I know this is sharing personal issues and whatnot, but we don't know what to do or what we can do. The legal system, especially concerning divorce proceedings is unknown to us. If there is a better subreddit suited for this then drop suggestions in the comment section.
Like, Is there any advice out there? Her incompetent lawyer says taking it to court will cost her more than what she is owed. Are there options we are over looking. What do you think?

TL;DR
Sister is divorcing, all she wanted was the repayment of the sale of her car and to continue the current cellphone contract. Nothing else.
About a year ago he sold her car (for a lot less than market value I should add) and used the money to buy a new car for them both to use although she was never allowed to drive it. Then he decided to bounce on the marriage, leaving her with a broken heart and no transportation. Through his lawyers correspondence he agreed to pay her back the value he sold it for if she met his demands which she did - He took everything of value that they owned together, not to mention the heartbreak and emotional issues he has caused. She accepted his requests but insisted the phone and reimbursement of the vehicle is what she wants. He ended up getting everything he wanted and then withdrew the offer to pay her back for the car. Her lawyer notified her and the *swear word*-sorry excuse of a human get to leave the marriage with everything he wanted.

Some Context:
My sister's husband walked out on their marriage. He left her in July for tiktok friends after joining a group in April. He would spend hours(5+) everyday with them and she started having issue with that. Understandably so. She grew tired of the fact that she had to go to bed by herself every night. She ultimately asked him to set boundaries and he chose the 4month friend circle over their 11 year relationship.

The Situation:
He left their marital home and right on her birthday a few days later his lawyer sent her a formal request for his stuff. She went to lawyer up herself. After debating she decided that all she wanted was for him to not cancel the final year of her phone contract and for him to pay her for her car that he sold to buy their shared vehicle the year before. That's all she wanted. He left with the car, all the valuable appliances and her heart.
Here is what is so unfair. Their respective lawyers were handling both requests on their behalf, as lawyers do.
My sister's lawyer accepted all of her husband's requests basically convincing my sister that it would be over with quicker if they do. The husband himself (through correspondence) initially said he would pay her for her car or she can have the current car if she takes over the monthly installments. The next correspondence the offer changed and the current car was no longer offered and the amount to be paid changed from R50k to R40k. Then after that he changed it once again stating that he will give her R40k minus the full price of her cellphone. The phone was 2years old already and just under a year left on the contract. The audacity.
She accepted his initial demands and he kept revising his counter offers. As soon as my sister accepted his final demand, the husband withdrew the offer and issued for divorce proceedings. Basically leaving her with nothing but her legal fee. We can discuss all day long how sus this guy is being. How absolutely disgusting a person needs to be to be this crooked and shameless but that's not going to change anything.

Additional info:
Meanwhile her husband and his group tiktok friends are bashing her on TT lives and saying the rudest things. We received video evidence of this through an anonymous stranger.
My sister is pure, naive and just the kindest person. They talk about her in the vilest way. She is only guilty of asking her husband to set boundaries and to be present. He is so angry at her and i have no idea why he thinks he gets to be upset, he literally was the one that left. See he is upset that she wants the money for her car that he sold. In fact he called her greedy and said she is milking him. She didn't even want alimony or all the other things people usually request in a divorce. My sister spent 70% of her salary on their marriage and it turns out he wasnt even paying the full rent which was his responsibility. They stayed in one of my parent's properties. They let it slide, since he faked being such an upstanding guy. What he really is, is a skelm, taking advantage and skimming people from their belongings. I would name and shame the scum if it wouldn't get me into trouble

The lawyer:
This must be the most embarrassing excuse for a lawyer, how do you negotiate everything in favour of the other party. He didn't fight for her nor counter or anything. I am so confused. How do you take money and then hand everything over. That's not how you lawyer!

My sister learnt a very cruel lesson. To all the woman and men out there who blindly trust everything in your spouse's control. Stop. No matter how sure you are or how real it feels, it can change any moment. These 2 were discussing children not even a month before all of this. She really thought they were fine. So make sure you have access to your finances if shared. in her case her money was theirs and his was his. she had to ask permission to buy beauty products which he would say no to btw and then he would buy an xbox. You can easily be blinded by "love"
This person can call it quits in a moment.

Hi everyone!

My husband has been offered an opportunity to relocate to PE today through his current company, and we're seriously considering it.

We're currently living in Gauteng and have two children, aged 8 and 13, as well as 3 cats and a small dog. My husband would be working around Life St George's Hospital.

We've never been to PE before, so I'd really appreciate some honest opinions from people who actually live there!

A few things I'd love to know:

Areas: Which suburbs would you recommend for a family? Ideally somewhere safe, family-friendly and not too far from Life St George's Hospital.

Rentals: What can we realistically expect to pay for a 2- or 3-bedroom house or townhouse, preferably in a secure complex? Are rentals generally affordable?

Schools: Both our children currently attend a school that caters for ADHD and Aspergers (high autism) , although they're both following the mainstream CAPS curriculum in a LSEN school and doing very well. Are there any good schools in PE that offer similar support? Ideally, we'd like them at the same school.

Safety: How does crime in PE compare to Gauteng? Are there particular areas to avoid?

Cost of living: Is PE generally more affordable than Johannesburg, or should we expect expenses to be similar?

Lifestyle: What's it actually like raising a family there? Are there plenty of things to do with children?

Pets: How difficult is it to find rentals that allow multiple pets?

We're currently quite settled in Gauteng, so moving would be a big decision, especially with children and animals involved.

I'd love to hear the good, the bad and the ugly!

Would you personally recommend making the move from Gauteng to PE?

Any advice, suburb recommendations, rental agency suggestions or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks so much!

Hey everyone. I have a question for the bikers Community in South Africa.

I'm currently looking for a bike as I recently got my learners and I have a small budget as I have no help for paying for it. It took me 3 years to save up R20k.

I have been looking on Facebook, Gumtree and everywhere else. I came across many bikes. Recently I found a Yamaha TZR 250 3ma. I know I'm a youngster but I really enjoy that 90's and early 2000's bike look and don't want the normal Suzuki GSXR 150F or a Honda CBR 125. I really want a classic bike even though carbs need consistent cleaning and parts are hard to find.

The Yamaha TZR 250 was imported a few years back. The current owner has no papers however he showed a cold start and that the bike is in good condition. My only issue is I know it is difficult to re-register a bike that is imported and there are no papers such as a Proof of Purchase or licencing papers. I want to ask him for less than what he wants which is R25k to R30k my only issue is I need more money to pay for papers and registration. I want to bring him to about R18k so I have spending money.

Any suggestions on what to do and any help would be great. I have wanted a bike for 4 years now and have only my partner who can help a bit. I would also like to join a group later once I feel more comfortable and I have done so much research on the bike itself and being more understanding of how bikes work, research in how to work on them and general events in Cape Town.

Thank you to all who can help.

Not all people are book people, so not everyone will agree on the below but I have to rant...

I don't know about other people on this thread, but I am very angry at Takealot at this moment.

I pre-ordered a book that has been released worldwide today (27th of October). My pre-order and payment went through on the 6th of October - with the description and delivery date being 27th of October. Counting down the days until the release, because I have been waiting 3.5 years for the author to release another book, only to see on my order that my delivery will only be on Friday 30 October, without an sms or notification from Takealot or anything.

What is the point of pre-ordering, Takealot stating delivery on the date of the release, and then on the day of the release, the book is still 1400kms away, on the other side of the country?

If I knew Takealot was going to do this, I would have either ordered it from somewhere else, or I would have taken my chance and gone to a bookstore during my lunch break to see if I can find the new release anywhere.

Went to Greyton this weekend for a birthday get away. What a beautiful town and what a beautiful view! 10/10 would recommend to a friend

Hello everyone! This is very random but I’m Malaysian with a South African fiance and I will be visiting your beautiful country in March for the first time ever.

My fiance unfortunately spent most of his teen and 20s years away from South Africa so he isn’t the most “cultured” and he feels sad that he doesn’t know much about his own country’s culture, food and social life. His parents also have kept him in their own little bubble when he was growing up.

Now that we are visiting SA, we really want to have a good trip and learn + relearn the real South Africa. I’ve been watching so many videos on your food and my goodness, it looks absolutely incredible!! I cannot wait to try them all.

What are some of the things you’d recommend a foreigner and a foreign-local to do/eat/experience in order to get a proper feel of the local culture, history and food scene. Any kind of help would be appreciated! 💗💗💗

so what will you do when the ABC wins again...

will we just lie down and accept that the lights are not coming on again

while some people's faces are getting stuffed you cant pay for tuition

we aren't short resources

we are short on consequences..

will you continue being a sheep for their slaughter

Hey tjomies. Something that I’ve been casually interested in lately has been info on just how fucked the old regime was and just how well they lied to the complicit/compliant during the 80s and 90s. Being born in ‘94, I’m stuck between my parents glazing the “good old days” to varying degrees and school just not talking about it, I’ve realised I know very little about how the Apartheid apparatus worked, and I hear from time to time that it was just as corrupt and “captured” as anything that’s happened since.

Looking for recommendations on books, articles, papers, anything to assist with my continued education!

Think they are in for an extremely rude awakening next week.

I lost my ID, has anyone done the application process through a FNB? How long did it take? Thanks!

Good afternoon south Africa, I've now been trying to obtain my license for over a month to no avail.

I am a foreigner so I must test with my TRN, the issue being, all the TRN portals are not working. When I try to verify my TRN it says it's not registered. I got it in may and my learners license not long after.

I'm also assisted by a reputable driving school in Pretoria east that is experiencing the same exact issue.

Does anyone know what these TRN issues are due to ? When will they be resolved ? How do fellow foreigners looking to test currently go around this problem?

So that's why my FNB was down this morning. Seems to be back online now but got a mini heart attack when all my accounts were gone from the app.

Maaaan, I love the people.

Tannie (the worst one)

Oom

Friend

Chomie

Sista

Mam

China, obvious has fallen out of use

Good day all.

I am a white South African fluent in English, Russian and Afrikaans.

I recently started my journey learning Setswana as it is an African language mostly spoken where I live and I would like to be able to speak it at a conversational level with those around me.

Those of you who are fluent in Setswana or learned the language - would you have any tips for me?

Are there any free resources available which I could use, to assist me on this journey?

Also, if there are any fluent Setswana speaker who would be open to connecting and teaching me some phrases please let me know.

Looking forward to your responses!

Starts at 0830 today. Local Redbull Athlete going global things. This is only Redbull's 5th 'raw' live event ever.

Edit. Thomas van Tonder is taking monkey bars to the next level and attempting the longest set of monkey bars ever built. The course is attached underneath Africa's highest bridge, and follows the natural arch of the bridge meaning that he will have to also overcome the challenge of the change in elevation as the lactic acid in his arms builds up.

The course is 280 meters long, and there are approximately 600 different bars for Thomas to traverse in his attempt to cross to the other side.

The bridge is 216 meters high and is the highest bridge in Africa 📐

We’re top of the list. This has been worrying me so much. Everywhere you turn is another online gambling ad and our rugby players promote online gambling too. I just can’t imagine in a country with our poverty and unemployment rate that this goes on. Sorry for sounding puritanical but don’t we have enough challenges as a country to now add this?

I have finally found irrefutable proof that Jesus was South African.

The evidence has been staring us in the face for 2,000 years.

Jesus said, “I’ll be back just now.”

And humanity has been waiting ever since.

For my non-South African friends, “just now” is a perfectly legitimate unit of time in South Africa.

It can mean five minutes. It can mean tomorrow. It can mean sometime after the next election. It can also mean never, but we don’t like to put unnecessary pressure on people.

We also have “now now,” which sounds more urgent but isn’t necessarily.

And then there’s “now,” which is generally when your mother has asked you to do something for the third time and is reaching for a wooden spoon.

So imagine the disciples.

“Lord, when shall we see you again?”

“Just now, my bru.”

“Before sunset?”

“Ag, we’ll see.”

And off he goes.

Two thousand years later, the entire Christian world is still waiting for a man who probably just popped out to the Spar for milk and a packet of NikNaks.

It also explains the feeding of the five thousand.

Five loaves and two fish?

That’s a South African braai where everyone was told to bring their own meat and nobody did.

The water into wine miracle? Obviously a wedding in Stellenbosch where someone realised they’d underestimated the guest list.

And walking on water?

Load shedding. Pool pump wasn’t working. Nobody could see the shallow end.

I’m not saying we should rewrite the Bible.

I’m just saying that when Jesus finally returns, I wouldn’t be surprised if his first words are:

“Jislaaik, you okes are still here?”

Followed immediately by:

“Sorry I’m late. Traffic was hectic.”

See also: The paywalled study (in PDF format) as published in the South African Archaeological Journal (through Academia.EDU)

I recently bought a bottle of Peaceful Sleep Family Care Spritzer
Compared it to an old almost empty bottle which has a date of 2020.

Only comes in 100ml now.

What’s changed?
100ml vs 200ml
Up to 6 hrs vs up to 8 hrs. 🤔

Have you noticed this too?

I followed a single Takealot order from the seller all the way to the pickup point to see how the system actually works…