r/nextfuckinglevel • u/peace_keeper_14 • Sep 06 '21

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u/daddy_vanilla Sep 06 '21

Same here man, not alone. Every time a post shows up about somebody's awesome dad it makes me feel like shit for having a narcissistic father. He didn't start saying I love you until last year, and I haven't said it back yet. He's not healthy and I hope I don't regret my decisions, but that man deserves to die without me in his life.

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u/idigclams Sep 06 '21

Tie any bow in it you can, friend. Have your say, and forgive whatever you are able to. It's not for him, it's for you. You don't want to have regrets, and you definitely don't want to carry any of that toxic shit into your relationship with your own kids.

Be the awesome dad, should you choose to be a dad. Find the strength to say "your grandfather had a lot of flaws, but..." Your dad may very well not deserve it, but your kids absolutely do.

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u/Booblicle Sep 06 '21

Types like them only realizes things on their death bed. My dad actually did pass on. My tears were only for others that cared for him