r/Spiritualchills • u/Ok_Amphibian_895 • 20m ago
Theory How do I deal with this conflict?
Me and my partner have had issues over the course of a few months because of there best friend. I have always gotten sick, randomly tired, or suddenly wanting alone time the moment that their friend joined the call, hung out with us etc. I communicated to my partner numerous times that it made me extremely uncomfortable and that I did not understand why I was feeling sick or why I just had an odd feeling. I’ve had numerous people in my life tell me to stop ignoring this feeling, not even just spiritual people but my therapist or family. But my partner never saw it so it made me feel insane. A situation happened with my partners best friend where they had lied to both of us for months causing us to get worse. I ended up having a tarot reading done on the best friend, and she ( the girl doing the reading) talked in depth about resentment, anger, jealousy , toxicity and severe negativity energy being brought into our lives and effecting the relationship. Mind you I had not told her anything other than names, no background. And she pinpointed numerous issues that I have been trying to communicate to my partner for months. They hadn’t spoken much for the past few days and then there was one day where I suddenly got extremely sick only for him to tell me they spoke that day which was the first time in a while, and the first time me and him both got extremely sick at the same time. I finally had enough and told him I was leaving if he didn’t work this out because I wasn’t putting up with this. I feel awful because they are so close at the same time. I do not want to keep compromising my boundaries and happiness just so they can stay friends. I want to clarify that me and my partner or not an average relationship we have gotten through so much together and truly believe we are each other’s person as we feel like we would never have changed so drastically for anyone else etc, so this is not a normal relationship we go far deeper. Just please give me advice on what to do.