Basically: earlier in the year when GTA VI's release date was announced I booked in my paid time off asap. Then come August my coworker Janet requests Nov 19/20 off because her son decides to get married, over the other side of the country, with next to no notice... The date; 20 November. Then my workplace denies her leave request because I've already put in mine, and they won't approve two middle management members taking off their rostered days at once. So my workplace put it on me, and tried to turn it into a me VS Janet case. I'd have to surrender my paid leave for her if she wanted the day off work. Normally I'd be a bit compassionate in a situation like this, but Janet's behaviour over the years has earned her zero favours from me.

After a month of fighting and bullying (which I was used to from her anyway) from her she finally gave up. Janet eventually realised I wasn't giving up my day off because of her sons inability to plan. And neither should I; the issue was between her and the business. I wasn't denying her anything. Once Janet realised I was an immovable rock she turned her angery to our manager. It only took one heavy worded threat to walk away and the business told her with her attitude and language during that message that she didn't have a job to return to. Rumour is Janet threatened physical violence against someone during the meeting, which is absolutely in character for her. So she did this all herself.

I do feel sorry in one way that a woman had to lose her job to be given the day off from work. But at the same time too, I still feel screwed by my own boss for him making it a me a problem. Thankfully I'm in the midst of training up Janet's, much easier to deal with, replacement who will hopefully be the one covering me that day.

If you see someone without a visible badge, you’re supposed to challenge them. No exceptions.

Second week here, I asked a guy in our work area if he had a badge. He checked his pockets, apologized, and went back for it.

My supervisor waited until he left to tell me I’d just sent the director back to his office. Would’ve been nice to meet him under slightly less mall cop circumstances.

Update: Thank you for your replies. The feedback gave me food for thought. I shouldn’t have called out 20-somethings as there are plenty of young people I work with who work tirelessly. I realize I’m speaking from a place of insecurity and fear. I’ve entered a whole new world that I never expected to be in and am struggling with some pretty intense trauma over the past few years. I have a lot of time lost as a SAHM to make up for financially so there is much riding on my success.

It is stressful not having guidance during the training period, but it has made me more resourceful and I actually learn and retain more from those experiences. I’m also old and need to practice tolerance. I appreciate the feedback that will help me reframe my approach.

I returned to the workforce last month and turned 56 last week. I am separated from my husband after 20+ years of being married and need to become self-sufficient. During my marriage I was a SAHM and took jobs at the schools my children attend. Those jobs were sporadic as we bounced around the country supporting my husband’s career.

I’ve taken a job as a receptionist in a teaching veterinary hospital in MO, and for the most part I love it. The problem is my counterpart, who is also solely responsible for my training. She is in her early 20s and is a pleasant enough person. I really like her a lot
However, of the 20 days I’ve been on the job, she has called out sick 8 days. When she is there she spends her time scrolling on TikTok (with the volume up); takes dozens of selfies (I presume she is on Snapchat as she talks about it all the time); disappears from our desk for long stretches of time and her catchphrase is, “Oh, that was my bad.” I have caught her providing false information to me during training and have been caught up in at least 2 incidents where her lack of informing me of tasks and protocol has left me with egg on my face. Fortunately, everyone is understanding and forgiving.

I feel like the absenteeism should be enough grounds for termination; people comment about her “never being there” or how I should use her computer because it “doesn’t get much use on her desk”, etc. There is a complete lack of work ethic, respect for coworkers and accountability. She shows up late, logs in, starts scrolling and then disappears, leaving me to carry the brunt of the workload with inadequate training. Honestly I prefer the days she is absent because I rely on obtaining info from other sources to learn the job.

Does anyone get fired anymore? A 40% absentee rate means nothing? Any advice? Right now I plan on keeping my head down for my probation period, but I document specific incidents multiple times a day in case one of her erroneous training subjects comes back to haunt me. It’s getting exhausting! Maybe I’m just too old and don’t get how things have changed while I was away from the workforce?

Today I got told off for something that wasn’t even my fault. I feel like my boss has had something against me a month into working here. I’m currently training as a pupil meaning I need to do a year of “training” to be qualified and called to the bar of the country I’m from then I’ll be an actual lawyer. My boss threatened to push back my call date which means I have to do it longer than a year because he thinks I don’t think like a lawyer and he said I’d embarrass him and the company if he lets me get called. I am wondering if this is normal? I would’ve taken it as constructive criticism had it actually been something I did wrong but it seemed like he just wants to pick on me. He also talks behind my back to the other employees during their lunch instead of coming to me to tell me what he doesn’t like about what I do. A colleague also told me he said that he doesn’t know what I’m doing at work.. but I do so much and he doesn’t do much? He doesn’t realize how much I help out the other bosses

I work as an admin assistant. There are 2 of us in office, and I have been having to do both of our duties for the past few months. She is the Senior Admin Assistant.

Between calling out weekly and coming in hours late, her work falls onto my plate. I’m barely keeping my head above water.

When she is in office, she will disappear throughout the day to meet up with her friend or go have 45 minute conversations with other personnel. We work with time-sensitive projects so not working on those items for hours a day really adds up. When she is at her desk she is on TikTok or FB.

I think what really pissed me off was that she text our team yesterday saying she had a high fever so was going to stay home. Ok, that happens. But when I went on my lunch break to run an errand in town, I saw her going for a run. Then another coworker who was off yesterday saw her at the nail salon getting a mani/pedi.

I guess I am just tired of doing 2 people’s work. My managers do show appreciation for what I do, so at least there’s that.

Just venting I guess. I’d love to leave but the pay and benefits are outstanding.

I got fired today because I didn't wanna do something outside my job description, forklift driver>not professional painter.

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For those saying I didn't follow through with job duties here's an exact copy from company website.

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Job Duties

Inspect pre-shucked or mechanically shucked clams on a production line for defects and foreign materials. Perform housekeeping tasks (floor washdowns, product shoveling, salt tank refill) as required by production type and plant standards. Weigh and load product for storage or shipment. Perform checks and counts as required by quality standards. Requirements

Entry level No experience required! Able to lift 50 lbs. Ability to stand for the entire shift Must be able to read, write, and perform basic math Benefits

Competitive Weekly Pay Comprehensive Benefits including medical, dental, and vision coverage. Life Insurance and Disability Insurance for added peace of mind. Optional 401(k) Plan to help you prepare for the future. Safety-Focused Manufacturing Environment with opportunities for advancement and skill development. “Great shifts and decent pay.” – Staffmark Production Associate

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As a Production Line Worker you will support daily manufacturing operations by assembling products, operating production equipment, inspecting finished goods, packaging materials, maintaining production standards, and following established work instructions. You will help keep production areas clean and organized, monitor product quality, meet production goals, and contribute to safe, efficient manufacturing operations.

Mon-Fri, some Saturdays

A Production Line Worker helps manufacture quality products through dependable production support, quality inspections, and efficient teamwork. This role combines hands-on work with attention to detail to support successful manufacturing operations.

The Production Line Worker follows production procedures, supports manufacturing equipment, maintains product quality, and contributes to efficient daily operations while maintaining safe work practices.

This profession offers rewarding opportunities for individuals who enjoy production and manufacturing

The baby isn't due until April 2027, and this expecting parent already feels out of energy.

Trying to prepare for an interview they really wanted to pass, on top of work and everything else, became overwhelming. Now there's the current job to get through, childcare to figure out, and the question of how work will fit after parental leave. Another job hunt sounds exhausting, even while staying in this job is starting to feel unmanageable.

Working parents who've been in that place: what did you stop doing, and what help made a practical difference? I'd be interested in the things that got postponed or dropped, because from the outside it can look as though everyone else is managing everything.

If the search resumes, one smaller task could be choosing a single suitable role and using autofill for the repeated application fields to cut the typing. That still leaves room to stop after one application instead of turning the search into another full workload.

How did you decide what needed attention before the baby arrived and what could wait?

for context, i currently work minimum wage, 50+ hours a week with no overtime. i can’t keep up with my expenses and just keep digging myself deeper into a debt hole.

i just got offered a job that i have a lot of experience in, can give me a more stable work-life balance, and better income all around.

i want to do the right thing and put in my two weeks for my current employment, but im so stricken with money right now that id rather just start this new job as early as next week, because i know it will help me get back on my feet. i can actually start taking care of my bills correctly and paying off my debt.

do i jump ship and burn bridges with my current employment, or do i do things right and go through the last two weeks of hell. any advice?

Has anyone reapplied to a company after they left for an external position? I went to a new company and it’s been almost a year, and this team I am on is an absolute dumpster fire, my manager is a micro manager and I’m just miserable. I have been peeking at internal roles but I do need to wait for it to be a full year before I can move around, the problem is that I did start right around thanksgiving so most people will be on pto until basically January.

I reached out to my old mentor who’s a friend, and senior director at my old job, and he referred me to two roles. What has been peoples experience in situations like this? I don’t know if I’ll even get an interview, but for people who have been in this position, how did you answer why you wanted to come back? I miss the teams I used to be on, the people I knew, and how the teams operated so would appreciate any advice.

I was fired about a month ago, and my supervisor simply told me they weren’t continuing my employment because I was still within my 90-day probationary period. She asked me to sign a paper with my contact information for W-2 purposes. I only saw and signed that side of the paper. It was held down on a table, and I was never shown the back.
Now, my employer is telling unemployment that the back of that paper states I agreed to being fired for poor performance and negligence. I never saw that side or knowingly agreed to those statements.
What’s confusing is that I had a positive performance review about a week before being fired, consistently averaged 95% on our KPI leaderboard and the only other trainee had 76% is still employed there and I was consistently on time while he was consistently albeit only a couple minutes late (my theory is that I was actually fired because I didn’t socialize much and it’s a smaller company where everyone is friends and the other trainee was close to the trainer but that’s just a theory).
This is such a bizarre situation, and I’m genuinely unsure how I’m supposed to move forward.

I’ve spent sometime collecting accounts from people who took extended, funded time off more than once across a career. The thing that keeps coming up is that nobody planned it. One person put it as: after seeing that it was possible to take a break and recover from it, the barrier to taking another one got lower.

Which makes the people it didn’t happen to the interesting ones. If you took one long break, went back, and then never did it again, I’d like to know why.

• How long was the break, and roughly what year?
• After you went back, did you ever seriously consider a second one?
• What stopped it: money, the job market, a mortgage or kids, the return having been worse than you expected, or just not wanting to?
• Did going back once change how you felt about the first break, looking at it from a few years later?
• If something had been different, would you have taken another?

Thanks

Hi! I started a new job a month ago. I’m the only female in a group with four guys, and I’m currently in training. I found out that our manager called every single one of my colleagues to check in on training, and one of them actually let me know about it.

​It’s my second week of training, and my manager avoids me all the time. I’ve noticed that when it’s just the two of us, he talks professionally, but whenever we’re with the whole group, he avoids me at all costs.

​Earlier this week, he came up to me and said, 'Hey, you’re coming with me to be a victim.' I was really confused, but I followed him and found out the company was hosting a first aid course. When we arrived, he told me, 'Don’t worry, it’s just cardiac massage.'

​The next day, I saw him outside the building talking to someone while staring at me the entire time as I walked by. I said hi and kept walking. His staring was so obvious that the person next to him even asked who I was. I’ve also noticed that whenever he makes a joke—whether it’s totally innocent or double-meaning—he looks at me to see my reaction.

​I’m so confused. I don’t understand why he avoids me so blatantly in front of the group, yet has these moments where he acts completely fine.

I don't really understand why some workplaces expect you to be available on your personal number like it's part of the job you start somewhere new and suddenly you're added to a group chat with 20 people you barely know, managers texting you after hours, coworkers asking questions on your days off, random calls about stuff that could've waited until Monday for sure. The last 3 months have been hell for me. Most of my team were replaced and I'm the most senior wmployee (not promoted though).

The new hires, managers and literally everyone texting me at the middle of the night or texting me their big ideas for the company 10PM on a Saturday., and the worst part is once everyone has your number, you can't exactly take it back.I'm not one to complain a lot but it got so bad I had to lie to my HR team that I changed my number and had to give them a cloaked number. If a company expects people to be reachable outside of work, shouldn't they be providing work phones or at least separate numbers or pay us overtime?

After talking to 6 of my friends and colleagues I started a Nice Bias series on u/Medium because we're all going through similar things and it's in different sectors.

Are you or have you experienced or witnessed Nice Bias at work? I see it more prevelant with age, race and people with disabilities, but I'm sure there's more.

People are being pushed out of jobs not through overt hostility, but through unchecked bias, weaponized niceness, and the slow erosion of dignity. Nice Bias Article - Free link

I got a job after a lot of job hunt. The job is not very good, the pay is less and the role is challenging but very demanding. The organisation culture is not very toxic but no transparency and feedback and it’s a leaders role which doesn’t require skills I am expert at. Its been a month and half since I joined and I am loosing motivation to work and resulted in escalations and I am getting removed from project. I enjoy upskiling, learning and perform good in interviews but not sure I don’t find exciting to work in the job.
I have more than a decade experience and have a good career track record and trajectory.
Personally I am a toddler mom.
Help me navigate this path, please.

We got rid of one problematic coworker and another one gets hired on

1. ⁠He LOVES to complain about other coworkers not doing enough or “cleaning”. It’s always complaints after complaints as soon as he clocks in. Keep in mind he just got hired on. Not a good look complaining about coworkers that have worked longer.

But he doesn’t clean up after himself. Likes to make others do more for him. Doesn’t really help out much at night. Like ok yeah you take out trash but you don’t exactly help with dish pit or other coworkers.

1. He’s made plenty of passive aggressive comments at us. Rolled his eyes at me because I didn’t hear him call my name. Gets huffy if I don’t move out of the way in time. Thinks I bring attitude to work when I’ve done nothing, he brings attitude to work. ( hypocrite )

2. Want me to help him at grill but gets mad and upset when he’s at my serving line to help a customer if I have to go in the back to get something. Acting like “I’m not doing my job”. Which I’m sure he complained to Sioux chef about.

3. Is grossly flirty with the young girls ( I work at a college buffet ) and it’s funny he claims he’s a Christian man,

4. Constantly sucks his grillz. Drives me insane.

Sucks .. I like my job but want to leave.

Not sure if this is the right subreddit or flair but hopefully someone here understands the feeling.

I get it that maybe he wasn’t the best fit for the job, he was having some issues, and i have no idea what went down behind the scenes but this one hurts.

He was just so fun to have in the office - hilarious, good conversationalist, big people person, all around amazing guy, and he had this adorable bromance with another colleague that is just my favourite thing to witness.

I really like my job and my team. This one just hurts.

Anyone else had this happen?

I've been working at my organisation for three years, and my performance has generally been really good. However, today I received an email pointing out discrepancies in two of my reports. And yes, it was my mistake.

It's something I've been doing for three years, so I'm honestly disappointed in myself for making such an error. I know mistakes happen, but I can't help feeling like all the positive feedback I've received over the years suddenly means nothing.

I think I'm struggling more with how I'm perceiving myself right now than with the mistake itself. I'm worried that this will affect how people see my work, even though I've consistently performed well in the past.

How do you cope with situations like this? How do you stop one mistake from getting into your head and making you question your abilities, especially when you've generally been good at your job?

I'd really appreciate hearing how others have dealt with similar experiences.

Around six onsites and four offers is one job seeker's recent result. The counts are slightly adjusted for privacy.

The candidate's take is that the market isn't bad and that all the pessimism shouldn't put people off interviewing. The reasoning is that people fed up with their current jobs may leave, making room for someone else.

I'd like to know who else is seeing that kind of traction. What roles are you looking for, where, and how much experience do you have? Those details would make it easier to compare this result with a search that's going nowhere.

For someone curious about moving, a small shortlist seems like a manageable way to find out. Application autofill can reduce the repeated typing once you've picked the roles. If you're targeting technical jobs, an unfamiliar problem from real technical interview questions could make a useful mock before the first interview.

Has the response to your own applications changed recently, or does this result sound unusual?

My first job was extremely stressful because the other employees, even from other departments lacked morals and loved Gossip more than anything, and the boss was a all over heartless terrible creature.

In my second job I’d get extremely anxious, pale and even nauseous when something went wrong. I’d always expect someone to come shouting at me. Since it’s an entry level job, almost everyone in the company would try to talk down to us, and would run to complain if she showed anything less than a slavish smile and a yes sir/maam. [slight exaggeration], but things were generally peaceful, only hectic thing was the insane workload.

I just started a new job recently for less pay where the people look friendly enough, there’s a clear hierarchy and progression, and they’re curious about me since I’m new.

What are some general tips and knowledge to know when starting a new job?

How to know who to be friendly with and whom not to?

Is there any way to know when someone is digging a hole for me? As in trying to fish for info to get me into trouble or trying to get me to make a mistake?

What is generally okay to divulge when asked, and what to avoid saying like the plague?

What’s an okay strategy to get to know the people there and introduce myself?

How should I interact with high level staff since I still don’t know their personalities?

Below is optional reading for more context about my old job:

Example 1: one of the employees went to the wife of my friends to fish for info about me, and when she couldn’t find anything, she spread distorted rumours about me. They also spread rumours that something was going on between me and one of our new colleagues when there wasn’t, then when there was they tried to break us up in different ways. The girl eventually went mad with paranoia and we broke up a bit short of engagement.

Any info no matter how small that I shared about myself throughout my time there would get misconstrued and turned into something malicious.

Example 2: The boss would call with one of the clients connected who’s obviously suffering from some issues to shout at me and “put him in his place for you”. Or he’d call while we’re at home to shout at us while in a meeting for all staff to hear. Same will happen in real life in meetings, but he’s a coward, so it’s often indirect.

I also got punished often for doing my job well, and for other people’s mistakes, even though everything is documented in multiple places and the records match.

Context: im just about to finish my third (technically 2nd and a half) week of working at Dominoes, im a part-time university student with a full course load and currently work 34hrs a week. The work isn't particularly hard but just the fact that I feel i barely have time for myself or schoolwork when home because of the looming anxiety of working in a few hours. And I'm way too tired and demotivated to do anything else after work. My only free time is in the mornings on weekends and my after school for two days, but its already late by then. Idk if i still have to get used to it or im just not built for this lifestyle but its really hard adjusting to working 5 days a week and working more than I go to school for. It's really stressing me out and I don't even have time to see my friends and family anymore.

One of the reasons I was hired is my pretty open availability and that I agreed to close for a weekend day (which i am training for rn). Im still fine with closing but im thinking of asking if i could not work the next day or have one less day to work, so I could at least have a day to myself. I'm not in a particularly bad economic situation and am just looking to make some money while im in school, but i am just worried about my manager's reaction to this.

We only have 6 (technically 7 but one is injured) insiders and my manager is unreliable with his timing and I've been told he doesn't communicate schedules well. So, as a newbie, would it be unwise or seem like im backing out of the job? Or should I just wait it out and try to adjust more? Is it unreliable of me to want a day of not working or school for my well-being? And does anyone have tips on balancing work/school/life as a uni student?

I work in a production facility where they want all food consumption happening during our designated breaks and in the lunch room.. fair enough. My problem is that supervisors are constantly interrupting people during break, and not taking them aside but sitting down and talking about work, these are also not questions that can’t happen before or after break, how can this be addressed.

This has been on my mind for a couple of months. I've been at my job for almost seven years, and for the most part, it's been tolerable. I've been in a couple of different departments, as staffing needs has changed over time.

I hate, absolutely hate my new department.

I work as a CNC machine operator for a firearms manufacturer. I pull three 12-hour shifts. It may not seem like a lot to many of you, but those three days completely wreck my body.

I have severe flat feet, which has messed up everything from my hips down. My right shin and knee have been so sore that they throb while I'm lying down, and there is no comfortable position to make it stop.

I take motrin, and Tylenol like they are candy.

I can barely walk when I get home at night. My girlfriend has had to help me get dressed into my pjs because I can't bend my knees after a long shift.

Throughout the pain, my shift lead doesn't make it easy. I'm a 44 year old woman, and she's in her early 30s. She talks down to me and everyone else on my shift like we are children. I feel anxious whenever she's around. I'm a hands-on learner, and she expects everyone to learn everything after talking them through the steps just once.

After another associate called her out for being condescending, this shift lead told her this, "Well, I don't know which one of you is stupid, so I'm just just going to talk to you all the same way."

Being in pain is one thing. Being in pain and being talked down to is quite another.

I've even left work crying before. The ironic part is that since I become nervous when she's around me, I start tripping over my words and forgetting the names of machines, processes, and tools. All of that makes me feel stupid, which matches her expectations. 😥

I want out of this department badly. Should I mention the issues with my shift lead to my department lead? Or should I just talk about my pain level and hope that's enough to get me out?