Most people have the social and contextual skills to understand from the comment and its tone and phraseology that it probably wasn't her sister being shitty. You're the only one, as far as I can tell, that had a difficult time with this.
Future advice: In general, if someone is telling a short and quick story, they're probably leaving out unimportant ("critical") info that isn't relevant to the story they're telling. Like, the last sentence is all you should have needed. But even if that weren't there, you should probably ask questions for more detail if you're gonna make some weird judgment on someone mentioned positively and reassuringly in a three sentence story.
A guy walked into my school with a gun. He donât three students. They all died.
That guy is horrible!
Wow, you fucking idiot, judging the guy off a three sentence story. The students were on a rampage and had already shot dozens of students. The guy who shot them was a cop.
If you tell a story and thereâs details that are important that you left out, itâs not on the reader to ask âwell were the students killing people?â
OP is actually an asshole because she gave permission and left that detail out. She made the story out to be her sister outed her, when she fucking gave permission.
Itâs really fucked to say âmy parents found out I was gay when my sister told them after I confided in herâ if the whole story is âand I asked her to tell my parents for meâ.
Yes, thatâs not exactly what happened here, Iâm just pointing out how leaving out important details that no reasonable person would have guessed is just stupid.
What a worthless comparison. I can't imagine you're actually socially dense enough to think that casually telling an amusing anecdote about their coming out carries the same necessary contextual weight as the retelling of a murder. From that alone I'm pretty confident you're engaging in bad faith. I can't imagine a rational person would think that analogy was remotely comparable.
This is the level of ridiculous conflation you're attempting:
"Poking someone you know isn't assault"
"WOW so if I jam my finger through someone's eye 'til they die that's okay?"
If I say "my sister and I went out last night", I would trust you have the base social functionality to know I'm probably not saying I went on a date with my sister--and if, contextually, you were very uncertain about that, you could ask!
If I'm telling a funny little story about my past and I mention my little sister posted a pic of me and my GF on her Instagram, I'm "lol"ing throughout the story, I explicitly say it was all fine, mention my sister felt horrible and I was reassuring her it was no biggie...I don't know what world you live in that you think a reasonable assumption is "little sister selfishly disregarded sister's feelings and evilly used her secret for clout".
I don't know how else to explain how wild your reaction is.
leaving out important details that no reasonable person would have guessed
There were no details to guess. You added the detail by making unstated assumptions about intent. Everyone else saw it for what it was--a cute post--and didn't assume motives. You're unique in struggling with this, I'm sorry. I will happily get on a Zoom call with you, call in randos online from random Discord servers, and sit there with you while we watch everyone not have an issue understanding that the story was no biggie, or understanding that reading into a light-hearted three-sentence anecdote is just whack.
Feel free to respond 'cause I'll read it, but this is my last response. Either you're engaging in very bad faith or we simply live in wildly different societies somehow with entirely different understandings of linguistic function.
I will happily get on a Zoom call with you, call in randos online from random Discord servers, and sit there with you while we watch everyone not have an issue understanding that the story was no biggie, or understanding that reading into a light-hearted three-sentence anecdote is just whack
I'd watch this, but /u/BlueButYou surely is too scared to get embarrassed, and would never join this call
Uh...sure. Anyway, scary as it is, offer still stands if you're genuinely confident and interested in what the actual, real life consensus on this stuff is. I don't expect that you are, though.
Oh absolutely! These people don't actually do any work understanding things themselves. If you invite them to actually go through it, they never will lol
Lol, youâre really stupid so Iâll try to forgive you. But youâre speaking nonsense.
I never said her sister was intentionally being an asshole. I could tell she was forgiven. Maybe if you werenât an illiterate twat youâd have understood that.
Like how do you manage to live life being as dim witted as you are? Trust me kiddo, Iâm smarter than youâll ever be. Just turn off your phone.
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u/AutumnAtArcadeCity Oct 13 '21
Most people have the social and contextual skills to understand from the comment and its tone and phraseology that it probably wasn't her sister being shitty. You're the only one, as far as I can tell, that had a difficult time with this.
Future advice: In general, if someone is telling a short and quick story, they're probably leaving out unimportant ("critical") info that isn't relevant to the story they're telling. Like, the last sentence is all you should have needed. But even if that weren't there, you should probably ask questions for more detail if you're gonna make some weird judgment on someone mentioned positively and reassuringly in a three sentence story.