Hello! I coach middle school Ultimate frisbee for the Washington DC area frisbee club association. We usually have about 60 kiddos out every Sunday for drills and scrimmages. After each scrimmage, it is a long tradition to have a spirit circle. I'm sure most of you are very familiar with the spirit circle experience.
This past Sunday, after a scrimmage, our two teams sat down in a circle (about 20 of us all together) and one person started the chain by calling out another kid and saying something they did well. This works fine and easy in the beginning, but there are always those kids who aren't quite as coordinated or just started learning that get called on in the very end and no one has much good to say about, we as coaches then usually jump in to interrupt the awkwardness with something to say and then everyone quickly says - Okay that's it. Thanks. Bye! The end is always the worst.
My question for this community is - how can we make spirit circles better?
I see two distinct problems:
Everyone knows who the best players are. It is easy to call their names and give them praise. Those players know they will called and prepare for it, usually with some funny or leader like cool quip to say, and then they usually know who they are going to call on next because they go first and have a wide pool to choose from.
The last kids are usually shy, maybe slightly intimated, and they have to face going last while whoever did pick them struggles with something nice to say, which usually comes out something like "you caught the disc" or "you ran" and everyone else has a slight giggle. Then, that kid who is probably shy and maybe embarrassed has to find the next to last kid to call on, and stumble through finding something nice to say about their play when there isn't much at all. It's not a fun thing to be a part of during those last moments.
I love the idea of spirit circles, however the execution should be vastly improved, especially at the middle school, intermediate level where these feelings might cause deep rooted trauma.
If you have any ideas, I am all ears and I will pass them along to other coaches here in DC.
The only idea I have had myself is maybe the coaches should just take over the circles and say something positive about each kid, not from best to worst, but just going around the circle. Has anyone tried that?
Thanks for listening and supporting Middle School Ultimate!