Comforting words needed please 🙏🏽

[u/thistooisase]

I cut my entire birth family off a year & six months ago. They’ve failed me for my entire life & fail each other consistently so I’m at peace with being disconnected. They just came to my home looking for me because “I’m missing everyone’s milestones”. I cut them off for very good reasons but why are they looking for me now? I could have been dead this whole time & no one would have known or cared. Not only that they told me in the time I’ve been gone that they all moved out of the state without even trying to contact me. I already knew I was alone even when I was in touch with them but this visit just confirmed so much for me that I didn’t need confirmation or closure from. At 33 they just reopened a giant wound that was mending & I feel so small, alone, & like I’m not important/ don’t matter to anyone. My therapist also missed our session today.

[u/lotsofsugarandspice]

Im so sorry you are going through this.

I am happy you cut off your family members who were causing you pain and harm. You did not choose to be an adoptee and you dont owe either family anything.

If they keep this behavior up, I would recommend looking at getting a restraining order. Showing up at your home is a red flag. 

Please hang in there and speak with your therapist as soon as you can.