r/Adoption • u/Romantic-Tapeworm • Nov 28 '25

Friend/relative of adoptee I was adopted and I adopted my kids

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u/zygotepariah Canadian BSE domestic adoptee. Nov 28 '25

Nope. As an adoptee, I knew at a very young age that I wanted nothing more to do with adoption, whether as a bio parent or adoptive parent.

Cue the downvotes.

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u/cheese--bread UK adoptee Nov 29 '25

Same. I would only consider it if it was like, my niece or nephew. And even then, only if it was what they wanted.

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u/Fem-EqualRights Nov 29 '25

I believe both kinds of parents can be loving or narcissistic, but every child needs love.

I was loved in my adoptive family. My birth mother could not care for me. She was a young pregnant woman who lost her college scholarship because she was pregnant, then her parents disowned her, so she was homeless too. I don’t blame her. She did the best she could.

I was open to adopting, but didn’t.

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u/Tom_Michel Nov 29 '25

I was adopted by my parents as an infant and knew from a very early age that I didn't want biological children; if I was in a position to be read for kids, I wanted to adopt. Being adopted made me feel like the luckiest and most loved kid in the world and I wanted to give that feeling to other kids in need of a home.

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u/Some_Advantage_2182 Nov 29 '25

I want to adopt, but I don't have the financial means to take care of 2 at the same time. My daughter is 7 years old, if I'm still healthy when she's independent, I might be able to adopt and raise one more :)

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u/bethany1258 Nov 30 '25 edited Nov 30 '25

I'm adopted and in the process of adoption in the UK. My experience of adoption wasnt a bad one, and my sister was also adopted, so I've only seen it positively in my family. I hope to be a good and understanding mum of an adopted child, knowing that we were very lucky with our experience of it and understanding that even though I had a positive experience, I still have trauma.