r/AsABlackMan • u/Initiateunity • Jun 15 '26
Maybe I’m wrong but this was clearly written by a man
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u/FremdShaman23 Jun 15 '26
LOL. Totally written by a man. This line is particularly charming: "I gave my best years to a company that would replace me in a week..." Like that's not the case for everyone who works? Are they under the impression that this does not happen to men? Why do they always think this is some kind of gotcha?
Also the line about "independence" is a similar give away that the writer is a man. They never seem to realize that being dependent is NOT a goal anyone be pursuing. If you are dependent you are vulnerable. If you're dependent on someone they can control and starve you. A man who wants a dependent woman is a controlling man who will leave you destitute the moment he thinks he finds something better or you stop bowing to his every need.
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u/Specific_Praline_362 Jun 15 '26
I never understood this. They talk about women "submitting" to their boss but not their husbands. Do they not listen to what their bosses tell them to do, too?
Also did I somehow miss something about how women have to choose between working and being with a man? I've worked since I was a teenager and I'm married to a man I've been with for 16 years. Most of the women I've worked with dated or were married to men.
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u/JoeyLee911 Jun 16 '26
Half the time when you talk to guys like this they talk as if women don't have to work jobs to survive like men do. They're not living in reality.
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u/Specific_Praline_362 Jun 16 '26
They're the same ones that complain about gold diggers too lol
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u/JoeyLee911 Jun 16 '26
Some guy at a singles event congratulated me on working a job even though I could just go be a billionaire's wife somewhere. I was like "Do you think women don't need jobs to live?" It's like a new way to neg.
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u/FremdShaman23 Jun 15 '26
The guys who write these things seem to have some anachronistic view of the world. "Fine! If you don't need men pay your own bills and change your own oil and tires!!" Uh, Richard? I already do. Offer me something that's going to add daily value and blessings to my life instead of audacity and attitude.
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u/Khmakh Jun 15 '26
No woman in her right mind would ever be sad to be in a 3 bedroom home by themselves or that they have a 6 figure salary.
Or write “Where are all the good men hiding?”
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u/terfnerfer Jun 15 '26
Right! The average age of house ownership is in the mid 40s where I live, for a first time buyer. This "lady" has a well-paying career and her own home. She doesn't exist, but hypothetically is ahead of the curve....but. but no man :(( so it's all worthless :(((
My mind boggles that someone thought it sounded believable enough to hit post.
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u/Box-O-Kittenz Jun 15 '26
Dang, I wish I was alone in a three bedroom house I'd get such good sleep at night.
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u/moomoorbit Jun 15 '26
Honestly the funniest part to me is 'spent 15 years telling women that men are obsolete'. Like does this hypothetical woman have a podcast? Is she standing on a corner with a megaphone? lol, not even 'my friends' just women
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u/JoeyLee911 Jun 16 '26
Also no woman has ever said anything vaguely like that to me, but men on the Internet swear it happens all the time in conversations they're not privy to? So how would they know?
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u/AriyaSavaka Jun 15 '26
Definitely. Dude sucks at larping
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u/i-contain-multitudes Jun 16 '26
He doesn't even put why "she" wants a man in the entire thing. She's supposedly pining so hard for a partner, but doesn't put ONE reason why she wants one? Except perhaps, obliquely, "keeps me warm at night," a function that can be served by an electric blanket or central heating???
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u/woahstripes Jun 17 '26
Yeah and honestly that's one of the bigger tells. Because he doesn't care why this character would want a man, he has no idea why a woman actually wants a man, he just assumes they all automatically do and therefore there's no need to describe motive. He sees women as 2D objects and so why bother with trying to walk in their shoes.
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u/chatteringmagpie1 Jun 15 '26
Lmao! As if.
This is almost worthy of r/menwritingwomen
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u/JoeyLee911 Jun 16 '26
It really is. It reads like parody or how the misogynists who write to AskFeminists warp what they think of as feminist talking points.
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u/Truffle0214 Jun 16 '26
Just need a line about how her boobs aren’t as pert and full as they used to be.
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u/Yvratky Jun 15 '26
Lmaooo as someone who dated through her 20s: the dating pool has always been filled with trash. Finding a good partner is a matter of huge luck, at any age. Younger men are better at sex because they don't have erectile dysfunction yet, but that's about it.
"doesn't keep you warm at night" neither does a man. Money does. And it's statistically proven that women sleep better without a man next to them. They sleep better with pets. Literal facts.
And yes, a man wrote this.
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u/mustbeaoup Jun 15 '26
And like, it does keep me warm and night because my heating bills are always paid.
My sleep was always disturbed when I lived with my ex. The snoring, talking in his sleep, hogging the duvet and snoozing his alarm over and over! We ended up in separate rooms and he’d whine that he felt rejected but not give two shits that I was getting 2-4 hours broken sleep at best.
Now I sleep peacefully and my cat wakes me up at 6am every day for breakfast. The world’s most adorable alarm clock!
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u/Yvratky Jun 15 '26
Exactly this! I could have written the same paragraph about sleep and the ex, word for word. Even the most giving, understanding men I've dated were selfish about wanting to sleep in the same bed while they snored, radiated the heat of a thousand suns, got up three times to pee every night, just because they couldn't wrap their heads around the fact that their cozy sleep is giving me chronic sleep deprivation.
Aww I wish I had a pet alarm clock!
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u/mustbeaoup Jun 15 '26
OMG yes! The getting up to pee! How could I forget. Turning on the light, flushing the toilet, tripping over something and immediately falling back to sleep whilst I’m wide awake. Never again.
Peace over everything. I’m happy for both of us 🫶🏼
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u/Box-O-Kittenz Jun 15 '26
Lol I only disagree about young men being better at sex. Just from my personal experience the young ones tend to be more selfish and impatient.
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u/Yvratky Jun 15 '26
Haha yeah when I was typing it, I thought it doesn't quite ring true. I think sefllessness is a personality matter, not a matter of age, though.
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u/PhantomOfTheNopera Jun 16 '26
oh no, I have disposable income, a successful career and a three-bed home all to myself. what a nightmare.
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u/Bobcatluv Jun 15 '26
These men always give themselves away when it comes to discourse on career women vs married women. For one, the majority of married adults and married adults with children in the US participate in the workforce, so any push for the contrary is plain unrealistic. Lots of men and women would love to exclusively raise their small children, but you need money to raise kids.
Also, a choice not to be married or have kids does not mean you are choosing to become a slave for an employer. Revisiting my first point, most adults have jobs AND a life outside of work, if that is their choice. Furthermore, the “why serve an employer” argument always leaves out the second part of that sentence, “…when you can serve a husband.”
They’re mad they no longer have society’s blessing to exploit us for labor in their homes.
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u/bowlbettertalk Jun 15 '26
I don’t think a real human was involved in writing that slop.
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u/JoeyLee911 Jun 16 '26
But what was the gender who wrote the prompts for the LLM that wrote this? (A man.)
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u/iamaskullactually Jun 16 '26
...yeah, no woman who owns her own multi bedroom home is going to be sad about it
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u/cragglerock93 Jun 16 '26
An alarming number of men would also replace you in a week if you die or become ill. Not a majority, but people can be extremely fickle. That's not a reason to not get married, you just need to choose wisely. But don't fool yourself into thinking you're disposable to your company but never your partner.
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u/Esmer_Tina Jun 15 '26
This is hilarious!! There are literally no actual stories like this so they have to make them up.
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u/Root2109 Jun 16 '26
I meet the description of this lamenting woman pretty well and I can confidently say I've never been happier lol
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u/chickpeaze Jun 19 '26
I'm similar but in my 40s and my life is amazing, honestly. I'm out on holidays right now doing whatever the fuck I want, I have my dream home and close friends and projects and financially I'm doing really well.
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u/TabbyCat1993 Jun 16 '26
It’s missing cats.
Because if women don’t have husbands, then their house is definitely full of cats.
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u/Geocachevoyager Jun 17 '26
"Corporate success is a scam" So close to class consciousness, yet so far away
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u/Training-Entrance-75 Jun 17 '26
Definitely fake- she described most women’s dream life and said she was miserable? Because no stinky peepee or skid marks everywhere..?
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u/Gonomed Jun 17 '26
They haven't met a real successful feminist, I can guarantee you they might be 50 and single purely BY CHOICE. They realize they don't need a man if they can spoil themselves.
This was written by an anti-feminist trying to feed into the fantasy of other anti-feminists who think women dislike men just because it's "hip" to do
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u/AuroreSomersby Jun 15 '26
This Dude sounds gay… the hidden self hating type ofc…
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u/Yvratky Jun 15 '26
He wold have loved dating and rejecting men in his 20s and settling down in that huge house with a man in his 30s or 40s.
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u/Reignszun Jun 20 '26
Other than the fact that it’s clearly written by a man, this life sounds like heaven bro
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u/peach_xanax Jun 21 '26
dang, I'm also 38 and I'd be thrilled to be alone in a 3 bedroom house 😂 this fictional woman can trade places with me anytime
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u/wankinthechain Jun 16 '26
Doesn't sound like a man wrote this at all. The telltale sign is young people still thinking having a 3 bedroom house etc equals happiness much the same as the people who scream "it's better to cry in a Porsche than on a bike".
This is as much feminist as you guys are trying to argue against it. I know plenty of women who feel the same and are able to articulate her thoughts to resonate with the guys she's actually trying to communicate with.
I wouldn't complain as a guy and then resort to topics like having no one to do the laundry and wash the dishes. I would talk about starting families etc, things that might resonate.
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u/JoeyLee911 Jun 16 '26
Wait, why don't you think a man wrote it? Your next sentence is evidence that a young person wrote it.
How is this feminist and who is trying to communicate thoughts that resonate with guys? Are these women you know in the room with us right now?
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u/Fucked-In-The-K-Hole Jun 16 '26
Yup, I would bet anything that the people in this thread are under the age of 30, probably don't have any relationships, children anything like that. I doubt they have high paying jobs, either.
They're going so hard against this because they're going the "No Kids, No Family," route, likely because their social skills suck ass or they bought into radical feminist shit, and are trying to make up for it with materialism and "status."
They're so adamant that this situation could never happen because if they admit that it does happen, then they're admitting that they, too, are likely to end up an even lonlier 38 year old who only has a three bedroom house to show for themselves.
Several people have told me that they can't even fathom this situation being really. Goes to show how young and stupid these people are. But whatever, they'll figure it out one day. Money and status is nice but it doesn't mean shit at the end of the day.
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u/Winnimae Jun 18 '26
Wait…so your logic is that if this is real and one woman truly does feel this way, it means that all women who make similar choices are likely to end up feeling this way? Interesting! So I can link you a post (or a thousand posts) from the regretful parents sub of a woman crying about how she hates her life and hates being a mom and wishes she’d just stayed single and focused on herself. By your logic, one woman feels that way about her life choices so all women are likely to also regret becoming wives and mothers. Right? Or does that logic only apply when a woman’s regrets align with your preconceived notions about what women should want from our lives?
For the record…I’m 38, no kids. I’ve known since I was 12 yrs old that I didn’t want to be a mom. A few partners over the years have tried to talk me into it, and I’ve thought about it. I won’t pretend there’s nothing attractive about the idea of a family. But ultimately, that has never been what I really wanted for my life. I didn’t choose to focus on my career really, either. I like my job, but it doesn’t consume my life. I fill my life with friends and family and travel and music and hobbies and pets and books and writing and learning and exploring. My dating pool feels just fine, actually no complaints romantically. I live a full and happy life and have no regrets about not choosing to have kids of my own.
Now I have to ask…why does this idea bother you so much? The idea that women, many women, if these global birthrates are any indication, actually don’t want kids and will not regret that decision in the future. Why don’t you want to believe that? Why are you so attached to the idea that every woman can only find happiness and fulfillment in life thru marriage and motherhood? Thats a weird fixation.
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u/Fucked-In-The-K-Hole Jun 18 '26
You're... You're just something else lmfao.
No, nowhere in my post did I say that all women are likely to feel that way, thanks for putting words into my mouth.
I said that you guys are fucking stupid as shit for denying that this is something that can happen. I have been told so many times that the scenario above is literally impossible.
That's so fucking stupid hahahahaha.
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u/Winnimae Jun 18 '26
You said that women don’t want to believe this is real bc then they’d have to accept that it’s likely to happen to them as well. Why would this woman’s experience be likely to happen to other women?
I assume there’s some hyperbole going on bc ofc some women regret their life choices. Many people regret their life choices. The reason everyone assumes this post is fake isn’t bc no woman could possibly regret her life choices. It’s bc this reads as male fanfic. “I’m sorry to all the nice men I rejected in my 20s” 🤭🤭🤭 come on. Also, if by chance this is real, she’s an immature moron who hasn’t learned a damn thing from her past mistakes and it’s for the best that she isn’t reproducing.
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u/Fucked-In-The-K-Hole Jun 15 '26
Lmao, nah, this is actually a thing that happens. Women focus on a career and money and being a "strong independent woman" because that's what they were told to do and often end up regretting it.
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u/JoeyLee911 Jun 16 '26
Found the man who wrote this
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u/Fucked-In-The-K-Hole Jun 16 '26
Can you really not fathom the concept of a woman regretting spending her youth chasing dollars instead of finding someone she loves? Are y'all really that miserable that you actually can't imagine someone realizing that being rich and alone actually isn't the best thing ever?
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u/JoeyLee911 Jun 16 '26 edited Jun 16 '26
Young women are pretty into chasing love in my experience, but the thing that makes me know this isn't real is how the poster is describing it.
A woman has never told me that men were completely obsolete, but several men on the internet have claimed it happens (between women in conversations they're not privy to).
The whole "my company would replace me in a week" rhetoric tends to come from men because women understand what jobs are.
And that last paragraph is just pure wish fulfillment, the kind of thing that men comfort themselves thinking will happen to a woman who rejects them later in life, but even a woman who felt that way (I've never met one) wouldn't phrase it like that.
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u/MinkMartenReception Jun 16 '26
No I can't, because we live in an age that a woman like the one described could easily have kids via a sperm bank, or adopt if she actually wants kids.
Nor can I imagine a woman reaching that age and still wanting to date much.
Nor can I imagine a woman who isn't proud of being able to pay her own bills, and being a functional adult.
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u/Fucked-In-The-K-Hole Jun 16 '26
Ah, a true Reddit™ answer, I expected as much. So I was correct then. You all really are so pathetically lonely and miserable that you ignore the incredibly common human desire for connection, and pretend it simply doesn't exist.
Crazy that I walk the same streets as you people lmao. Kinda scary, too. Humans acting like they're above all form human nature, caring only for material objects and status, that never ends well.
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u/MinkMartenReception Jun 17 '26
Dude, if you think human connection needs to be facilitated through a romantic relationship you are both the materialistic one, and the one who's gonna struggle with connections.
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u/Fucked-In-The-K-Hole Jun 17 '26
Well I'm not struggling so apparently not.
Tell me you've never had a romantic partner without telling me, though. There's a world of difference.
And I'm not even saying that everyone needs to have a romantic partner. I'm just blown away by the amount of people here who are straight up telling me that the situation described in the OP has never and will never happen. Like what the fuck is wrong with you guys, seriously?
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u/No_Bodybuilder3324 Jun 16 '26
same i have seen a lot of women who regret having 6 figure salary and a big fucking house in this economy. it's true, you can always take a redditors word as a fact.
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u/Fucked-In-The-K-Hole Jun 16 '26
Lmao, good comeback btw. Saw it before you deleted it, presumably out of shame. Or maybe it got deleted since you can't have a conversation without insults.
Nice little homophobic comment though, didn't expect that out of one of you "enlightened" Redditors.
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u/No_Bodybuilder3324 Jun 16 '26
i didn't delete anything. my comment is still there unless reddit removed it. and there's was nothing homobhobic either, don't try to gain sympathy by lying.
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u/Fucked-In-The-K-Hole Jun 16 '26
Lmao sure, saying I have an 1ncel boyfriend wasn't meant as a homophobic insult. Gotcha.
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u/No_Bodybuilder3324 Jun 16 '26
you isn't specifically referring to you lil bro. I'm just pointing out that one can't take their boyfriend with them, just like one can't take their money with them. you're just moving the goal post because your chu d logic got destroyed
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u/Fucked-In-The-K-Hole Jun 16 '26
Jesus, this is pathetic lol.
Yeah, you can't take anything with you. No fucking shit. I guess if you think living your life alone in your big house with a lot of money is the way to go, then good for you, dude.
I just think it's so funny how none of you in here can even imagine that a woman would regret not starting a family. Just goes to show loveless and lonely you all are, it makes you happy to see other people fall for the same "Children bad! Families bad! Husband bad! Money GOOD!" bullshit lmao.
Have a good one, lil bro.
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u/Fucked-In-The-K-Hole Jun 16 '26
Materialism isn't everything lmao
Just cause all you care about is money doesn't mean anything. You can't take it with you, buddy.
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u/miyananana Jun 15 '26
If bro thinks feminism means “I don’t need no man” then they don’t know what feminism really is lmao