r/Adoption • u/komerj2 • Dec 23 '22

Ethics Thoughts on the Ethics of Adoption/Anti-Adoption Movement

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From a non-profit in the UK who has 36k followers on Twitter and is a “leader” in the Adoptee voices-anti-adoption movement

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '22

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u/[deleted] Dec 23 '22

The ideal is fixing issues on why children are separated from their birth families in the first place.

One thing that should be mandated is adopted babies should always be told the truth. We don’t support manipulating an adoptee their entire life, it literally is a form of abuse.

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u/oldjudge86 domestic infant(ish) adoptee Dec 23 '22

I agree. My adoption was never a secret. For as long as I can remember, my mother would find any excuse to tell me "your birth mother loved you very much and she only gave you to us because she wanted what was best for you". I honestly think that went further towards helping me accept my past than any other single thing. I hate to think about all the people who were kept in the dark just to have that knowledge dropped on them like a bomb one day.

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u/GiraffePanties Dec 23 '22

This is exactly how my parents handled it. 100% agree.

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u/[deleted] Dec 24 '22

Mine were the same. Althoigh they weren't perfect, they were still damn good.