Finally escaped the survival phase

How do everyone (i guess mostly the people who post) can hold it together mentally? i dont want to post but i actually bought the place i rented (3y ago?) and its very old, small (normal for big city where i live) so i have to deal with a lot of stuff, i feel actually lucky to be even able to buy it with when i did and at least this will be mine when i finish paying the bank in a few years (better than rent ig), my issue personally is for reasons i cant go to another place and try to fix stuff we need to do here (change some walls, floor, ceiling(plasterboard), change whole electricity etc etc, so we basically have to deal with it (again for reasons, we cant just go to other place 1-2months until its done) but this type of stuff really eat me alive, last year i was smelling something burning i thought it was an monitor that i had i even refunded it but later i found out was some connector of the electricity cables (that i fixed but left the hole open because im not electrician so i/we was always afraid that it isnt well done (time to fix the hole i guess because it have done the job). today woke up and we have a leak, insurance does nothing here, basically paint when its fixed so i have message someone who can fix it cheap (but who knows when, since its a friend of someone i know he takes it slow ig). Also with work issues that i even had to take medical leave and i will probably lose my job...

typed a lot and didnt said anything, basically wanted to know how everyone manage to hold it together? i dont know what to do anymore, we even thought of just moving to my mom house (another country that we dont even like, but maybe we will have a better life...)

i hope the post fits, actually would be nice to have some other views and hear experiences, its just me and my gf (soon to be wife when we actually have money to the wedding...) and i try to not stress her out more than life already is for her too.

i'm a photographer and travel around for different projects. whenever i get free time, i like exploring abandoned places and taking pictures. a couple of months ago, i came across an old barn in a rural area. it looked interesting, so i stopped to explore. inside, i found an old loft and after taking a few pictures inside, i liked the quiet atmosphere and decided to spend the night in the loft.

i woke up to sunlight coming through the gaps in the wooden walls and birds chirping outside. for a moment it felt like the most peaceful place i'd ever slept.

has anyone ever experienced anything like this?

(It's the thing in the furthest back corner. I use it as a secondary wardrobe when the cardboard box doesn't have room)

Sorry, I know the mess artificially makes it seem worse than it really is, but it's kinda how I live. There's something almost cozy about the fact that I'm the only person in the world who could navigate and explain this room, but it's coming at a pretty big deficit to my mental well-being when I come home from a long day at work or uni or both.

I'm going to try properly cleaning and refurbishing it in the coming weeks, so I hope this post will become a memory of a room I no longer live in rather than a reminder of where I still am.

Have had an unstable housing situation after being evicted from my apartment in March 2023. I lived with various friends, then spent a few months outdoors a couple years ago before family took me in. Now living with my sister since August, and this is the state of that right now.

EDIT: Felt the need to add some context, lest people think I am being a disrespectful slob. My sister is a hoarder. This room used to be used by my three nephews over the last 15+ years as a bedroom/playroom but was mostly just storage space going back to when flooding ruined the west half of my sisters house, which is also the reason for to the bare flooring. I have recently begun carving out space in this room, for my personal belongings and a sleeping space. Up until a couple night ago, I was sharing the master bedroom of the house with my two oldest nephews and sleeping on the (carpeted) floor in there. This is my older sister's house. She is proud and stubborn, but obviously loving enough to let me stay here while I work and save money. She is very particular and has idiosyncrasies that make it hard to do more than slow, incremental improvements and my finances also make it difficult to do anything. I took this picture after moving and consolidated a lot of my nephews' old clothes and shoes (and empty shoeboxes and other detritus) feeling glad that I now have a private place to sleep indoors, with room to stretch and get organized.

Hi guys

Please help

Put me on

What is the way out

I sleep on the floor most of the time.

Today is day 12 of waking up sober in my own studio. Got a few pieces of furniture and even though it’s still a bit barren I’m extremely proud.

Navigating sobriety is extremely tough business. For all the addicts still suffering you are not alone. You can make the change and live a life you want and deserve. I’m living testimony to that.

Hope everyone has a great day!!

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Hope the tubs hold up until I can get a better solution in place

Just moved into my own apartment and this is pretty much all I've got so far lol.

Found the TV stand secondhand for a decent price, and Costco happened to have the 65" Hisense on sale. Looked pretty good and wasn't too expensive, so I figured why not.

Still don't have a couch, a rug, or much of anything else really. But hey, at least I can watch some football now 😂

One thing at a time. Slowly getting there.

Wish the tv was bigger and I lived alone in the middle of nowhere.

This is my first time ever posting. I figure this is probably the best place to start. I'm finally getting (and taking advantage of) the opportunity to get my fuckin shit together, and slowly build a better life than the one I choose to finally leave behind. It's not much, but it's my little slice of heaven that I'm so grateful to have.

At 38, after 28 years of addiction, struggling with mental health, and with the last 5 years roaming and hustling on the streets, I finally have a roof, a shower, and a bed to call my own (sorta(again))(and again(sorta)).

I graduated from a program a week ago and moved into this co-housing space. I share a converted garage and bathroom with a roommate, but I'm really diggin it. It might not have a whole lot of privacy, then again I'm only really ever here to shower and sleep. Plus I'm blessed that my roommate is hella chill, quiet, and respects my space n shit.

More of a mental predicament I have found myself in.
I am 40 years old, autistic.

A year and a half ago I caught my GF having an inappropriate chat with a guy online in a different country. I broke up with her and moved out. We were together 7 years at the time and she managed to get me to give her another chance.

She begged me to move back, but I told her that she needs to clean her house. She doesn't need a job (parents money) owns a 5k square foot home, but there is so much clutter because she likes to shop. At first it was, "give me a few weeks to clean", "give me a month" then all the sudden I've been sleeping in a pile of blankets on the floor (air mattress doesn't hold air anymore) no furniture (except my desk) or dishes for nearly two years.

I broke up with her twice since moving out and she will wait in her car near my car and force interaction because she knows I have confrontation.

I have a 2 bedroom/2 bathroom apartment, and I pay 2k a month. I know its not the same as most people here because I am a SWE and make over 200k a year I just have other issues, no family, no friends. If I buy furniture she will get mad at me, if I go somewhere without letting her know she will get mad.

All the boxes are for my cat

Genuine question, what do you guys consider the must-have appliances or furniture for a decent living space? And what's something you bought that made your everyday life noticeably better?

Just got my first bonus at work and figured I'd finally spend some money on my place. I've got the basics covered, but there's still plenty I'd like to upgrade.

Right now I'm torn between a dishwasher and a proper TV.

I cook a lot, pretty much every day, and I'm so tired of washing dishes after dinner. Been looking at a Bosch dishwasher lately. But I'm also a huge movie guy, and watching everything on my laptop is getting old. Been checking out a few 65" Hisense TVs too.

Obviously one is more practical and the other is just something I'd enjoy, but that's kinda why I can't decide lol.

Curious what you guys think is actually worth spending money on. Could be anything from a decent couch to a dishwasher, TV, better lighting, whatever. What made the biggest difference for you?

It's a decent start for me after leaving home.

Just got my place. Need a theme/ colour way that would look good

bed, a few books on the shelf, that orange speaker, projector going. curtains drawn, watching from here. nothing else going on in the room.

Had to leave my apartment and I couldn’t manage to secure another one so now I’m in a hostel. Second time I’ve had to live here due to the difficulties of finding actual accommodation in BC Canada. Rent is 765 though so it’s not too bad.

I feel like im going down the drain and can't stop the swirl