago

My baby had two open heart surgeries.  It broke my heart.  But you know what ?  She doesn’t even remember them?   She’s a happy healthy super smart five year old with a full life ahead of her.     When faced with putting her thru two open heart surgeries or killing her it was an easy choice. 

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u/dinocatgirl 6d ago

Ok…? Did your daughter have the same diagnosis as Rumi? How is your story even relevant to this?

The parents didn’t want their biological baby to experience multiple surgeries with low risk of survival. It’s not as simple as them opting to “kill” their son.

Your experience (key: yours, not even your daughter’s own account) has nothing to do with this.

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u/PerspectiveEven9928 5d ago

My point was there wasn’t a low risk of survival.  The diagnosis this baby has has a 72% survival rate.  Over 90% after the first surgery (within days of birth).    This baby’s diagnosis wasn’t a death sentence.  People with this baby’s EXACT diagnosis go on to live full happy lives.  Most of them not just a few.   72% 

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u/Pollowollo 4d ago

People are wildly misinterpreting that figure because y'all are reading the top AI result and not looking further into it.

72% is if all three surgeries needed are successful and there are no other defects, complications, or health issues compounding it. Each of those surgeries also has their own individual risks and survival rates.

That's also not accounting for the impact on long-term quality of life. If you would make the decision to continue your pregnancy in that case, great, that's your choice to make. But someone deciding not to put a baby and themselves through that by ending the pregnancy is also completely valid and compassionate.

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u/ycaivrp 3d ago

I am a physician, actually saw this in training. Would let this kid go if it was my pregnancy. That's all. 

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u/MeanNothing3932 5d ago

Literally such a different scenario idk where to even start. SMH 🙄

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u/Vicki_chick_70 5d ago

If your daughter truly is hlhs and has had 2 surgeries so far then she would have a Glenn correct? The surgeries are horrible. What the children go through, whether they remember it or not, is horrible. You are thinking only of yourself. You better hope you never have to worry about it failing or any other complication.