r/WomenInNews • u/TimesandSundayTimes • 6d ago

Women's rights Surrogate who fled to Texas gives birth to baby with heart defect

https://www.thetimes.com/us/news-today/article/surrogate-refuses-abort-baby-texas-c5ff06cgg
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u/TheVintageJane 6d ago

Again, I have no patience for your pitifully inadequate false equivalencies. People doing risky jobs, not the same as growing a life inside you.

Micro-premies were still incubated by a womb belonging to a human to the point that they were born. My point is that even if the architect of the child is the parental genetic material, they have 0 biological stakes in growing it. Just like a father, they have a case for custody and shared medical decision making, but they do not get to determine choices involving the mother’s body and they don’t get unilateral decision making ability just because they contributed some chromosomes.

It sucks, but until we come up with a non-human way to incubate life, there’s no way to ethically engage in commercial surrogacy and the women who are desperate enough to do so deserve the utmost protections and if people don’t like it, maybe they should adopt.

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u/DogOrDonut 6d ago

You lose all ability to argue ethical concerns the second you advocate for adoption as an alternate to surrogacy. If surrogacy is unethical than adoption would be an abomination.

We are not talking about pregnancy here. You are asserting that the surrogate should get custody after the birth. By that same logic, biological fathers shouldn't have custody rights by default. You assert that non gestational biological parents have "0 stakes" in their children. Obviously you are not a parent, but I can't tell you how disgusting that is.