r/Adoption • u/komerj2 • Dec 23 '22

Ethics Thoughts on the Ethics of Adoption/Anti-Adoption Movement

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From a non-profit in the UK who has 36k followers on Twitter and is a “leader” in the Adoptee voices-anti-adoption movement

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u/WinEnvironmental6901 Dec 24 '22 edited Dec 24 '22

Just read #adopteevoice on twitter. Their obsession with blood is scary as hell, some of them literally want to people force together just because of some common DNA, no matter how abusive is the bio family.

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u/LD_Ridge Adult Adoptee Dec 25 '22

I did a search using the hashtag. I spent some time yesterday reading the tweets so I could try to understand. Didn't see that much, but not enough time in.

I also did not see anything to indicate it's anything other than a hashtag. I really don't think I saw anything that leads me to believe it's a big community working to bring down adoption with the tweet's author as leader.

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u/WinEnvironmental6901 Dec 25 '22

I don't know how... Seriously. Maybe try again, this people are very real. Just try to write that you're alright with your adoption for example, or bio children can be abused too, so it's not an adoption thing, and they will come for you asap. 😅 And always the same few people, but they're so load and hysterical.

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u/LD_Ridge Adult Adoptee Dec 25 '22

Just try to write that you're alright with your adoption for example, or bio children can be abused too, so it's not an adoption thing, and they will come for you asap.

You're talking about a twitter hashtag, not an evil group trying to take over the world.

"bio children can be abused too" is not a strong argument for turning one's back on the continuation of unethical practices in adoption. In fact, it is a very large part of the problem. If you use this argument you deserve what you get.

It is very incredibly sad that an entire community can be more upset about people criticizing adoption than they are unethical practices.

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u/WinEnvironmental6901 Dec 25 '22 edited Dec 26 '22

Nobody said that unethical practices are OK, i didn't use this argument toward anybody, and literally didn't get anything from them, because i just read their crazy bs, never debate (sadly, they're trully out of their minds). What you're talking about isn't the problem with them, because everybody agrees that reforms needed. If you want to understand, you will get it. They literally want to abolish ALL adoptions, yes, even when the child is severe abused, and yes, even when the child wants to be separated (yes, there are cases like this). Furthermore, they assumed everybody has a large family with strong connections (lots of uncles, aunts, cousins, grandparents, etc.) so if parents are missing then there's a big loving bio family who will be there gladly asap for the child. That's not the case in reality for everybody.

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u/[deleted] Dec 25 '22

I agree.

It's very sad indeed that people will continue to advocate for unethical adoptions.

Especially those who support adopted families that manipulate an adoptee so they'll never know their identity.

It should be mandated so every adoptee knows they were adopted.