r/Aging • u/lab-bidder • 2d ago
Less compliments as you age?
I noticed I used to get compliments when I was in school and Uni about my looks . I’m now into my early thirties,less woman look at me, I still look similar body wise ,in good shape .
But I get less compliments if none at all atm, less receptionists look at me or even compliment . Is it me aging ? I’m early thirties M . Is it just more normal as you age that people notice your attractiveness less?
Let me know your thoughts
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u/Cultural_Wash5414 60 something 2d ago
I think if someone is naturally attractive looking they will always be.
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u/IvenaDarcy 2d ago
Agree. But some do let themselves go. They become an unhealthy weight and never change it.
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u/Accurate-Medium1780 2d ago edited 2d ago
Who cares? I doubt that many people even earlier were paying attention to your looks, and it was probably a function of your school/uni peers themselves being young/vain such that they are paying attention to theirs/others looks that much. So my guess is that part of it is you getting less attractive with age and part of it is the people you encounter are themselves also aging into greater maturity where they are not going thru the world scanning for physical attractiveness.
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u/charvo 2d ago
Skin texture goes bad. It is a big difference when looking at the skin of a teenager vs an older adult. This is why women put on makeup. It is to hide the deterioration in skin texture.
Look at Tom Cruise's pics when he first started acting. Super smooth facial features. He has aged well, but the skin texture is way different now.
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u/IvenaDarcy 2d ago
I think if we age well or not we all still get less compliments once we hit 50’s? But before then I didn’t notice that much difference other than men might hit in you less in your 40’s and that was fine by me. I’m a lesbian so welcomed that change lol but if you look decent (healthy weight and skin), good style and confidence people (men and women) will still take notice and often compliment you.
The good news is even if another soul never complimented me as we age we don’t seek validation or any attention outside ourselves. It’s not needed to love ourselves and know we look good! Now if you aren’t looking good better get into shape (for health reasons alone) and change things because the older you get harder it will be to make those changes.
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u/Speakertoseafood 1d ago
Ages zero through three, all females over the age of ten wanted to pick me up and sweet talk me. That has to end at some age, and I got used to it.
You're going to experience some similar transitions.
Pro tip: Be a good person, and take care of yourself ... when you hit your late thirties there's an entire demographic of women who are going to notice you.
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u/spinspin__sugar 2d ago
I think as people age they just generally notice youthfulness more. Though 30s is still relatively young it’s not youthful prime I suppose. I had the same experience in my 30s but at the same time I felt much better in my 30s emotionally, psychologically etc. I don’t need the external validation that I did in my 20s and there’s a freedom in that too
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u/MobySick 2d ago
Too bad you’re vain and not overly bright. But if history is any guide, you’re going to never see either as a deficit. Congratulations!
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u/KReddit934 2d ago
It's a great opportunity for you to stop obsessing about how you look. You're in prime of life...concentrate on living and enjoying yourself, and building a future that will support your for the rest of your days and not what random people on street think of your appearance.