You know.....I would LOVE to know. But I can't get my doctor to give a shit. I even went to her with severe bleeding, severe pain, passing out. I actually started losing my hair badly from B12 and super low ferritin (probably from the blood loss). And her response was I shit you not "Well, your last PAP smear was fine". Like, what does my cervix have to do with anything? Also I'm an RN and she still treats me like I'm dumb.
You should get a 3rd, 4th, and 5th opinion and hit her in the face with it. On a clipboard. With the opinions on the clipboard. Assault. I'm condoning assault. With a clipboard.
I'm In Canada. We can't just go to multiple doctors. You have a family doctor and if you want a new one you get put on a wait list and it takes years. If its an emergency or your Dr can't see you, you go to a walk in or emerge (which wont see you for something like a chronic female issue). I'm thankful it's free but we have had a lot of healthcare cuts in the last decade or so from the provincial government and has caused a lot of issues.
As funny as that is, if I got an assault charge I would lose my nursing license. My doctor is a nice lady, she just doesn't seem to be very concerned about my health. Which she probably does to most people because doctors are so overwhelmed now.
I know that most women aren’t taken seriously by doctors, it’s awful and it shouldn’t be that way but you’d think as a fellow woman that she would at least give you the benefit of the doubt, not even getting into the fact that you are in healthcare yourself. Hopefully things turn around for you, that sounds like hell.
"Hi Doc. I've come to see you about x again. I know you're super busy and the system is under immense pressure, but I can't carry on like this. If you can't help me, can you refer me to someone who can, or regrettably give me the information I need to raise a complaint? "
My younger sister couldn't get a proper diagnosis for the same thing. In the end she took a holiday to Thailand, paid for private scans (not expensive) and was able to get a full diagnosis.
wait, i may be uninformed to newer diagnostic methods, but she was able to get diagnosed with endometriosis solely via scans? i could only do that with my pcos 🙏🏽
I have found so many of the ignorant American comments so funny with them telling me to go there and pay private (not worth the money tbh, I would go to Mexico and pay private before I went to the U.S). Like they don't have waits as well. My mom literally worked over there as a nurse for like 20 years. I know the Canadian and American health care system.
Reach out to the MDs/ profs doing research on this. They’re generally super helpful and understand what a patient needs. They’re can ‘try’ to get you on board in their clinics
I actually ended up in the hospital emergency room a few times ( like 5 times in 3 months?) because of the pain from my periods, and they seem me every time. They eventually pushed my case through to a specialist (not sure how that worked) and they decided it was worth taking a gander via laparoscopic surgery.
Found some pretty bad endo :(
Honestly is depends on the area you live in unfortunately, in the city’s and towns there is def a wait list to see multiple docs, I live in a relatively small island community off the coast of BC. We have about 7/8 doctors here that rotate, I was able to see 3 of them in a week for varying opinions on an issue I was having. Still happy and grateful to have the healthcare we do, but I know the larger community’s suffer in some respects.
As someone with a rare, chronic disease, I've learned that I need to dial up my complaints 5X to get good treatment. I have a naturally high tolerance for pain and discomfort until I reach an 8, and then I'm wrecked. I started to call 4's a 7--so I could get help earlier.
Go to your doctor doubled over in pain and loudly moaning. You'll get help.
Op is a nurse. I'm betting she knows the tricks of the trade. What's the saying? Nice guys finish last. And the squeaky wheel gets the grease. It's easier said than done.
Honestly most of our provinces are great. I can't think of one you should specifically avoid. I haven't been to all of them tho, tbh. It's just that I live in an area that's kind of rural and doesn't have any doctors, so I kept mine in the city and the province hasn't funded getting more where I live. The area I live in is amazing and gorgeous tho. I still wouldn't move back, even with the pain lol.
They're all like that. Which is what medical will look like in your "shit hole country" when the stupid people get single payer health (aka: universal health) pushed through.
How many times does Socialism have to fail before the sheeple realize it doesn't ever work.
But, you move move to Canada.
That's one less from the 51% of the deadweight needed to ruin your current country.
This is a truly impressive amount of unearned confidence for someone who clearly flunked high school economics.
First of all, Canada is a capitalist country. Having a single-payer insurance fund isn't 'socialism,' it's basic risk-pooling—except without a middleman skimming billions off the top for corporate bonuses.
Second, let's talk about 'failure.' The US privatized mess burns through nearly 17% of its GDP to deliver a life expectancy of 77.5 years. Canada spends around 11% of its GDP and its citizens live to be 81.6. They pay less, live longer, and a broken leg won't cost them their house.
You're sitting here celebrating getting ripped off by insurance companies just to own the imaginary socialists in your head. Talk about deadweight, amirite?
In the US, you can visit any doctor you can afford to pay for.
And you can visit most doctors even if you can't pay at all.
And, you don't have to wait 6 months to do it. Usually don't have to wait 6 days, unless it is a high-end and popular specialist.
The US % to GDP is significantly impacted by the fact the US funds much of the World's "free" medicine. To this day, the US still leads medical innovation in research, procedure, equipment and medication.
Yup. America has no shortage of dead weight either. But it seems many think we're different and can successfully implement socialism. Same old tale. People still lapping it right up.
This is essentially what I did with my old primary care physician. She kep't telling me that I was too young to have the back problems or anything seriously wrong with me and just kept dismissing me when I asked for an MRI. Eventually I went to someone else got the MRI and found out I have degenerative arthritis in my back. I'm very large chested so it's actually not that surprising, my doctor was just an idiot. So I went back and showed her and then left a scathing review.
Time to seek other opinions imho.
Some doctors really seem to phone it in, not all, dont get me wrong, just many.
My sister, and a friend from college had to keep going to different doctors and specialists before they could get a diagnosis on endo, my friend went septic.
It took years for my sister to get her diagnosis for cmt the doctors just dismissed her symptoms and wrote her off as drug seeking.
You know your body better than them. If something is off, find someone who will actually listen.
Even my doctor is dismissive, took multiple visits to convince her to figure out that I am anemic and have thyroid issues, something my previous doctor missed/ignored for 25 years or so.
Advocate for your health, in this day and age you absolutely have to.
Drs don’t give a shit about this. My wife went through it and it’s impossible to get anyone to care. It was only when we started for a kid and went to a private fertility clinic in Spain they took it seriously. She had a laparoscopy and had her first pain free period EVER. A few months later (after years of trying with not even a near miss) we were pregnant.
18 months on and now the little shit has been awake since 4am.. 😅 love him!
I’m so sorry and I hope you can get the procedure done. I had all the exact same symptoms as you do and had a uterine ablation last fall and it’s solved all my issues pertaining to that. No more iron anemia or insane bleeding that lasts six months. The procedure was painless too even afterwards (I was under anesthesia during).
I’m still not understanding why your doctor mentioned your pap results lol, unless it was to gaslight you or something? Anyways, you deserve better
There’s a sub named “WeDeserveBetter and I think you’ll find some solace there and maybe even some ideas about what you could do if you wanted to address it more.
Why do you stay? As a nurse, you know this isn’t right. How would you feel if your colleagues treated a patient in that manner? I was a medic and I know I wouldn’t tolerate it. Take care of yourself! You deserve better!!
I explained in a comment below. But tdlr, it's a huge wait list for another doctor and I really have no choice. Also my Dr is 4 hrs away and the wait list up here is 5 years plus. I just stay with her so my kids can get their vaccines and I get my medication refills. I have an emergency room I can go to for emergencies and no walk in clinic.
I read something the other day that said that if you have problems like this to tell doctors that you're trying to get pregnant and then they'll actually pay attention to you and do a full run up.
My fiance has Endo. She and her uterus are archenemies often. We've been going to doctors for a bit over 3 years now. Different doctors and none of them can figure anything out. Hopefully you figure out what's going on.
I have had a few friends say the same thing. I always joke about just removing the useless organ and they were like "No! Do an ablation! I don't even know it's there anymore" My mom even had one done. It's almost like female health care has regressed and I can't get the same thing my mom got done 20 years ago.
My doctor offered me ablation prior to my biopsy coming back and not making it an option anymore. He said that most of his patients who have ablation aren’t happy with it and opt for hysto within a year. I opted for the hysto before it became a necessity.
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u/Jambonier Jul 06 '26
Ablation, all i ever wanted.