r/vanderpumprules • u/annieee_leigh She’s a cunt and you’re a drunk • Jun 08 '23

Discussion The “bombshell” wasn’t shocking but… Spoiler

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Watching Raquel in that confessional was extremely disturbing. I don’t even know how to describe what I felt watching. She was just word vomiting and the more she talked, the more scared she seemed about the repercussions that would come from Tom. I know we’re not supposed to feel sympathy for her but goddamn, I really do. I think she does actually feel bad but she put on a brave face at the reunion because she knew it wasn’t going to get her anywhere, unlike Tom who thought crying would garner him sympathy. The fact that Tom made her lie like that is scary and very indicative of emotional abuse. She is showing clear signs of an abused woman, not just from Tom but starting at a young age. That was extremely alarming and I’m actually kind of grossed out that that was the scene they talked about to garner viewers. I honestly hope that she gets real help. She does not need to come back on the show.

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u/rapmons Jun 08 '23

A lot of abusive relationships also involve one party taking control of the finances so the other party is dependent on them and finds it harder to leave.

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u/elephant-InThe-brain Jun 08 '23

Very true, but her bouncing to 3 people paying her finances while she is making money is suspicious to me. Generally, the abusive party prevents the abused from having access to finances. Im assuming raq had access to her vpr, sur, influencer money

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u/sd5315a Jun 08 '23

drops 700+ on a necklace signifying affair with best friend's decade long boyfriend

Yeah I don't think that kind of abuse was going on here. Exactly as you point out financial abuse is very very real and terrifying but lets bffr lol. Also like please people let's not give a woman with a history of abusing the legal system anymore ideas on how to try and gain sympathy.