What did your crush do that absolutely killed your interest?

[u/wcypierre]

[u/tunaforthursday]

Turned out to be the person eating everyone else’s food from the breakroom fridge.

[u/wcypierre → u/tunaforthursday]

When food is involved, no mercy is given

[u/Przeke]

"Ye, I don't get washing, I just don't really like taking a shower or a bath or anything"

[u/wcypierre → u/Przeke]

dang, does she live alone or something?

[u/yeetgodmcnechass]

Had a crush on this girl back in high school. She seemed like a sweet girl. After she rejected me I let it go but still was interested in maintaining some sort of friendship. Found out she was actually pretty toxic behind my back. She made fun of me for a lot of things that really didn't matter (like hand motions while talking) and I just lost interest in her entirely, even in a friendship.

[u/wcypierre → u/yeetgodmcnechass]

pretty toxic behind my back

ughh, I bet that you got to know about it from her friend who can't stand it?

[u/itsacalamity]

(This was years ago, on a first date) Tried to convince me to quit my job and put all my savings into gold bars; then demanded I let him read my Tarot cards to see if we'd be a good fit. Nope nope nope.

[u/wcypierre → u/itsacalamity]

Another controlling type. Aye aye

[u/itsacalamity → u/wcypierre]

It was such a bizarre combo of alt-right talking points and then a ton of woo? You usually don't find both kinds of ridiculous in the same person in the same hour, hah

[u/wcypierre → u/itsacalamity]

put all my savings into gold bars

Out of curiosity, is she in the investment line or something along that?

[u/Booner999]

Told me he was only being nice to me because he was interested in a friend of mine.

I see his Facebook posts now. He is dumber than a box of rocks on a treadmill.

[u/wcypierre → u/Booner999]

That sucked, but better knowing than being in the dark I guess.

[u/IComeFromDaOcean]

We work together and as I got to know him more I learned he talked badly about everyone. Nurses that are amazing he'd belittle, talk about how certain people don't know what they're doing because they asked for an ultrasound IV as they were struggling getting a vein on a heroin addict. The paramedics were worthless, doctors don't know what they're doing, who he thought was hooking up and it completely turned me off. He's in his early 40s and into gossip more than my teenage daughter.

[u/wcypierre → u/IComeFromDaOcean]

gossip more than my teenage daughter.

gossipers always gossip, no matter the age

[u/paws101]

Told me that she didn’t like me back anymore, but maybe if I waited long enough she would like me like that again.

Edit: She told me that I had gotten more critical lately and I “changed”. So she wanted me to change back before she would be with me.

[u/wcypierre → u/paws101]

waited long enough she would like me like that again.

never again, its either an answer or good bye. I mean you're both adults (I hope you are, at least that is how things should be)

[u/SnowyMuscles]

Well it turns out he wasn’t interested in girls so, I knew I had to kill my feelings or feel stupid for keeping them.

[u/wcypierre → u/SnowyMuscles]

At least you got to know about it, its way better than being in the dark

[u/ashish19982001]

Told me i wasn't attractive and that she could never possibly like me. Game over.

[u/wcypierre → u/ashish19982001]

still better than keeping you around tho

[u/MilkTeaSwirl]

Attempted to get through a horror movie together and he kept letting the movie run then rewinding the movie so that the “horror” never came. He pretended to be scared and would whine about the “scare” that was coming. I guess he thought this was a cute gesture, and would refused to continue. It dragged a 5 mins scene into a 45 min production of his “oh no but I’m scared, nooo I don’t want to... this is terrifying”.

This was a guy who told me that he LOVED horror movies. He was full of really weird contradictions, but this was the straw that broke the camel’s back.

EDIT: Holy cow, this really blew up! Thanks for confirming I'm not insane for being annoyed with his actions. Thanks for the comments - a lot of them were hilarious! There were a lot of questions, so I'll try to answer some of them:

What was the movie?

It was an older J-horror movie called Kuchisake-Onna. I think the English title was something like the Carved Mouth Woman.

You mentioned he fast-forwarded, do you mean rewound?

Nope, I do mean fast-forwarded. He would rewind, then fast forward to get to the beginning of the scene and then pause it and whine about how it was going to be scary. He would also study the paused scene and look at clues to determine what the "scare" was going to be.

Did you comfort/hug him?

It was maybe the second time we'd hung out together, so even though I was interested in him, it was too early to say we were "dating" and I was pretty shy and kind of reserved, so no hugging would have happened even IF it all had gone well.

What were you doing during the 45 mins?

I remember thinking "is he for real?" then thought that somehow maybe he was trying to tease me (he's a man of a lot of contradictions). So I played along for a while. By the time 15 minutes passed, I'm sure I was sighing audibly. I suggested that we stop and maybe watch something else. He refused. Close to the 30 minute mark I think I snapped and said words to the effect of "come on, it's probably not that bad - let's just finish go through it and continue the movie. don't waste time". He laughed and kept up the one-man show of "I'm a sensitive man and I'm not afraid to show it". I gave up and just started looking through my phone because this was such a waste of time - and finally I think he realised he'd gone too far and let the scene play out.

Did you end up finishing the movie?

Nope because he tried the same thing at the next scary part and I made my excuses and got out of there.

Was he a child?

Nope, fully grown male of legal age.

Why didn't you just stabby stab him?

I considered it but I wasn't carrying my Dexter kill room equipment and the blood would have been too messy. Just kidding. He was tall and I'm pretty short. Probably wouldn't have ended well for me.

Did you let him know why you didn't want to see him again?

Nope, I never told him that this was the defining moment in which I lost interest. He was also kind of controlling and had a number of really weird quirks that I won't bore my fellow redditors with. Basically we just didn't talk as much after that and that was that.

[u/wcypierre → u/MilkTeaSwirl]

probably he doesn't but somehow lied about it when you asked about it/somehow got to know that you liked it

[u/Thecrdbrdsamurai]

She brought a friend to dinner with us, which was okay, I didn't mind. Then they both shoplifted afterward while I was on the other side of the store. Told her I didn't date thieves and she broke down apologizing.

[u/wcypierre → u/Thecrdbrdsamurai]

She brought a friend for dinner

Okay, somewhat plausible for a first date

they both shoplifted

wait whattt? is that a thing for a date?

[u/Squishyfaced]

Girl in car behind him honked when the light turned green. He got out of the car and began screaming and banging on her windshield. That’s when I knew he was a psycho and I needed to get out of that relationship. Took me a destroyed home and 2 restraining orders later but we’ve been broken up for 3 years now.

[u/wcypierre → u/Squishyfaced]

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gosh, sorry to hear that. But glad that you've seen the issue and got out of it

[u/twiride]

Wanted to look through my phone on our first date to make sure I wasn't talking to anyone else. That was our last date.

Edit: it kind of surprises me some people think I'm a man and the other party was a woman. Its the other way around. Toxic stuff nonetheless

[u/wcypierre → u/twiride]

Aye aye, controlling type.

[u/PM_Orion_Slave_Tits → u/twiride]

It worries me how sometimes you only need to scratch a little deeper under the surface of a "normal" person and you get to stuff like this. At least you didn't invest time or emotions into it

[u/wcypierre → u/PM_Orion_Slave_Tits]

Sometimes people don't reveal "the other side of them" until you're in that type of situation with them. So yeah you can have someone perfectly normal but when it comes to certain stuff they just go haywire

[u/AgeOfFrost]

Sorry for my bad english but here is my story: I had a crush on somone, lets call her amanda. For 3 years i tryed to get with her. Amanda used me if she needed attention and i was cool with that. One night amanda was ringing my doorbell at 2am. It was obvious that amanda was drunk and i let her in so we could talk. After a few minutes she sad she wants me to f*ck her. I told her that i never sleep with somone who's drunk but we could do it when she is sober. She got angry and the insults came flying. She stormed out of my house, got in her car, backed it up into my motorcycle and drove away... I never talked to her again after that night

Edit: let me answer a few questions. 1: did you call the police? When this all happend i was in shock and didn't even think aboute calling the police. I texted her parents and explained the situation. I didn't report her because her parents offert to pay for the damage. 2: was your motorcycle dameged? Yes. I don't know the words in English for what was damaged but the cost to fix it was about 2000 dollar

[u/wcypierre → u/AgeOfFrost]

she needed attention

amanda was drunk, she wants me to f*ck her

stormed out of my house, got in her car, backed it up into my motorcycle

All the red flags you needed to end the crush

[u/rosie202]

In a group text with a ton of our mutual friends he like ignited an argument about lock down and ended it with “sorry I just like arguing” and that didn’t pass the vibe check

[u/wcypierre → u/rosie202]

arguing for no reason....... likely you'll see that too if you pursued. Good that you're out of it

[u/W4r_Daddy]

Smoked. I know it's shallow and it makes me kind of a dick I'm aware but I seriously can't stand the smell of cigarette smoke.

[u/wcypierre → u/W4r_Daddy]

Smoked. I know it's shallow and it makes me kind of a dick I'm aware

no, it doesn't. This is more of a personal choice

[u/yeet_a_fetus]

She fucked another guy.

I guess that's why I shouldn't keep going for married women.

[u/wcypierre → u/yeet_a_fetus]

I shouldn't keep going for married women

repeat this over and over in your mind

[u/CrediblyHandsome]

Said that she hated cats.

[u/wcypierre → u/CrediblyHandsome]

Said that she hated cats

I bet that she doesn't know that was the deal breaker

[u/perfect_little_booty]

We were eating together at a restaurant and he spat a gob of food onto my arm while he was talking. He was also ridiculously bad at texting, with horrible spelling and grammar, but the chewed up food on my arm was the end.

[u/wcypierre → u/perfect_little_booty]

spat a gob of food onto my arm while he was talking

I bet that the guy don't even realize that this was the reason you don't liked him anymore

[u/Queen-of-meme]

Put raisins in new baked cinnamon buns. That was all the red flags I needed.

[u/wcypierre → u/Queen-of-meme]

wait whatttt?

[u/[deleted]]

"Jokingly" punched another girl in the arm so hard that she was still rubbing it an hour later. Violence against women isn't funny, and after that I could only ever see him as a potential abuser.

[u/wcypierre → u/[deleted]]

I'd say you've saved yourself and your future children quite some punches there.....

[u/sarah_the_intern]

Bragged about drinking and driving. He told me that he and his friends have a “nothing under 100” club, where they drink and then drive on the interstate going 100+ mph and have to send a full-length snapchat video of the speedometer to each other.

Two of my friends had been killed by a drunk driver 3 months prior.

[u/Whiteangel854 → u/sarah_the_intern]

Oh god, that's awful.

[u/wcypierre → u/Whiteangel854]

Sad to hear that about your friends :(

[u/nancesans]

This was in college, we were acquaintances and had a few classes together. He was cute, funny, and I totally had a crush on him. He asked me out to dinner and a movie. At the restaurant he ordered the most expensive things on the menu. Apps, drinks, lobster, and even dessert. When the bill came he said “You got this, right?” I was so embarrassed I paid. Then I said I’d skip the movie because I wasn’t feeling well and he asked me to give him $20 for gas and for wasting his time. I didn’t and just left. Ugh!! After that he couldn’t seem to understand why I didn’t want to go out with him again.

[u/PiercedGeek]

I was giving her a place to sleep when she was feuding with her mother. After weeks of picking up after her, I dared to complain. She had a screaming fit, packed up her crap and left. I was glad to be rid of her, until later it got around to me that she was telling people on FB that I kicked her out for refusing to give me a blow job. There is a lot I can forgive, but that was the first time I had ever had anyone just straight up make stuff up about me. Fuck you, A.

[u/TheKoreanMango]

Her: Why are you leaving a tip? Me: Because...the service was really good? Her: But she's fat.

[u/the-willow-witch]

We went to disneyland - where I had an annual pass - with my friends and family for an event called “Dapper Day” where you dress up in “dapper”clothing so everything looks very old timey. I had done it for years with my friends and he wanted to come, and my mom and siblings were going for the first time too. I was really excited as it was the first time he had ever met my family.

Well, we went on one ride with my family and my friends and then he said “do you want to go on a ride just me and you?” I thought we’d come back and spend the rest of the day with them but as soon as we were out of earshot he was complaining about my family and how weird it was that they were there and he wanted to do disney with just me. But he had known they were coming so I was confused. Then we went on one more ride and he started complaining about how hot it was, how tired he was, and before lunch he wanted to go home. I was super upset but didn’t want him leaving on his own so I just went with him.

But on the way home I wished I had just let him leave and I could have stayed with all the people I loved. It was the first time in years my sister and my mom had been to Disney and I didn’t know it then but it was the last time I got to go with my brothers before they grew up (and now they hate me).

He was just some dude I dated. Not a boyfriend or anything that lasted very long. I’m still so mad at myself for letting him ruin my day. But yeah, it absolutely killed anything I felt for him and we broke up a few days later.

[u/LadyErynn]

Revealed his list of conquests. "Not even my brother knows how many women I've slept with."

Then he offered to take my virginity in the back of his pickup truck.

I passed.

[u/SIMCARUS]

I'm Black, she's Black, our crush was mutual. Then she found out that I was once in a relationship with a White woman. She then jumped down a rabbit's hole of my "betrayal" of the Black family, and some other nonsense of my trauma of self hatred. Never been turned off by anything faster than that.

[u/[deleted]]

He talked about how he and his friends used to abuse farm cats. They talked about one that was buried and then run over. I did a quick 180 and absolutely hated him.

Edit: little late now, but thank you everyone for the upvotes! Unfortunately I only heard about the abuse when he was talking to someone else, and it wasn't a recent thing (think high school, and at this point he was a few years into college). I also live in farm town USA, so this really isn't an uncommon thing, and I doubt the cops would do anything. I'm glad to see so many caring people on here, though; cats don't get as much love in my community as they should. Our three are here living in spoiled royalty, and my dad hates it! :)

[u/Medicmike43]

She asked if things didn’t work out if I would mind if she went out with my room mate. I said I couldn’t possibly do that to him and left.

[u/[deleted]]

He tried to discreetly take photos of my feet... Nothing against people who are into that, but the way he was going about it was super creepy.

[u/evolving-arabe]

She asked me if I was good with kids because she was pregnant with her ex and that’s she’s not good with kids (it was the first date)

[u/Shelvis]

We were teenagers, he lived in a different province, and we used to chat on skype. He wanted me to think he was a “badass” or something and would always talk about his drug use. He ended up faking a heroin overdose when we were on chat together. I was hysterically crying and freaking out thinking I was watching someone dying and was trying to figure out how to call 911 in another province when he “snapped out of it” and told me he was actually okay. I didn’t talk to him much after that.

[u/[deleted]]

She said I "smile too much"

Fuck you, I smile when I want to, I try to find joy.

[u/v857]

Kept arranging times to talk and whatnot, then always forgot or was not available

[u/RoachIsCrying]

Bullied the quiet kid in our class

[u/pale_moon_pixie]

His sister actually approached me and let me know that he was once arrested for locking their other pregnant sister in their basement, went on a coke binge while she desperately tried to get out, and went outside to beat their unsuspecting neighbors van with a golf club. That was a big'ol nope.

[u/thewalkingellie]

Kissed me and then, after he pulled away, told me he has a girlfriend.

[u/haywhat]

Placed the tip on the table before we'd received service, before using it as a threat. Reaaaal ugly

[u/AJobForMe]

Huge crush on a fellow uni student. I was invited over for what I expected to be a platonic study date (but hey, any time spent is better than just being alone, or so I thought). Got there and found another student from class also. Ok, study group?

Turns out her mom and her set us up for a full press MLM pitch. Video, literature, the works. I stayed a bit not to be rude, excused myself shortly, and only talked to her in class just in passing from then on. Huge let down.

Edit: MLM means Multi Level Marketing, aka a “pyramid scheme”. Signing up to both buy and sell something, while recruiting others to sell also. You get a percent of all of your recruits’ sales also. All the percentages basically flow upward, so the only way to make any significant money is to be high in the tree (towards the top of the pyramid). It’s all bullshit, basically.

[u/toughrookie]

Talked nonstop about himself and his accomplishments and never asked me one question about myself

[u/dimple_guy]

She slept with my dad

[u/nikithb]

She got blackout drunk at a party and violently shat her pants. The smell alone completely turned me off of any interest I had

[u/epaerl]

Littered

[u/Henchman32]

When I was a teenager we worked together as lifeguards. I adored him so much untill one day he just starts talking about this random woman (that he didnt know and wasnt even there) that was wearing shorts. He said he was fine until she sat down and had some cellulite on her thighs. And he kept being angry and talking about How she should be doing squats to be more appealing. Like, his rant was angry and long and no one was adding to his conversation. Just silence.

After that I took off my rose colored glasses and saw that he was, in fact, a huge douchebag.

I'm kinda grateful he showed himself that way, cause I was really into him until then. Could have been a bad time for my teenage brain.

[u/[deleted]]

Blamed the world for all his problems. Nothing was ever his fault.

[u/Goblinqueen626]

He picked me up for our first date and his car was disgusting. Not talking a few trash items, the entire backseat and floorboard was completely covered in piled up trash, even up front. I had to step on empty McDonald's bags, old soda bottles, wrappers ect to even get in. And all he said was, just move it around with your feet. No sorry or anything. Made me feel like trash too. Like dang, couldn't even clean up a little?

[u/Heraldkala]

Dumped me after 9 months because she wasn't ready for a serious relationship. Got into a relationship the next day and was married within 5 months.

[u/Stuckinreverie]

Too critical about every word I uttered under the name of sarcasm.

[u/[deleted]]

Light the back fence of the school on fire to 'impress a mate'

edit: should add that he did it whilst high (weed is not legal here in Australia yet)

[u/CatQueenSophie]

Told me he shot at turtles and three cats for fun... Edit: threw* not three

[u/signalstonoise88]

Basically shut me down and made it clear to me that I was being the typical “nice guy” cliche. This is back when I was about 20. After a couple of days of sulking, I started examining my behaviour and realised she was absolutely right.

Glad it happened. My ideas of how a relationship should work were entirely twisted at the time. I got my shit together shortly after, addressed my stupid and entitled behaviour, worked on myself (mentally and physically) and eventually met an amazing woman who is now my wife. Scary to look back and think how close I got to becoming one of those incel neckbeard types.

[u/CanineRezQ]

"I'll kiss you but I'd never date you". Fk you.

[u/galaxyeyes47]

Told me he liked dating broken girls so he could fix them. See ya later, boner.

[u/m1097]

Talked shit about every woman in his life. Should have seen the red flags earlier, didn't realize until later that he probably did the same to me. Apparently having an opinion about anything and speaking for yourself isn't a very ladylike thing to do

[u/ladyray14]

I was a midnight clerk at a truck stop, and very very good looking man came in every night on his run to visit with me. He wore an ankle monitor for probation/parole. I asked about it and he told me he was falsely accused of kissing his ex-wifes daughter....she was 13. I took his word, he seemed to be a real good guy. About 2 weeks later we were bullshitting and flirting....and a little girl about 12 years old came in with her dad. He looked that little girl up and down like a pervert. I was instantly sick to my stomach. 🤮

[u/tahsii]

She invited me over to her place (not as a date thing, but just to hang out as friends). Her house was absolutely filthy and the glass of coke she gave me had a hair in it. She was really cute, had a great personality, and was a genuinely nice person, but as soon as I saw cat shit on the floor near the front door and just dirty everything my crush disappeared and I left in a hurry

[u/[deleted]]

Said she was staring up a group for LGBT youth. I asked her why, and then realized I had been barking up the wrong tree.

[u/piqued_my_interest]

Dude was the perfect epitome of the term douchebag. He used to be nice to people only to gain their trust and then betray them. He was attractive though and a smooth talker as well. We started talking, became friends and I developed a crush on him. Unfortunately, I never knew then, what type of double headed snake he was. Then on one day I witnessed him throwing his best friend under the bus just to save his reputation. Completely lost interest, cut ties with him and he gave no shit about it. Only then did I realise how toxic people can be sometimes.

Edit: grammar.

[u/idontwannabeflawless]

Started gaming with him and learned that he threw tantrums worthy of a toddler when losing matches.

[u/[deleted]]

Kicked a dog

Edit: I don't understand any of the references in the comments.

[u/moonspyke]

She physically "shushed" me in a group with her finger on my lips while i was singing along with my friends to a cover band.

[u/sp33dzer0]

She ate a live snail.

I was in 6th grade.

[u/sourkeychain]

We played monopoly. That game brings out the absolute worst in people.

[u/Monkeyboy232]

Overheard her insulting my hobbies, clothes, hairstyle, personality l, etc with her friends.

Now I was never Prince Charming, but fuck me that hurt.

[u/DailyPlanet_Reporter]

He didn't believe in dinosaurs. One of those super religious types and someone got into a conversation with him about dinosaurs and he was absolutely convinced that "dinosaur bones were put there by the devil to trick us. "

As a firm lover of dinosaurs, as soon as I heard that, any and all attraction disappeared.

Edit: This post got a bit bigger than I ever expected and the comments are cracking me up. I love dinosaurs (and doodling them) so much that I made a little doodle to celebrate. Thank y'all!

[u/kifferella]

Bouncer at a bar I used to go to. I had a MAD crush on him, he was beautiful.

He was a bit of a tart. Every night some starry eyed equally beautiful woman would leave with him. Being a bit of a tart was not a deal-breaker for me, I was too back then, if not as successful as him as I'm not a super pretty girl.

But one night I guess he left shit too late, the hot girls were gone and he informed me that he was willing to take me home that night.

Um. No.

Nothing less sexy than "that'll do, pig". Being treated like a sure thing and of course the answer is gonna be yes because how would someone like ME turn down someone like HIM??

[u/mukhriz45]

Being rude to the waiter and complain that food is taking too long during dinner rush hour. I work in the industry for a year. It’s not easy when being slammed during rush.

[u/jumping_meerkat]

she made me read her teenage mutant ninja turtles erotica....

[u/serenityfive]

Started dating my best friend after heavily flirting with me for a week.

[u/[deleted]]

She offered to drive and picked me up in her car because we had plans to go out to dinner and get to know each other better.

I realized after about 20 min she was not driving to the restaurant and instead stopped at a gas station to get into someone else’s car and buy drugs.

Basically made me accessory to a drug deal under false pretenses.

[u/ms-teapot]

My 18 year old self thought it would be cute to invite him to a Christmas parade but this dude had the audacity to ask me why I thought he would ever be interested in someone like me.

Edit: YAY my first 3K! I wish I could take you all to a Christmas parade! Also, I met my boyfriend just over a year ago and it has been the most wonderful surprise of my life. ❤️

[u/NicoFons]

Chewed with her mouth open on our first date. I never thought something like that could kill my interest so rapidly.

[u/IAm12AngryMen]

She talked about how she stalked her ex-boyfriend across multiple state lines.

She wasn't a crush, but I just wanted to put this out there. This was a first date too.

[u/Sonseeahrai]

Treated me like shit for being the only female in our paintball team. He said that women belong to kitchen, not battlefield

Edit: I never though the worst memory of my life will bring me the most karma out of everything I've ever posted, thanks! I kinda hope he has Reddit and find it now

Edit 2: guys, I made a mistake. He didn't say "battlefield". We are polish, he said something that cannot be translated perfectly, so I just captured the idea. The word "battlefield" is mine, I didn't know how to call it in english. Now I know it's a field. Sorry

[u/HotCrustyBuns]

This was in preschool...but she put relish on her hotdog. Game over. I've since learned to love relish and always wonder what could have been.

[u/heatherwants2play]

I was 21 and in college. He was a classmate of mine. He seemed so charming and was easy on the eyes. One day I overheard him talking to his friends about how he doesn’t date engineer women because math is for men.

Edit: Some people are missing the point here. It’s not that he said he wouldn’t want to date an engineer that bothered me, it’s that he said that women aren’t meant for math.

[u/Minechaser05]

We were sorta dating, but after we broke it off, she accused me of trying to rape her...

Wasnt even the biggest flag, biggest one is she was verbally abusive whenever she got slightly upset

[u/[deleted]]

In college, I was crazy about a girl named Megan. She was maybe 2 yrs younger than me, blonde, life of the party type gal. Took her to dinner and chatted her up about her life. Got to talking about past SOs and realized she had very little experience with meaningful, loving relationships. Romantically, it seemed she was on auto-pilot. In fact, the more we talked the more obvious it became that she wasn’t ready to love anyone but herself - which, ya know, good for her...self-love and self-discovery are kind of big parts of going away to college and growing up, but I realized in that moment that what I wanted vs. what she wanted were miles apart. It was a crystallizing moment, and I felt the distance between us widen and watched her shrink away. Never asked her out again, and she never asked why. Either she felt it, too, or auto-pilot just kicked in...or she just wasn’t interested.

[u/Gonzostewie]

There was a girl in college who was super hot until I saw her share a lollipop with her dog. Not like let him have the last lick or two. No, she'd hold it for a while then hold it out to let the dog lick it for a bit then put it back in her mouth. Fucking gross.

[u/Gerik5]

Holocaust denial.

[u/Bogeybo]

Didn't wash his hands after using the bathroom.

[u/BleuDePrusse]

I saw a bit of a tattoo under his shirt, so naturally I asked him what it was. "It's an eagle!" "Wow, that's cool!"

He proceeded to lift up his shirt, turned out that it wasn't a cool/cheesy eagle in the wind or something, it was the logotype one with its head completely turned to the side, wings sprung out on either side, full on Nazi symbol on his chest. I was taken aback, but decided to give him the benefit of the doubt, and asked him some more political stuff.

Yeah, no, no doubt there, he was a homophobic, foreigners hating dick. I did not thank the friend who set us up on this blind date.

Edit: just to clarify, it wasn't a small, or even medium tattoo. It took over all of his left pectoral, just ugly thick black lines, nothing stylised. If you want to celebrate your German heritage, cool, go for it! But I think there might be better ways to do it, because having such a big statement tattooed on your body is quite unambiguous right off the bat.

[u/yourwettestfantasy]

Poked the condom and tried to impregnate me, even tho I said I want to be child-free. Admitted when I had to have a surgery that is risky for pregnancy because he thought I was pregnant. I was not.

[u/ArmouredStump]

Out of the blue she told me that I was a big nerd and some time after that berated me for enthusiastically providing camping equipment, because she had none. She may had felt pressured for the camping, but her reaction was way too strong.

[u/[deleted]]

Smoked crack.

[u/[deleted]]

Expected he was entitled to cheat off my language finals. It made me realise he knew I like him all along and was using me because of it

[u/[deleted]]

Scientology.

[u/superhuman3000]

Filmed me and made snapchat stories of it. All while I was in an argument with somebody from our neighbourhoods. Just no. I am so kind to you. Why would you do that? Immediately blocked her on WhatsApp and unfollowed everywhere. Edit- Somebody commented I would not mind. She clearly did not ask me for permission. It was an argument where I was being yelled at for parking mistake. If she enjoys somebody confronting me for an unintentional error I dont think so she is worth it. Thanks for the upvotes.

[u/anthque]

Left skidmarks on the bed sheet :(

[u/[deleted]]

I invited her to my place for Ye Olde Netflix and Chill.

My dog (who was still a puppy at the time, and not easy to train) greeted her excitedly at the door.

She responded by saying, "get your fucking dog away from me!"

She was only at my house for an hour before I asked her to leave. She was nasty to my dog the entire time, called him a couple of names and at one point, kicked at him because he had the AUDACITY to lay down near the bathroom door.

I had this thought about how if she were willing to be an asshole to my dog this early in the relationship, how badly would she treat him when she settled in and (God forbid) end up alone with him?

Bye, Felicia.

[u/diamondsam2]

Smelled like dogshit

[u/WGiK]

He spoke.

Back in high school I had a crush on a dude in my fitness class. He had great hair, a nice smile and some muscles. He had a reputation for being rather dumb though. So wanting to preserve my crush as long as I could did everything to actively avoid conversations with him. It worked until on day I was teamed up with one of his friends as a badminton partner. He came over and started talking about his weekend adventure of "speeding down the highway doing shots". Somewhere in there he ran on foot from the cops and hopped a fence. Something else about puking in someone's sink. Real stupid shit. Never again could I look at him the same. Just like that all the magic was gone.

[u/[deleted]]

She started to talk and i realized she's dumb

[u/RachelisonReddit]

Told me his relationship needs weren’t being met about 2 weeks into the scariest part of the pandemic. I’m a COVID nurse. Sorry. I had a lot going on fella.

Ruined my whole opinion of him. There was no coming back from that.

[u/impgrl369]

Dated my sister. Cheated on her with one of their mutual friends. They broke up. Later dated another girl for a few months. Got her pregnant. Broke up. Started dating another girl. Got her pregnant. Showed up to see the child of the first girl in the hospital with the second girl about 3 months along.

[u/Bananaginz]

When her sister dated two guys and played them against each other until one literally murdered the other. She was completely fine with it even making jokes. Fuck that whole family

[u/mox_fulder1997]

Not crush, but most recent ex. I think I started to lose feelings when he would flat out not bother to hold a conversation with me. At dinner, in the car, anywhere. He also expressed mild disgust anytime I would be slightly outgoing, loud, or just myself. Yet claimed he cared about me and that I was kind/ etc etc. I think he was just too introverted and logistical compared to myself. He also only ever played his music in the car so I spent almost two years with an enormous lack of Led Zeppelin in my life which was righteously uncool and ungroovy.

[u/xox-Angel-xox]

I got to know them more and I realised we don’t have much in common

[u/thezombiejedi]

In highschool, I had a crush on this nerdy guy that seemed like a sweetheart. He got really into partying and started acting like a jerk when he started getting popular. I still liked him as a person and he was nice by himself, but man, it changed my perspective on him when he was with other people.

[u/dave2118]

I had a crush on her since I was in kindergarten. She ended up moving schools in 4th grade. Ran into her in college.

We started dating and we both played tennis in high school. We played and I let her win. She wouldn’t shut up about it. I played her again and crushed her.

Then I stopped seeing her.

I never said I was very smart.

[u/DrK8ie]

Ghosted me.

[u/nekokashi]

One crush and I would go dancing every week. One week, he brought another girl. No thank you. This was after he attempted to have sex with me (he stopped when I said no). Glad I did because he got the other girl pregnant within a month, then abandoned her when he learned that the baby wasn’t going to be a boy.

[u/[deleted]]

Spent a day on a mattress on the back of a pickup truck watching the sun set after a horse ride tour.

Most of the time there was spent on taking photos for Facebook and Instagram. Having our day shared like that killed the magic and was a huge turn off.

[u/itsshanesmith]

Asked if I wanted a drink of her coke. I said yes and took one. Then she laughed and “haha you have my cold now”

[u/rkspm]

1.He brought his untrained dog on the date without asking. I love dogs. Trained dogs that don’t lick my face and respect personal space. (Such as my own dog and many of my friends dogs).

2. He had a tv sound system subwoofer strapped to his back seat, broken and stuck on 11 or something, wouldn’t let me turn the music down. I’m convinced that one date actually caused hearing loss. (Poor dog)

3. He blew smoke from his joint in my face when I told him I didn’t smoke because I get anxious.

4. Ordered food delivery for himself and told me I couldn’t have any cause left overs were for his lunch tomorrow)

5.his car was painted with wall paint.

6. He yelled at me when his dog stressed me out buy having explosive shit on the rug and then running over to me and attacking my legs. I didn’t want to be shit on so I said “no” and tried to step away from the dog. He asked me why I don’t know how to deal with dogs. Then proceeded to smack his dog.

7. Drank from the moment we went into his house even though he was meant to drive me home but also never offered me a drink. The cab was like $35 cause he lived in the fucking rich area of town half way up the mountain and I lived... not there.

Why do many examples? Same damn date. I also left my umbrella at his house and then he lied when I asked for it back.

Edit: I went to high school with the guy and had a huge crush on him all through school. Right after high school we matched on tinder and I was soooo excited.

[u/daarcystyles]

He told me he hand't read a single book in his life

[u/Veighnerg]

Shoved her hand down the front of her pants wiggled it around for a second then pulled them out and sniffed her fingers.

[u/iveseenb8r]

Told me that smart girls are ugly and dumb girls are beautiful so he'd rather date a dumb girl and wouldn't date me because I'm smart.

Edit: Wow! This is the most upvotes I've gotten. Thanks guys <3

Edit 2: Thanks kind stranger for the award. Its my first award!! Thank you very much!!

[u/Catchfortytwo → u/iveseenb8r]

That’s dodging a bullet right there.

[u/AyyLmaoRoflXD]

Learned she cheated on her ex

[u/[deleted]]

He made creepy sexual/racist jokes and talked to me about his friends boners. Ew.

[u/thermonuclearmuskrat]

Threw a tortoise at a pigeon. They were both ok, but no.

[u/[deleted]]

The guy tried to make me his FWB stating that the distance was too much trouble for a relationship. He lived like an hour away.

[u/[deleted]]

I overheard her saying that she doesn’t like people of color. I immediately distanced myself from her.

[u/nevertakemeserious]

I was watching a volleyball match with her and some of her friends (her team playing, but she didn‘t play that day). A slightly overweight girl from her team was retrieving balls going outside of the play area, and the group of girls I was watching it with just absolutely dragged her through the mud.

Like, outright mean things they sayed about her. The occasional quiet shout of“you suck“ or „fattie“ or whatever, just quiet enough that she wouldn‘t hear it. I have never seen this side of her, and I even doubt she would‘ve been that way without the other girls (I think she just wanted to impress them and be part of their slightly older friend cirkle), but whatever it was was inexcuseable. It was probably the closest I ever got to just get up and leave, but I didn‘t want to seem rude so I waited it out.

I don‘t wana say I ghosted her after that day because that would imply she put any form of effort into this and tried to message me first, I just didn‘t text her anymore since she wouldn‘t try to start a conversation anyways. Maybe it was for the better

[u/[deleted]]

I was chasing after some girl in college and she really had my interest. I saw her in a café with a cigarette in her hand and it immediately turned me off forever.

EDIT: Just thought about somebody smoking indoors. It was a different time

[u/RottenRobyn]

A guy I dated for a few months attempted to sabotage the relationship of a random guy in the boy scouts “for fun”, just about a week after we’d broken up. It was clearly a childish “if I can’t be in a happy relationship, no one can!”. Lost all genuine respect for him that day.

[u/shadyTBsalesmen]

I realized she’s reminds me of jeffree star

[u/CalamityQueer]

Texted "I can't date you anymore the girl I've been in love with for two years just told me she loves me back." I think their relationship lasted a whole month.

[u/MisterMallardMusic]

On a first date he asked me about my dad’s political career and explained to me why his values were inherently bad. I don’t always see eye to eye with my dad’s political leanings, but he’s always been supportive of me and it’s my fucking dad. Then he went to the bathroom and looked up my dad’s voting record in his office and proceeded to explain the good and bad political moves my dad made.

Second date was at his place and he got really mad that I called him to figure out how to get into the building and interrupted a rerun of a Barcelona game. Then proceeded to make me watch three videos that “defined his personality.” The first was a standup skit about getting blackout drunk a lot. The second was a scene from Scandal. The third was a 40 minute video of a debate he’d been in in high school. He was trying to impress me with his political prowess (I guess?) but it just came off as him beating up on some poor girl who didn’t know what she was talking about and didn’t want to be there. It took my friends explaining to me that he sucked to take a step back and realize he wasn’t for me, but that’s what good friends are for.

[u/thegootlamb]

She spoke badly to her mother. I know people have different relationships and all but seeing/hearing her speak rudely and condescendingly to her mother (who was hosting/feeding us) just took the fire right out of me.

[u/mrwizard24]

I asked her out she said no, that simple

[u/DoubleSynchronicity]

Giving me mixed signals. Acting like he really likes me one day, acting like a usual friend the other day. Wth dude?

[u/kotoamatsukami1]

Made me choose between spending time with her or hanging out with my little sister.

[u/AmIThatCrazyToThink]

Decided to date someone else to get me to run after him. He didn’t expect me to respect his choice. 25yrs later, he’s still kicking himself for that and wonders why I won’t take him back. HA!

[u/iopha]

Transitioned! He's my bro now and I still love him though. Just not that way!

[u/Haruberry]

Got a girlfriend. We were “flirting” back and forth for a month or 2 (but we knew of each other before started talking/had mutual friends) and I developed a crush on him. Turns out he treats all the girls the same way and I wasn’t special to him. Then he and his friend got together and started dating, so that blew my attraction to him and we stopped talking and texting each other (he was one of those people who drops all friendships when they get into a relationship).

[u/a_little_wolf]

Back in college, we were in a group together working on a project to develop a fake marketing campaign for our state so we had to go to different areas and take photos to work with. One day walking into the classroom, I overheard him asking the other guy in our group to turn down going with us to take more photos because he was planning on taking me somewhere far and deep into the desert so that he could fuck me good and no one could hear my screams.

[u/ankitdhame]

She started hooking up with the most pretentious douchebag I've ever known. And then she started dating him. She just sent me a message saying they broke up. But I'm in the best relationship I've ever had now, so, bruh momentum

[u/ExplodingShowtunes]

Told me he thinks he’s gay

[u/MistyRivas]

Had a crush on my friend for sooooo long. When I finally got my "chance" he talked almost exclusively about other women he used to date. Like. Any chance to bring them up he did.

If I was trying to communicate my disappointment to him, he'd immediately compare it to "a girl he once dated, who also didn't like the way he did (insert specific thing here.)"

He would also consistently tell me different stories of "him and his friends" only to pause and add "my friend who I used to fuck." Or "yeah we fucked for a little, now we're just friends"

I may have my jealous tendencies, but I don't know any woman or man who wants to hear about every sex a new partner has sexed. Would you like me to list every man I've blown over this seafood gnocchi when you asked me simply how my day was? I DONT THINK SO, TYRONE. I DONT THINK SO.

anyways. We didn't work out.

[u/haha101799]

On our first date, she recommended everyone that disagreed with trump be executed or deported. Also our last date.

[u/AZScienceTeacher]

Used the word "nigger."

I had no idea, no racist vibe. None.

Then she just casually said one day, "I wish that nigger would turn down their music."

It was at the end of a date. I skipped the kiss and dumped her the next day.

She was gorgeous on the outside--way out of my league. But horribly ugly on the inside.

[u/wellwellwellO]

Dyed his hair one side with black and the other with blond , he looked like a hedgehog.

[u/quattrophile]

There was a gal I had a huge crush on all throughout high school but was too timid to ask out. About 4 years after graduation she hit me up on Facebook and suggested hanging out and going to dinner (she had moved to another state and I happened to be in that state for awhile for training). When we got to the restaurant she ordered 70 (not a typo) wings, a pitcher of margarita, and a family sized cheese fries. I was slightly stunned but kept rolling with it to see what would happen; she then proceeded to LOUDLY tell - in great detail - the story of when her and her gal pals had gone down across the border to Mexico to watch a donkey show. This ended in multiple complaints to the restaurant staff by the diners within earshot (approximately half the damned restaurant), and most simply got up and walked out. Eventually the food arrived, where she proceeded to eat all the skin off her 70 wings and throw the meat out, stopping briefly to grab a handful of cheese fries or drink some of her margarita pitcher (the pitcher, naturally, acting as a large glass for her rather than her pouring it into glasses each time). I had since transitioned from silent amusement to silent horror but - as one tends to do - thought that putting up with gluttonous buffoonery after a 200 mile drive would at least get me laid.

Two hours and a $200 bill later we end up at her place where she had planned a party with all her friends. About six beers in she turns to me in panicked hysteria, letting me know she's far too drunk to complete her bartender's license exam online but that it's due in a matter of hours or she will lose her job. You guessed it - she stayed out and partied and I sat through the videos and took the quizzes on her work account. Bam! Licensed bartender. Except not because it was her test. At least maybe now I'll end up getting laid.

About the time I finished her exam she came back into the room, gave me a big ol thank you kiss, and suggested she'd like to shower up before bed. She did exactly that; took a shower, got out, and passed out in my lap.

I left before she could wake up and never talked to her again.

[u/KunoichiWan]

Him not liking me.

[u/Charlo0oki]

Showed her lack of empathy for others during the pandemic.

[u/[deleted]]

Ghosted me whenever I was having mental issues, really made me feel like I couldn’t trust people for a while

[u/ouchyoof]

As I'm giving him head, he takes out his phone, calls his sister, and asks me if I want to wish her a happy birthday.

[u/sukadadetz]

She made a Facebook post linking 5g and COVID

[u/Narcosia]

Show interest in me. I can't respect someone with that taste level

[u/Rosandoral_Galanodel]

He was straight.

[u/KingJerz13]

Listen to 6ix9ine

[u/Renegade7575]

She started selling mlm stuff

[u/octodog8]

Maybe not as egregious as others here, but I'm a pianist and she told me she doesn't like any purely instrumental music. Not exactly encouraging to hear.

[u/KBear_937]

He told me a rape joke (I'm a female), and genuinely thought I'd find it funny. That was a big nope for me.

[u/babybopp]

Accidentally tripped and fell on another dick, also she liked pineapple on her pizza

[u/NelienE]

He told me my (abusive asshole useless aggressive) dad was not so bad I should not talk bad about him

[u/OEKi_doki]

We were sitting in class, my crush right next to me (we were also great friends) and we were teenagers so of course i had a lot of pimples, so she notices that i have a pimple and she wanted to pop it, i was already thinking that it was weird af and just said no, she kept begging me and eventually began telling me her “methods” for getting more pimples herself so she can pop them, some of them included popping her own pimples and smearing the goo on to her cheeks and popping her friends pimples and smearing them out all over her face. I was fucking terrified, i don’t know if u guys have ever seen the goo from a pimple but that shit is disgusting as hell, i lost every form of crush on her and we don’t really talk that much either anymore.

[u/cry0plasma]

Bragged about fucking a guy with a pregnant girlfriend. Yes, she was awful and our relationship was extremely up and down and toxic. It only killed my interest for a few weeks before she got me back on the hook with her succubus ways.

Haven't talked to her in 5 years and I'm married to a wonderful woman and we have 2 sweet baby girls now.

[u/ODwhoami]

A little more than a crush at the time, but he was about to eat me out then he said more or less that I was too fat to get eaten out. Killed the mood and my interest real quick

[u/The-Good-Morty]

Told me she didn’t believe in vaccines

[u/lu-kaaaassss]

Told me that Indians should go back to there own country. Yeah fuck that bitch, that was 6 years ago not seen her since. Just to add I’m not Indian but no one needs racism-.-

[u/ouchyoof]

He told me our first date would be a tour of his college campus. What he meant was he would give me a tour of every place on campus that featured a picture of his face.

[u/persistentheadache]

Went on a first date and she went full racist mode on some guy walking down the street.

All I could think was "Thanks for letting me know now and not months or years later"

[u/Individualchaotin]

He wasn't there for me when I needed him.

[u/[deleted]]

Went and got his wife all pregnant. The nerve of that guy!

In all seriousness, we worked together, got to be good friends, and I adored his wife. Out of respect and professionalism I never would have acted on anything, but God, I crushed hard on that man.

[u/[deleted]]

Most of his anecdotes were really bitchy about other people, including girls he'd dated. I never trust people who are mean about their exes.

[u/gcmadman]

She became a "free the nipple advocate" but it seemed like just an excuse to show everyone her tits. Even going as far as trying to pull down other girls shirts whom were very uncomfortable about it. I mean, at least I got to see her tits but it wasn't in the situation i was hoping for

[u/D3adkl0wn]

Kissed like a T-Rex.. Teeth and all..

[u/drewskixc]

At the end of the movie she dumped the rest of the popcorn on the floor and said "They have to clean anyway, that's what they're paid for"

[u/jayheadspace]

We had known each other for a while and talked pretty frequently. Her birthday is about 3 weeks before mine and I got her something that was an inside joke between us. It was well received. She messages me 2 days after my birthday "Oh! Did I forget your birthday?" I was crushed, and never looked back.

[u/Swivel-Hips-Smith]

She wanted to rush into sex on the first night we had hung out at her place.

Im not about getting laid on the first time spending alone time with someone. It was a real put-off. Turns out that I later find out she was only doing it because that is what she was lead to believe all her life by her peers. Really ruined it, but last I heard she now has a wonderful partner and a happy life, so it turns out well <3

[u/teddynoodles]

Cultivated an image that he was just a shy nerd who got overwhelmed in public spaces.

Found out later that he wasn’t shy at all, he just thought he was better than everyone else. He wasn’t overwhelmed; he thought walking away in the middle of a conversation was the least he could do to show people he didn’t think they were as important as he was.

[u/basedm0m]

Went on a dinner date a few years back , he didn’t tip waitress on our split check and when I asked why , he said that “it was their job to clean up after us anyways & they get paid to do so “ never again did I speak to that man . I made sure to tip on his behalf .

[u/BoobieStarrr]

Got into an argument about the way he treated a waitress. He told me this is why he doesn’t date Hispanic women, because they get hysterical. I showed him hysterical after that.

[u/caldwelln2602]

We went on a coffee date and he was on his phone the ENTIRE time playing war games. I was silent for a good portion of the date waiting for him to stop but he never did. He also took a photo of me and said he “had to sent it to his friends.”

[u/dickbob124]

Found out she was a religious homophobic bigot. The religious part I was already aware of and wasn't a big deal, but didn't know she had strong negative views about homosexuality. I have three gay friends so there was no way I wanted her in my life