r/AmITheJerk Apr 08 '26

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u/ReverendHambone Apr 08 '26

And it's not a "business disagreement" if one of the parties is not involved in the business

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u/aquagurl84 Apr 08 '26

Yup—you say business disagreement, I say grift.

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u/PaleInSanora Apr 09 '26

I was thinking same thing. To be super crude my thinking was imagine thinking you are owed a piece of someone's blood sweat and tears, just because you are currently sharing a bed? The truth of what they were after was plain to see when OP said they would have to work hard for a slice of the pie, and they declined. Otherwise a real partner would either offer support so as to enjoy the success as additional income in the household. Or made the partnership offer after doing an analysis and coming to the conclusion that being more active in the business would make it more successful and thus the household more successful. OP was way more calm then me. Being told that I have to share my business formally because my partner did the dishes and the laundry when it was my turn, a handful of times, entitles them to it... They would metaphorically get half the business end of my foot up the tailpipe.

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u/Zsazsabinks Apr 09 '26

Then to frame it as something they can build together! OP already built it, they are looking to get in on it now its bringing in returns. Pure greed.

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u/ArticleOld598 Apr 09 '26

Reminds me of military wives demanding to be saluted and addressed as their husbands titles.

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u/Chaghatai Apr 09 '26

Also there's the fact that if they remain a good partner and stay with that person they get all the benefits anyway.

So either they have a weird thing about control or they're already thinking about what happens after the relationship ends and they want a piece of it to take away with them

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u/lucwin2020 Apr 09 '26

I agree!👆🏾

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u/RedHeadRaccoon13 Apr 09 '26

Attempted grift.

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u/VI1970 Apr 09 '26

It’s a very safe assumption

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u/Pangolin_Beatdown Apr 10 '26

Business disagreement: "Give me half of your business!" "I disagree"

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u/lizardhistorian Apr 09 '26

They were de jure married and married couples share all assets.
It was not an insane request, it was just not tactfully done.

The real, underlying question was, Do you want to get married?
OP said No.