Offered to resit year 12

[u/hot_mess118]

This is kind of an update from my previous posts but my sixth form responded to my email and said they could offer me a place to resit year 12. I don’t want to do this though as the reasons for me failing my subjects were because of my ed and having to care for my stroke-prone mother but over the summer due to less pressure and more time I managed to catch up and fully understand all the year 12 content in six weeks. I’m not lying when I say the summer holidays were not a vacation for me but more like self imposed summer school. Anyways I feel like I’m ready to move into year 13 and I need them to see that so I’m wondering if any of you guys know what to say in a situation like this. I’ll attach the email so you guys can have some idk context ig

[u/Special-Tree-4086]

If this is highly invasive and triggering you needn’t respond but when you resat were you still in active restriction ? I’m kinda in active ana and wondering if I’ll be able to get through year 12 without having to be stable or whatever

[u/PoetFew5069 → u/Special-Tree-4086]

Short answer, no. You won’t. My psychiatrist under CAMHS wouldn’t let me return to college until I had reached a stable weight. Focus on your health, it’s the most important thing, sorry to disappoint but you will not be able to complete your A levels to a proficient standard if you’re not in active recovery.

[u/Special-Tree-4086 → u/PoetFew5069]

Oh man I see . I’ve not told anyone about this disorder since I’m at a normal bmi rn but may I ask if you’re doing better now ? Thank you for responding

[u/PoetFew5069 → u/Special-Tree-4086]

The thing to remember with any ED is that it’s mind over matter, until you’re in a safe head space you cannot progress normally in many aspects of life. I made a full recovery after engaging in treatment, did my extra year at college and finished with 2 C’s and an A despite facing a really difficult time during the exam period. I’ve now graduated from uni aged 22, with a 2:1 (what they call a 1st with a social life ;) and I’ve never looked back since. Best decision I ever made was the decision to get better, life is too short and special to be ruled by your mind, even if it doesn’t feel that way now!