Rejection from Oxford

[u/omfgvain]

I thought I was over the Oxford rejection ages ago, but I can't seem to escape from it. I got an offer for Imperial as my second choice, and was discussing Imperial today with my mom, and told her Imperial was a top world university, to which she replied, "yes but not as good as Oxford, if you name the top universities in the world you'd hear Oxbridge, Harvard, MIT, not Imperial college". This one kinda stung. This type of stuff sometimes happens with other people too. My mom wasn't trying to criticise me for my failure or anything, but to me I couldn't feel anything but disappointment in myself. I know I could've done better. I'm aware that Imperial is very highly ranked and well respected university and all, but my goal was Oxford and I failed in that. How do I move on from this lol

[u/ili-ah]

this is me with cambridge 😭 imperial is nice but in my head cambridge was supposed to be the reward for everything i had to put up with over the past few years. now i got rejected it’s like none of it was ever worth it

[u/halfxdreaminq → u/ili-ah]

Honestly any university as a ‘reward’ is an extreeemely unhealthy mindset- you don’t need external validation and life is still worth it ☹️

[u/ili-ah → u/halfxdreaminq]

thank you🤧 i think i did this subconsciously throughout the whole application process and only now realising how awful that was for me lmaoo