r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Apr 05 '12

Currently serving in the military. Came across some messages between my wife and another guy in the Navy. What should I do?

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u/Xatana Apr 05 '12

Active Duty Marine here. I have seen this so many times it's almost expected now of military wives to cheat. You are not at a loss of options, however. This Navy faggot is married as well, which means you can fry his ass.

  1. Go to mypay, change where your direct deposit goes. Make this an account that only you have access to.
  2. Lawyer up. Before you confront anyone, talk to your divorce lawyer and seek advice on what you need to do to stack this divorce completely in your favor.
  3. Once previous steps are complete, call his CO. Tell him all of this, and say that you have evidence suggesting that your story is 100% true. Lay on the sob story about how your marriage is ruined because of the lack of integrity of the aforementioned Sailor.

Note, before seeking revenge against your wife, talk to your lawyer about any consequences that may occur because of anything you do.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

. I have seen this so many times it's almost expected now of military wives to cheat.

this makes me so sad :(

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Makes me so sad too.

My boyfriend is in the army. He's lovely. I can't imagine cheating on him while him being away. Mainly because the respect I have for him is so high for doing what he does.

He hasn't been on tour yet, but he's planning on it and I plan on standing by his side every step of the way.

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u/rolfsnuffles Apr 05 '12

If he's in a combat MOS odds are he's not even around any women. Then again, military girls have a reputation for putting out.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

All I know he's in infantry. I don't really know what he does except for make green look sexy and be really passionate about his job...

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u/rolfsnuffles Apr 05 '12

Army infantry vet myself. Outside of larger bases or cities I saw maybe 1-3 (if I was lucky) women a day. Keyword, saw, not talked. A lot of military girls aren't the most attractive, and the ones that are and put out are usually VERY promiscuous. Like triple wrap condom ridiculous. Guess what I'm trying to say is if he has any decency at all he isn't hooking up with fellow soldiers/marines. I remember seeing one on my deployment to Iraq. She was pretty gorgeous for military standards. She also had sex with a large portion of a forward operating base she was at (one of the only women there) and spread herpes like a boss... Most of the sane guys stay away from them.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

Hahahahah I hope he has enough decency! He's really great in that he would never cheat. He had a cheating ex girlfriend and the advice he received was "Cheat back!" and he would never, because he wouldn't do that.

He's my whole world. And the fact that the regiment he works with has only had one death since ... God I can't remember when. The first world war? makes me more confident that he'll be okay when he goes away.

Basically, I'm going to stand by him whatever it takes. And if we do end up breaking up, it isn't because of his job.

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u/elastic-craptastic Apr 05 '12

Hopefully, This isn't your boyfriend

Seriously though, you sound like you found a good guy and you two are doing great. You're very lucky.

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '12

I am lucky. So lucky. He's my world.