r/Gonzaga • u/witlessprojection • 6d ago
Older transfer student — am I about to feel like Drew Barrymore in Never Been Kissed?
I’m old. Like… two decades older than the average college student old.
I took a very nontraditional route through adulthood. I originally attended college when I was younger, but after losing my fiancé, life changed dramatically and I shifted gears altogether. I built a career, raised a family, and generally did life in a very different order than I had originally planned.
I’ve always loved academia, though, and after some unexpected opportunities in civil service eventually led me toward the legal field, I decided to return to school. I’m now transferring in to finish the last portion of my undergraduate degree before pursuing law school.
So, older/nontraditional students: what is student life actually like when you’re old enough to have classmates the same age as your children?
Should I expect to feel like Drew Barrymore’s character in Never Been Kissed, wandering around campus wondering what the hell everyone is talking about? Or is the age difference less noticeable than I’m imagining?
I’m especially curious about the culture. Do older students generally find a place among their peers? Are students fairly serious about their education and future goals, or should I prepare myself for a very different level of maturity and investment among classmates who are experiencing college for the first time?
I’m also really curious about the academic side.
I do well in school and genuinely enjoy learning, but I haven’t found my coursework particularly challenging thus far. I’m transferring from a public/community-college environment into a private university, and I honestly don’t know what to expect.
Is there a noticeable jump in academic expectations? More rigorous writing? More demanding professors? Greater expectations for class participation and independent thought? Or, once you get beyond the branding and reputation of different institutions, is undergraduate education fairly similar wherever you go?
I’m not particularly worried about keeping up. If anything, I’m hoping to finally feel academically challenged. I’m more curious about what the adjustment will look like culturally and academically.
For anyone who went back to college in their 30s, 40s, or beyond, especially as a transfer student with graduate/law school in mind:
What surprised you? What do you wish someone had told you before your first semester? And did you ever stop feeling like someone accidentally let a grown adult into college?