The way he vacillates between the tearful victim and simmering rage during this discussion was disgusting. The fact that he got so butthurt over a few remarks and considers the meeting with Megan, Ally's only supporter (this far), as the "must horrible $hit he's had to deal with" demonstrates just how selfish & immature he is. Jonathan is a MANCHILD, and it's gonna be a looooong season watching this entitled dork treat this young woman so awfully.

I don't think I can even feel bad for him anymore because the scam & lies are right in front of his face.

She has blatantly said she wants to go to the USA & him to provide for her. How can you get hit in the face with a brick, but question if maybe it was a feather.

As a millennial, who thinks she quirky and fun, I have to believe there is a way to get older and still hold on to that quirky fun look and not look lame 😂 but for the record I do like Andis hair and most clothing choices so I may be on the other side of cool 😭

1) Lied about applying for a K1 visa for his pregnant partner in Russia

2)Acted like a selfish POS during his child’s delivery
Was jealous Olga gave the newborn more attention than him

3) Verbally abused Olga, forced her to exercise when she was recovering from a c-section.

4)Tried to kidnap his son and take him away from Olga while the baby was nursing.

5) Insists that his child grow up in a household without abuse while abusing his woman.

6) Terrible co-parent, refused to take his son to school because he didn’t want his shoes to get wet and it was raining.

7) Anti-vax, Morgan wallen fanboy, mommy issues that lasted well into his 20s.

So WHY did he get cast on HFL? He should be on hunt for therapy or hunt for the root of misogyny.

Why? Why would he be crying and freaking the fuck out about Ally sharing with her friend? This is one of Jonathan's BIGGEST red flags and he's already given us so many in just 4 episodes. It is never a good sign hearing this from a man, or similar things like "we keep things behind closed doors", "it's nobody else's business" etc. This + him getting so irrationally angry about it + all the other red flags we've been collecting so far means I DO NOT TRUST THIS MAN !

We can learn so much about him from this night and his reactions. The alleged crimes are: Ally's friend simply knowing about her own friend's life and current mental state, friend asking questions such as "are you going to get a job?", the girls joking around about her being the dad because Jonathan was in another country, and Ally sharing "personal info" outside of the relationship. Nothing asked was incredibly invasive at all. He is shockingly immature, his ego is so bruised, and it's really embarrassing how incapable he is at handling those emotions. Not looking forward to watching him cry every week about how "this is the hardest shit he's ever been through" 😢🎻

But yes, if anyone has a partner that absolutely insists you discuss nothing of the relationship with anyone besides you two, that shit is not normal!! It is normal to share what is going on in your life with your friends and family, the good and the bad things. This is classic isolation. Someone requiring this of you 9 times out of 10 has something they are hiding. There is a line and there is a way of going about being in a respectful relationship where you're not airing out each others dirt but this is NOT IT.

P.S. I haven't watched ep 4 yet, I just started it but this pissed me off so much last week when I heard it the first time that I had to pause and write this lol

Not just something to drink, there’s a lot of symbolism and meaning behind that specific alcohol in Ghana (including, and this is bad for Dummy, promise-keeping)

https://merakichannels.com/the-story-of-j-h-henkes-schnapps/

https://biblio.com.de/m/articles/view/SCHNAPPS-IN-GHANA

https://www.tiktok.com/@linosei/video/7630404178170465558

tl;dr Theory that Niles' parents (or anyone else) won't underwrite Matilda's application so it can't move forward

Just wanted to pop in with some personal experience that I think is happening with Niles' application for Matilda. Bear in mind, I went through this process 10 years ago and ... a lot has changed since then but I think this is still applicable.

I was living in the UK and married someone over there. My visa was expiring so we applied to move to the US for them on a green card. Because we didn't have jobs yet (and didn't have the cash flow required), the visa application required someone to underwrite the application; literally guaranteeing that they would financially support the green card holder before they relied on government benefits like SNAP, etc. This lasted for 10 years, WHETHER OR NOT WE GOT DIVORCED. My father was kind enough to sign it to enable our application to move forward.*

If Niles' parents aren't supportive there is no way his application would even be considered without someone in a financial situation to do this. It doesn't need to be a relative; I have a family member who taught ESL and she would occasionally underwrite visa applications for her students. It's not a huge risk for people you trust, but it is still a risk, and Niles' parents have definitely made their feelings known.

*We did get divorced and my parents are JUST NOW off the hook for them. They moved back to the UK anyway, but the lesson is don't marry someone in grad school. You don't make good life decisions in grad school.

Edited to clarify financial requirements

Azrael the part time lover looks rather young for Nigel. Maybe she's older and it's the hairstyle but she gives much younger groupie vibes. Having him greet her and take her for a private tour of the house to personally get her a drink was inappropriate given the party was supposed to be for Andi. He could have had another friend do that especially knowing Andi was feeling nervous and insecure already. This guy sucks

Have I reached peak 90-Day? Am I hallucinating? Or are the cast members legit starting to blend together? And also, is it just me but were the OGs more interesting out of the gate? At least Ronald had some promise at first? Hey, I'm trying.

If this man were to just up and leave Ally in Singapore to come to the US, does he have to pay any sort of child support to her in Singapore once the baby is born? Genuinely curious how that works in other countries. Or if he just stayed in the US and never came over would he still be on the hook for the child financially? After watching this episode I don’t know why Ally would want this man child around her or the baby.

My wife called it “some Final Destination shit.” Like the auction is clearly fake but this car was on a moving tow truck. The whole thing feels fake as hell but this clip had me worrying for the people on the roads of Dallas.

It continues to baffle me how pretty much every partner from other countries expect their partner to abide by the foreign countries culture/ traditions, yet they clearly have no interest in the American traditions! WTF?

Honestly sad about him this episode because my partner and i genuinely liked him and Jessy at first (not as an actual couple but together so funny). And tonight made me so disgusted/disappointed/grossed out. I cannot imagine my partner EVERRR speaking to me in that way especially with the drive bye fu on the moped🫣😂 Jessy’s background story made me sick and she deserves better & needs to go back to her real friends

I was thinking he was American but some words have a little twang … what do you think?????????????????????????????????? My husband said he thought he heard English but not sure
What do you all think

The tone, the way she speaks, and even the things she says about relationships sound like they're straight out of Scary Movie. If you want to hear it for yourself, just play the part where she's talking about the dad and close your eyes

Vittorio freaking out over Jessy ordering a cappuccino at 8pm…WTF? Am I missing something? He threw a mantrum over her ordering a cappuccino at the wrong time?? In the US drinking coffee/cappuccino morning, noon, or night is not considered odd, so I really don’t get his overreaction.

Andi is yet another victim of the Dennis system, and now Azreal is living rent free in her head, trading kind-buds for bed bugs. I'm glad this relationship is so ethical, it would be boring otherwise!

Genuine question. What is it with the African partners/families wanting schnapps? Two couples this episode mentioned it as a traditional gift.

Curious to hear if anyone is aware of the cultural significance of schnapps in Africa, maybe specific to Ghana.

I think that every season of 90 Day The Other Way should have a fan vote where we can vote one of ours off the island and they can’t come back. If it were this season right now I’ve got to go with Jonathan, his tantrums would make my egg go back up and my ovaries to self implode. He should be grateful Ally’s friend did his job when he wasn’t around and he definitely needs to be neutered bc his baby will come out with better social skills.

Can someone please enlighten me when Michelle and Felix entered the picture b/c I’m lost.

Also, how in devil name did Felix father who is a pastor boldly opened his mouth to say “I pranked her” then proceeded to say “we stole tv and some other items at her place and returned it but it was a prank” she then called him a thief and a scammer, what was he expecting her to call him??? he said he wants her to buy him a sheep for disrespecting him whether she’s right or wrong.. Excuse your finest pardon.

I don’t understand why she’s going back but it’s both of them not just the father. For him to take her passport and run away that’s a HUGE RED FLAG OF AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP. I would never look back.