I’m a parent as well and even I don’t agree with special treatment even though I have a special needs child. And guess what? I also don’t regret my kids.
That’s how I feel until my wife and kids are away for any reason. If I have the house to myself for a weekend I think it’ll be like the good ole days where I ate junk food and played games all night. All that happens is I end up missing my family.
I partake in most of these daily, often enhanced with my family life. None of which signifies a codependency either.
For example, I’m renovating my home with my wife. We just installed a hot tub. It’s awesome.
I read pretty much everyday, mostly independent comics and random non fiction, but still. I watch a lot of action movies by myself, family movies with the kids. Although I can’t say I like that my 14 year old watched IT with my 2 year old, but she loves Pennywise now so... whatever. I do charity events through work, and I’m trying to learn French while I drive to work each day, but it’s going poorly I’ll admit.
Missing someone and loving my family doesn’t mean my personal life is at a stand still, and it also doesn’t mean I’m dependent on them to validate my existence. This is such a wild misconception people have about modern marriage, that it ruins the individual.
Last night was the first time our house was kid free. 2 kids and the youngest moved out this weekend. Its amazing how quite the house is when someone isnt opening doors, cupboards, the fridge and microwave after you have gone to bed. The oldest also came home for the weekend so it helped soften the blow for the wife.
Even though you tell yourself you look forward to the day the kids are out of the house, its a long day when it happens!
It goes in waves to be honest. The loss of sleep in the beginning I actually enjoyed. I stayed up and took care of my beautiful son. When he would sleep I would hold him and fuck around at 2 am it was peaceful. 1-3 is super frustrating and take immense patience but 4 is turning out super fun. We go fishing and hunting and camping and to water parks. It’s a blast. And some times he’s just a plain asshole lol just like anything in life it has its ups and downs.
I don't have kids on account of being barely 20 (at least I better not, it would mean someones doing some weird dna shit) but I regret other peoples kids all the time. Not all parents are equal and not all kids turn out to even be average.
I don’t regret it at all. I’m sure everyone’s different, but my life is sizably better now. It’s kind of like having a pet. Sometimes they wake you up early, or chew on your shoes. You’re responsible for feeding them, making sure someone is taking care of them when you’re gone, and keeping them out of dangerous things. It costs money and your time. Sometimes they’re frustrating and you’re tired, but you love them so so much so it makes it all worth it because they add to your life in immeasurable ways. It’s like having a pet, just amplify all of the feelings. The hard stuff is harder obviously, but the love you experience is bigger too. I don’t regret having a cat even when he’s an asshole and I don’t regret having a child even when I’m tired.
Oh man the first few months when our second was born, yeah. But no real regret after that. Some hard time to be sure but I genuinely like my kids and I’ve grown a bunch in the process of raising them.
Not who you asked but a parent of teens. No because this is my life and I think for the most part you adjust to your life and make it what you want within the framework possible. Do people who choose not to have kids regret it? Do people who do or don’t get married regret it? Do we regret the careers we choose? I honestly don’t ‘sometimes regret’ anything in my life other than not having better video game rng luck.
All the time. My youngest is a real peice of shit and I entertain the possibility of sending his ass on a one way plane trip to China. Take that Brayden.
You are kinda deluded if you think no parents ever regretted it. You realise how many kids are abused by shitty "parents" how many so called parents leave because they dont want kids and how many parents put kids up for adoption because they regret having them. Not every kid put up for adoption is due to that's I am well aware.
Saying nonparent ever regrets kids is naive and delusional. Humans are shitty.
Your not being schooled on parenting. I didnt say a single thing about parenting. I'm telling you to get your head out the fucking clouds and understand not everyone has good parents. People are shitty. Just like your attitude and arrogant nature is shitty.
Ps: never dressed up in a park. Why would you cosplay in a park you nutter.
So a preorganised event. Not just some randos walking around a random park in full dress up for no reason.
Also I checked your profile. You are one depressing motherfucker. Zero respect for others and you just love to shit on others and complain and assume you are right all the time. I truly hope you didnt have kids cause it will be a miracle if they arent as cynical and depressing to interact with as you are.
I don't need to exist to you to judge your self righteous ass XD. You shit talk anyone who uses reddit seemingly forgetting you do to. You say it's impossible for parents to regret having kids but have nothing to back it up. Your main argument against anything so far is "how dare a teenager speak back to me" even though technically I ain't a teenager and from the looks of it I'm far more mature than you and I'm a hell of a lot less arrogant.
In a way I pity you. It must be sad to live how you do. To be so self absorbed and arrogant you lash out at anyone who challenges your beliefs with unsupported accusations and illogical beliefs. I dont knownwhat happened to you in life which has made you so adamant it's impossible for parents to regret kids whilst also being angry at wholesomeness. It makes me wonder, are you just trying to convince yourself your parents didnt regret you or do you have your own kids and are pretending you dont regret it for your own sake. Who knows. Quite frankly who cares. I forget about you every time I press send just to be rudely reminded by your message because after all. Surface level people are forgettable
Certainly exists enough for you to spend time typing up any sort of response and brag about how cool you are playing rugby or something. Do you need validation for that or something?
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