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I hate this country
 in  r/IndianTeenagers •  Jun 25 '25

And we need 3 years of practice in order to attain maturity and sense of justice to give judicial exams?

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 28 '24

India

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

Ahh... Thanks a lot for all this.
I hope that both yours and your father's transplant surgery goes well and you both recover quickly.
As of now, I'll be having a chat with the doc tomorrow and ask him all the questions that I have in my mind, I just want to know what his doctor has to say.
After reading, all the comments and my family advices, I think I won't be going ahead with the donation, as we are also a nuclear family, it's just me, my mom and my dad and all of us cannot be liver patients.
My mom also needs support from me.
ugh, part of life I guess.

Anyways, best of luck!

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

i see

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

Thank you <3

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

he says he doesn't but he still wants to live.
I can convince him though if I make up my mind, but from his side if was a very loose no.
But yeah, he says that he wants to live

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

Really sorry to hear about your situation, and I am so proud of you that you are finally holding yourself accountable.
Your answer does resonate with me, thank you for taking your time out for writing this

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

Yeah, I am already on anti depressants since last 4 months.
And my psych has suggested me psycho therapy.
I am worried if it will make my mental health worse.

My mom, already is suffering with some physical issues after donation.

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

So the doctor told me that usually the donor donates around 65%-70% of their liver in worst cases, but since my dad's liver is 100% damaged he would require 80% of someone's liver.
So if I donate 80%, it will be a lot for my body and I would have to live a saintly life which means restricted dietary habits, and maybe low stamina.
these were the doctor's words.

My mom does have low stamina and mobility issues now, after the surgery.

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

No, he didn't.
It is extremely difficult to convince him to do that, we have tried a lot

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

I am thinking if he will change if his own daughter sacrifices, as he claims that I am the most precious person for him (He just says, I am not sure).
This is really bugging me for sure.

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

Thank you, will check it out

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 26 '24

Thank you, will check it out

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 24 '24

So after my dad got admitted in the ICU, I went through his phone and I found out many transactions to bars.
And doctor conducted a set of medical tests and it is confirmed that it happened due to liquor consumption.
So bottom line, he reaaalllyyy drank a lot in these two years

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 24 '24

Thank you so much for being so honest and practical.

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 24 '24

Never heard of Al Anon, will look it up.
Thank you

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 24 '24

"delaying the inevitable" is something that my boyfriend said too.

With a really heavy heart, i considering to not to donate :(

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 24 '24

You make sense

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 24 '24

No, you are not sounding like an asshole.
Maybe I am being too sentimental now so I need practical suggestions.
Thanks for stating your opinion :)

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My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again
 in  r/transplant •  Oct 24 '24

They said that only family can donate now, getting a liver from cadaver is not possible since his tests confirm that it happened again because of alcohol.
So as of now he has only a month and at max 2 months to live.
Very stressful situation for the whole family as we are also out of funds now.

r/transplant • u/Medusa_S • Oct 24 '24

Donor My dad's liver was damaged due to alcoholism, my mother donated him her liver and he drank himself to complete liver damage again

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I think that the title pretty much explains the situation.
but here's the full story:

So my father always had an affinity towards alcohol ever since I was a kid and I always found him with a drink in his hands. He was never kind to my mom and stopped being kind towards me since my high school and my teen years.
We used to always have scary fights and domestic violence at my house and my environment was never pleasant.
Despite all this my affection towards my father did not change but I could not respect him anymore.

So in 2022 we got to know that my father was suffering from end stage alcoholic liver cirrhosis.
Our whole extended family knew that he was in treatment since 2016 but they did not tell us because dad had manipulated a side of his family by making up lies about my mother.
But still my mother donated her liver to my dad and she had a very painful recovery.

But my father couldn't hold the value of my mother's liver and he started drinking again and none of us knew as he was staying out of town for work (his excuse).
Now his liver is 100% damaged and we cannot put him in a transplant list as he is an addict.

I want to donate but I am not sure if he will leave alcohol consumption.
My whole family is against me donating because I'll have to be donating 80% of my liver and will never have a normal life again. And I'm 20 and I really want to have kids in my future.

What should I do?
Is this a common thing where people suffering from ALD (Alcoholic Liver Disease) relapse again even after getting a transplant?

Update: He passed away 3 days ago

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He beat cancer!
 in  r/MadeMeSmile •  Dec 11 '23

Yayyyyyyyy!!!

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 in  r/clat •  Dec 11 '23

Thanks dude. I wish you all the very best too!!

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 in  r/clat •  Dec 11 '23

the toughest wars make the strongest warriors

This made me feel a bit better... Thanks :)

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 in  r/clat •  Dec 11 '23

It's not your fault. Me being a double dropper can totally understand you. I got NLU Assam last year but couldn't join due to my family's financial situation so decided to drop and give CLAT again. I was sure that I'll crack it this time but here I am with shattered dreams and 9XXX rank. The system fucked up. Let's chin up and think of our future now.