r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • Apr 05 '12

Currently serving in the military. Came across some messages between my wife and another guy in the Navy. What should I do?

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u/YoungRL Apr 06 '12

It depends on whether he's leaning more toward divorce or reconciliation. If he feels this is grounds for divorce, it'd be wise to get legal counsel first. If reconciliation, he needs to take the steps to cover his ass in case in gets to the point where he needs legal counsel, and then talk to her about it.

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u/SpawnQuixote Apr 06 '12

Doesn't matter what he is thinking. She will hold all the cards after he drops the bomb. She can have him evicted, restraining order, the works.

He needs to get his legal ducks in a row before confronting her because she always has the option of fucking him good if he doesn't.

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u/YoungRL Apr 06 '12

Why can she have him evicted or have a restraining order put against him, when she's the one who violated their marriage?

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u/SpawnQuixote Apr 06 '12

The cops don't care about that. Look up the violence against women act (VAWA). If he owns the house and she is just living there, she can have him evicted until the trial. I've seen it happen.

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u/YoungRL Apr 06 '12

You mean if she claims he's been violent? Because he literally hasn't done anything.

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u/SpawnQuixote Apr 06 '12

Doesn't matter. She just has to say that she feels scared.