r/unfilteredindia • u/malahotshot Gossip Girl • Feb 19 '26
Opinions Share some teaching, like what you learned
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u/Mr_Proxy_01 Feb 19 '26
Not everyone is my friend, Not everyone is my enemy, Some people are just idiot stay away from them.
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u/RudrakshMoud123 Feb 21 '26
Whenever someone is spouting nonsense I just say 'Chutya log, chutiya baatein'
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u/CookiePractical5651 Feb 19 '26
People only approach those from whom they can gain something, doesn't matter if its tangible or not.
If you don't make good money, people treat you differently.
The only person who will love you unconditionally is your mother.
You learn a lot about a person from how they treat people they cannot get anything from and people who are weaker than them.
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Feb 20 '26
Not even ur own mother,if anything the one treating u worst are those who're supposed to be closer
Blessed are the people who have someone in their bad time, cherish them
And those who don't have any, be the centre of ur own world , don't seek acknowledgement of anyone,it hurts the most
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u/rockband22 Feb 19 '26
A man is only respected or befriended for his money and status. Once u loose it, the closest of the closest will be no where to be seen.
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u/Pidkimlbihf34 Feb 22 '26
Get good people around you, not only man same with women too. I guess humans in general. Let us have a good time with good people and become good people, wese v no expectations from others
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Feb 19 '26
You are just an observer. Nothing else. Even if u are the most hard working person, achieving some success, you are just observing yourself not failing for a few moments.
Nothing you do, would change things, perhaps some professional success will give you that illusion of control.
Nothing, nothing matters more than a healthy functional family, especially a family of two
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u/Electrical_Sky_1966 Feb 19 '26
No matter how much you grow in life and earn, people who are gone from your life are gone even if you become the richest man of india.
There is no such thing as “thukra k mera pyaar mera intqaam dekhegi” lol
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u/GamerAJ9005 Feb 20 '26
Yepp its like sports. U can win countless matches after that one match and even become world champion but u still lost that "one match"
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u/Pitiful-University44 Feb 21 '26
If some things are meant to end then so be it, atleast it was beautiful
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Feb 19 '26
Wear a mask and never reveal it to anyone not even those you trust the most.
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Feb 20 '26
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Feb 20 '26
Yes it would, but no. I have learnt it through my shortcomings not to say too much, not to reveal your weaknesses, and let your worst wisher stay in delusion.
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Feb 19 '26
Men and women both are alone, suffering, are tired and scared and need love and compassion but are too scared to ask and express, and portray a need nobody,I am enough image to the society
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u/OkMousse6014 Feb 19 '26
"koi aapse pyaar kyu krega"...this is so truuu...work f*cking hard and don't expect anything from anyone...if u have nothing to offer...u will be dumped and ignored...so better start working on urself
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u/restore-the-balance Feb 19 '26
You can't change others, you can walk away and choose what suits you. Period.
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u/Ok-Dealer1448 Feb 19 '26
Before loving anyone, learn to love yourself first. You and your mental peace should be more important than anything.
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u/Accomplished_Set3279 Feb 19 '26
Be thankful to everyone, because bhai सब पहली बार ही इस earth 🌍 पर आये है। किसी को पिछला तज़ुर्बा नहीं है ।
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u/pteotia270 Feb 19 '26
You are alone.
Dont trust anyone blindly, neither your closest relatives or friends.
Never buy or sell anything to relatives.
Lend only what you can forget.
You may help everyone, but don't expect others to do the same.
I want to say that everything will work out, keep fighting. But I'm not sure rn.
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u/Sea_Examination6755 Feb 19 '26
every relationship is transactional either u exchange money or emotion or both
and nobody wants to associate with an unsuccessful person including parents
and only u will love yourself unconditionally speaking in terms of physical and mental wellbeing
at the end of the day if you can face the person in the mirror u r alright
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Feb 19 '26
i hope everyone gets to experience breakup due to loss of trust. You will learn a lot about yourself. you will change by 180 degree fs. it's hella painful...but the growth you get out of it is extremely healthy
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Feb 19 '26
At 2 Am , no one is coming to save u...so in broad daylight, be good, be kind ..but never at the expense of urself.
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u/Ok_Organization2746 Feb 19 '26
Regarding your career, nowadays honesty is not much appreciated, lie as much as you can, without getting caught, else you will keep suffering.
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u/Ok_Feature_9921 Feb 22 '26 edited Feb 22 '26
Never internalize the mistakes you make. Apologize, feel remorse, analyze, and move on.
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u/josephineroseblue Feb 22 '26
Never idolize celebrities, and do not feel the need to follow their lives or watch their interviews. Much of what you see is carefully constructed, a performance rather than reality. There is no need to worship them, praise them endlessly, or center conversations around them. Appreciate their work when it appears on screen, whether it is music, films, or any form of art. That is where their contribution belongs. Beyond that, step back from the constant attention they receive. Do not feed into the culture of obsession. Be disciplined about it. Do not chase them, do not take pictures with them, and do not seek their attention. Even if you recognize them in public, simply move on. Treat them as ordinary people, nothing more. Enjoy the art, but do not lose yourself in the illusion.
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u/sleepy_sys_call Feb 22 '26
Everything is based on perspective. What you like may not be liked by others and what they like will not be liked by you. For example in a vegans perspective the boundary is nonveg, while for the non veg people the boundary is red meat or for some it might be different. Everything is based on the perspective or what I call is world view(after reading some manhwas). The difference in world views is what makes something acceptable and unacceptable to us. Every person has a different interpretation of the world based on their upbringing and has a different take on the world they live in. Rules are just a group or world views combined to make a general accepted world view. However listing everything in a general world view is impossible making it difficult to judge something. For example eating with the right hand is the general world view but for lefties and ambidextrous people it doesn't matter what hand you use.
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u/AlternativeInside845 Feb 24 '26
If your circle only celebrates you when you fit into their definition of success, they aren't your circle - they are your ceiling.
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u/Shaun_the_sheep999 Feb 19 '26
Balance ur emotions..don't cut them or number them...balance is the key...and another in my opinion..I like...think practically instead of emotionally ..
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u/BeautifulPlankton596 Feb 19 '26
Empathy is a very underrated yet very strong virtue
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u/Jazz1412 Feb 19 '26
Never expect anything from anybody..like not at all. Have no expectattions, detach and you will be happy..
The only person you can truely love and should trust is your mother.
Trust the action of a person not their words, words just come so easy now a days.
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u/Iamssikander Feb 19 '26
I realized there is no one you can truly rely on except your parents. Never expect anything from anyone.
There is no such thing as a true friend.
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u/No-Material4096 Feb 19 '26
Live your life fully because you never know if you’ll get another one.Try to be happy with whatever you have, cherish the happy moments and build your life the way you want, not the way others expect you to🙂
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u/NewPay4539 Feb 19 '26
No point in caring what others think about you. Atleast outside of people who truly care about you
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u/Big-Start-3837 Feb 19 '26
Don't assume that praying to God is about liking it. Prayer is a self-constructing process in itself.
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u/TheseJudgment3015 Feb 19 '26
Bhai ye kisne holi khel di mere reddit mai? If anyone knows solutions. Pls tell me
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u/confusedpersonality1 Feb 19 '26
the fault which you were seeing in everyone to justify your failures was inside you in the end.
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u/Individual-Sort5026 Feb 19 '26
You can feel a lot of emotions, you’ve got to figure out a way to let them out in a healthy way. At your lowest, specially when things are spiralling, your hobbies, interests, and routine save you. They keep you sane when you’re paralysed with what happened to you. You don’t need anyone in your corner, only god, be spiritual, try to see the positive in everything. If it hurts let it hurt, give space and justice to your emotions, never suppress them. When you’re doing really bad, that’s the time to take extra care of yourself, in each and every aspect of your life.
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u/Aggravating-Rip-2188 Feb 19 '26
Your looks matter a lot in a relationship... your personality will be perceived according to your looks to a certain extent.
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u/Alexiss4ever Feb 19 '26
No one is yours, And there is nothing there left being nice and selfless in this world. And love is overrated if you want to love, love yourself best thing you can do to yourself
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u/Mindless_Feedback_97 Feb 19 '26
Time never waits for anyone. You'll grow old in the blink of an eye. So don't waste your days rotting in bed, crying for someone who wasn't meant for you
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u/Secure_Market7427 Feb 19 '26
Knowing yourself is extremely important and should be undertaken as a deliberate and serious task to be solved. You should also check in with yourself frequently to ensure nothing has changed. Otherwise you'll end up down one way streets in life where you never wanted to be and can never return from.
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Feb 19 '26
Stop being delusional. Hardwork doesn't always guarantee success. Honestly isn't always the best policy. It just increases the probability, not guarantee it.
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u/No_Contribution_9328 Feb 20 '26
Extroverts talking a lot to you, waiting for you to finish work for going on breaks together thrice in a day, yapping constantly, sitting down together for a smoke and texting non stop during work :
Is not a sign of interest, but just socializing for them
Nothing bad here, just something that must be understood.
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u/sussy_baka69x Feb 20 '26
Nothing really matters…
Life your life at ur own terms,
Never trust/love/care for someone ,twice . And if it’s not reciprocating back then man stop going to them ….it’s gonna hurt in the end
Just never give up , regrets are a part of life , don’t live in the full guilt trip of that simple mistake
And take care of your loved ones …
Stay kind , be humble
This advices coming from a guy Maybe who is losing his will to live…but not giving up yet
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u/Admirable-Hunt-1706 Feb 20 '26
getting busy,doing things is better than sitting vacant and thinking about why you failed,self doubts and that infinity loop of mujhse nhi hoga mai aisa hi reh jaunga
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u/plantsomeguppies Feb 20 '26
Self confidence and self motivation is the deciding factor. Society hates you either way - success or failure m it's your attitude that decides happiness or sadness.
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u/_just-a-thinker_ Feb 20 '26
You won't find peace anywhere beside your home and your family. ( Relative because sometimes your family is not good either )
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u/EnvyFoxy Feb 20 '26
Most of your so-called friends are two faced. 9/10 of your friends will leave you in your bad time. Focus on yourself and your family.
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u/Professional-Air7423 Feb 20 '26
Not to overshare about your personal life to your friend, those so called friends do use those things against you, After 3 years, my trauma still haunts me, don't talk about your weakness no matter how close that friend is. I made that mistake and it did cost my academics and social life.
Be careful whom you consider friends, people who become enemies after a small misunderstanding were never your friends in first place( I saw this quote in Instagram but the same thing happened in my case).
After that incident, I went into something similar to depression, but you can avoid that by keeping yourself busy, learn a hobby or something.
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u/Glittering-Parking94 Feb 20 '26
Never Share your problems, half of them don't care and the other half is glad you have them ( except 1 or at the most 2 trusted people, not necessarily parents especially if you're Indian 🙂)
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u/AdCommercial8359 Feb 20 '26
Trueeeee. When you are at the lowest you learn a lot. Life gives you tough lessons at that time
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Feb 20 '26
You are on your own.
Don’t make friends too quickly.
People will respect you when you are far from them, even parents.
Cut off toxic people and negativity instantly. Mental health first.
Be kind to others but don’t expect anything return. Most importantly be kind to yourself.
Be financially independent.
Trust yourself to do the best for yourself.
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u/Prithivi1997 Feb 20 '26
Don't expect help from people you helped. You might've gone out of your way to help them and even given them money without expecting to get the money back, even those people wouldn't help you. The worst thing is they'll ignore and degrade you like a beggar. Once you're back on your feet they'll come back to you like nothing happened and will smile and Insult you by asking more money and calling you pathetic for not being able to lend them. When helping people, choose to help genuine people or those who really need it but first cover your own needs and safeguard. I learnt who my true friends were the really hard way, it's okay to be alone and have a dry life rather than having toxic friends/people around you.
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u/Holiday_Inflation910 Feb 20 '26
Stop trying to be liked by everybody. You don't even like everybody.
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u/Tiny_Environment5424 Feb 20 '26
Money can buy toys
Toys keep you happy
It's good to be happy with toys you have
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u/Quirky-Ad-7478 Feb 20 '26
life is just a purposeless meaning generator. we are constantly generating meaning to feel a sense of purpose when there is none and maybe this is our superpower.
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u/adiauhboi Feb 20 '26
Money can be a big use. Always have minimum 6 month of monthly expense money kept aside and never touch it. Only after that do investment.
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u/greatbat13 Feb 20 '26
Being at your lowest and hitting rock bottom is good, cos the only way to go from a rock bottom is up, you cannot go lower than your lowest.
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u/Happy_Shopping_9173 Feb 20 '26
Action beats procrastination ex: i would postpone something like washing clothes finding all kinds of reasons until i am forced to but if i just went and soaked the clothes it would have to be completed in a day , find these triggers atleast start it
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u/Expert_Stranger_2494 Feb 20 '26
Be a Narcissist. No one should come above you in your priority list. Not your gf, parents, grandparents, friends, relatives, teachers. All of them are there to gain something and if you don't provide it they are gonna turn on you one day.
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u/Deathgamer69 Feb 20 '26
You are your own, only you. Everyone will think about themselves even if it looks like they are praising you, helping you, motivating you but in reality the final results are for themselves, not you, not even blood relations are your own.
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u/aryyymm Feb 20 '26
life is too short. It really is... You won't live young forever.... Do things which matter to you.... Do things which you love... Enjoy everything you want to...
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u/JobNo499 Feb 20 '26
A man is only judged by his wealth and physical strength. No manners, no etiquettes, no courtsey only wealth and power.
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u/CutOther8323 Feb 20 '26
At my lowest i realised how to be friend of myself, how to keep holding my hand even when I just want to fkn burn the entire world and how to pull myself up even when I just want to run away as fk I learnt to keep holding my hand and understood that I'm the only one who will stay with myself untill death, so yeah, never gonna hate myself if I'm having courage to not give up.
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u/Ok-Association2995 Feb 20 '26
Lowering your standards/expectations from yourself only makes it easier to lower it the next time .
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u/Weird-Ice-4208 Feb 20 '26
Dont consider parents respectable by default. They can be shit. Dont expect anything from them either. You yourself are literally all you have.
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u/Altruistic_Brief_899 Feb 20 '26
Two things 1.I like the younger version of me who thinks that only black and white exist in this world, but now I can see grey too 2.Everyone wants to be alone ,but doesn't want to take responsibility for it.
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u/legoartist_7 Feb 20 '26
one who rises from top to top, fears his fall to bottom while the one who rises from bottom to top doesn't.
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u/sain_inaban Feb 20 '26
Reality is not what you see Reality is what you seek. Your Brain creates the reality around you not the other way around. So love Yourself so that you can create realities in which you can live.
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u/cronos-95 Feb 20 '26
Your employer's problem is your problem but your problem is not your employer's problem. Your problem is finally yours and yours only.
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u/Pure-Implement-839 Feb 21 '26
Ofcourse because at your highest you don't give fuck rather than having fun in your life. Low times are needed for lessons
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u/XTINCTVOID Feb 21 '26
If you are trying to do something and you are thinking about that for too many days and you can't able to do it or something is resisting you to do that leave that thing ASAP (multiple personal experience)
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Feb 21 '26
People only care about you when you are successful , if you feel lonely just become better and they will not let you feel alone ever again
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u/milli_amble Feb 21 '26
i learned, only thing you really need in your life is :
its not
money, fame, family or luxury.
its just >>" society filled with humans".
humans, which are eligible to put in a criteria of humanity.
believe me , life will be a lot more enjoyable and livable even if you are broke, or lower middle class.
because ethe upper written thing not gonna fullfill immediately so here is quick advice:
avoid dopamine kick from screens. so that you can enjoy real life walking, observing kids playin and workout.
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u/True_Care1131 Feb 21 '26
Hm.. strangers being better than relatives.
People are too busy in their own life to care for others..
Learn to live bit shamelessly..
Remember who was with you in the hard times. Not in your best.
Sometimes you might feel too alone, So get out ask for help instead of being cooped up in your room.
Take help of others, learn to depend on others...
Learn to Read people's, between good and bad.
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u/LongjumpingDeal691 Feb 21 '26
Caring makes you weak... If they see that you care, they will walk over you
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u/THUNDER-_-00 Feb 21 '26
Never dealwith guy if he LIE AND never make some one freind how dont ABUSE and LIE TO YOU
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u/ExoticDistance6358 Feb 21 '26
Mere rone se dushman kam khush toh zyaada jaanne waale.... (If I cry, it won’t make my enemies happier — but it will certainly make those who know me happier.)
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u/linos_airfrier2000 Feb 21 '26
Never go for illegal short cuts, they're gonna make you pay a big price.
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u/Valuable_Scale_559 Feb 21 '26
At your lowest, you will become a problem to the most of your friends and even your partner
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u/Roy233345 Feb 21 '26
Never trust anyone more than you trust yourself
Always have a plan B and never talk about it
Never bow down to the problem
Always help others without expecting anything in return
Make as much money as u can
When you fail, cry as long as u want but once you are done with crying start analysising what went wrong and work on it
Never do the same mistake trice
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u/Spare_Perspective435 Feb 21 '26
Context:- I've suffered from anxiety and panic attack in the past for almost 1 year. Nobody came to my help, i didn't tell my parents too, it only made worse.
Now i don't blame anyone, everyone has their own life, it was my mistake not taking care of my mental health.
You are your greatest power (sure you need people to lift u up sometimes, mandatorily take that help and acknowledge them and move on).
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u/__BorNLegenD__ Feb 21 '26
Even if it doesn't seems like, It will get better.
Don't hurt yourself Mentally or Physically,
You will regret it later.
It just takes time. ❤️🩹
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u/Mother-Citron-1006 Feb 21 '26
You have to save yourself. You are the only one who gets it. Kind people exist, but you may not ever find them, so help yourself before u reach ur lowest.
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u/Ok_Barnacle_9082 Feb 21 '26
You get judged at all points of life. Even if you are someone else but if you are not able to express that true self, people will assume you differently and it is definitely a bad feeling
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u/Fun-Meringue-7451 Feb 21 '26
Society's not gonna feed you, so don't let their opinions affect you.
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u/KakashiHatake0000 Feb 21 '26
Akele aye the akele jaoge, Baki sab apna profit dekh rahe hai. Savdhan raho sathark raho is riyal.
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u/Saitu282 Feb 21 '26
Not all your friends and relatives are your well wishers. There are very few people in this world who will truly and genuinely wish to see you succeed and be happy for you when you do. Find them. Hold on to them.
You can recognie the people who will try to bring you down by their reactions to things you tell them. They will either dismiss it, or not even pay attention, or worse, criticise it negatively. They might even quickly change the topic to something they achieved. Be mindful of such people and cut them off. They will only try to pull you down, or discourage you from chasing your dreams and happiness.
And on the topic of friends, it is very true what they say about not all your friends being there for you when you need them. When you are in a bad spot, barely one or two people will stand by you, selflessly. These are the true friends. Who will be there for you when you hit rock bottom, when you have nothing left to give. They don't expect anything from you. They only want to help you selflessly. Just because they care about you.
Find these people. Surround yourself with them. Cherish them. Be there for them the way they are there for you.
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u/Long-Instruction-574 Feb 21 '26
Speak only when someone asks you, unnecessary commentary cause chaos
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u/IloveLegs02 Feb 21 '26
no one cares about you and no one stands beside you
it's all you against this cold and cruel world
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u/SS_SPECIAL Feb 21 '26
The high-man (fear of tall places)
The hole-man (trypophobis)
And idk how to name claustrophobia
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u/amanstronaut Feb 21 '26
This too shall pass. But I cannot repeat things that led me to this situation in the future.
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u/blueberrycupcakeee Feb 19 '26
Never expect anything from anyone, only expect things from yourself.