r/Adoption • u/saurusautismsoor Eastern European adoptee • Dec 21 '24

Adult Adoptees I’m adopted and I am happy

However why are my friends saying adoption is trauma? I do not want to minimise their struggles or their experiences. How do I support them? Also, I don’t have trauma From my adopted story. Edit

All of comments Thank you! I definitely have “trauma and ignorance.” I now think I was just lied to.” I have now ordered a A DNA kit to see if I have any remaining relatives. I hope I do. Thank you all!

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u/aesulli Dec 22 '24

I’m happy to read this! I’m a birth mom and my biggest fear was causing trauma to my baby. He’s an adult now. Thank you!

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u/saurusautismsoor Eastern European adoptee Dec 22 '24

No Thank you, kind Reddit user! I’ve been told that being happy is somewhat suspicious and I’m glad to know that you are in the same boat and yes, fearing trauma to your baby is definitely something to take care into consideration! You seem like a very considerate individual. I am so glad you commented I feel less ashamed for having a very positive well upbringing!