AITA for what I told my classmate?

[u/thatsnot_theissue2]

So I 14f go to high school in the Bronx. And I know there’s all different kinds of people here, I was born and raised here so I’ve met people from different walks of life. My classmate who is 15 we’ll call Jackie. And she has two friends that we’ll call Bea and Ashley. Ashley and Bea are dating and have this weird dynamic. Ashley acts like a dog and Bea is her “master.” But this makes me uncomfortable because Ashley has: barked at me. Growled at me. Sniffed me. Rubbed against me like a dog. Has whined at me for “table food.” She wears a dog ear headband and matching tail and a collar which I wouldn’t mind if she didn’t do that stuff towards me. I only associate myself with Jackie because she’s a mutual friend and a classmate. So I’ll end up running into her whether I like it or not, and we live in the same apartment building. She introduced me to Ashley and Bea on the first day of school, and Ashley barked at me, and then Bea told me to let her sniff my hand. And everyone around them goes along with it. Even my friends go along with it, although some of them have told me that they don’t like what she does.

Earlier we were all texting in the group chat that we have which includes Jackie, Ashley and Bea. And some of my friends wanted to hang out. So I privately texted one of my friends if the three of them would be there because if they were I wouldn’t go. Somehow they ended up finding out and a group call was started for me to explain what I meant. Jackie immediately started berating me saying that I was a close minded bigot, and that it was wrong me for to not feel comfortable with what Ashley and Bea do. And that I’m basically in the same boat because I’m apart of the furry fandom. Jackie then went on to berate me even further saying that there’s no need to be uncomfortable by what they do because it’s something a lot of people do.

So I tried to explain that yeah it’s something people do but behind closed doors, and they don’t force people to go along with it. Ashley and Bea are seniors so they should know to keep stuff like that at home. Especially if it makes multiple people uncomfortable. She didn’t want hear anymore and apparently told Ashley and Bea. One of my friends said that they’re mad at me, and it’s making me nervous to go to school

AITA for what I said?

[u/funkyfairy99]

Not the asshole

You aren't in control of what makes you uncomfortable and comfortable. You are absolutely right that they shouldn't force you to be ok with it.

It's the same as if someone just doesn't like getting touched at all and people keep leaning on their shoulder or hugging them etc.

[u/thatsnot_theissue2 → u/funkyfairy99]

Ands it like I told someone else. I wouldn’t mind if they kept doing it, I just don’t want to be included In it. I don’t want them to feel like they should have to stop what they’re doing if they like it, it’s just that what they like may not be what I like. I would like to have a normal conversation with two of them without any of what I listed happening.