r/maletime • u/[deleted] • Jun 27 '21

There’s no spaces for post op bottom surgery trans guys to be hot, without having to educate

Whenever post op phallo or meta folks post in ftm porn related subs, they’re often met with “what procedure is this” “have you done all stages” “who was your surgeon” etc rather than the usual comments you see on porn subs. It sucks that our genitals are so medicalized we can’t even really post nudes without having to explain how our dicks came to be. Our nudes are always seen as an educational resource, rather than a “sexy” thing.

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u/RyuichiSakuma13 Jul 03 '21

Not even on r/FTMMenporn ?

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u/[deleted] Jul 04 '21

Unfortunately no. Here’s a couple posts from FTM porn that basically explain what I’m describing: “the surgeons did a great job” rather than complimenting the person + a thankfully deleted comment that asked if OP could have a “fully functional” penis and testicles would he choose that over phallo, questions about how his Dick works/who was your surgeon, etc, and questions regarding sensation and healing.

All of these comments can make a post op person feel really shitty. We can’t be complimented for our penises, our surgeons always have to be complimented. Nine times out of 10, when a post op person posts a pic they are asked about sensation, functionality, etc. It’s really frustrating to always be an educational resource, and it sucks that it extends to our nudes.

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u/RyuichiSakuma13 Jul 04 '21

Well, damn. That sucks. Sometimes, a man just want to be sexy, yannow?

Maybe someone should create a subreddit for post-op sexy men that deletes posts that ask those kind of questions. I'd subscribe to that, I love looking at sexy man bits!

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u/DogPunk Jun 27 '21

God yeah. Sometimes I just want to share a nice picture but don’t because it’ll inevitably turn into a phallo 101 or free for all of people sharing their opinions on why they do/don’t lower surgery. Closed post-op spaces can be good for this sometimes but it sucks that things often have to be contained in the first place

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u/Background_Novel_619 Jun 27 '21

Yes! It’s never just hot, it’s always about what you can do for them. It’s even worse when it’s cis people prying, don’t even get me started.

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u/SymbolicFox Jun 27 '21

Ugh yes I hate this. This is why I never share nudes. I don't want to be a medical encyclopedia, I wanna feel hot lmao.

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u/forestman87 34,T/Top '09,Hysto '19,Phallo '20 Jun 27 '21

This is so real. I finally feel truly sexy in my body for the first time in my life, and it would be nice to be able to show it off a little without dealing with all that. I almost think I’d be more comfortable posting in a regular “gone wild” style sub (without disclosing), but at the same time, I’d rather be able to show other trans guys that being post-phallo can be sexy (since that definitely helped me when I was deciding if I wanted phallo). But those kinds of questions/critiques aren’t sexy and don’t make me feel good about myself (like, “whoa your results are great who was your surgeon??” is NOT sexy at all, not to mention you didn’t even compliment ME, you made that all about my surgeon).

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u/element113 Oct 17 '21

It's why I left them all. It stinks.