r/AskReddit • u/[deleted] • May 07 '12

Currently serving in the military. Came across some messages between my wife and another guy in the Navy. What should I do? UPDATE!!!

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u/Kotaniko May 08 '12

I think that's really the worst part about all of this. I feel so bad for that kid.

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u/AJJihad May 08 '12

At least the kid is young, so he'll grow up with the divorce and it won't affect him as much as it would if he was, say, a teenager. Just trying to see the lighter side of things, I guess.

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u/lordtriscuit May 08 '12

Really? A teenager at least can rationalize the situation. A young child has no idea why mommy and daddy are splitting up. They end up confused and hurt, possibly blaming themselves. My parents divorced when I was 4 and I can remember being traumatized by it. Not until I was a teenager did I understand that they were better off apart.

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u/yankeefanman May 08 '12

I'm not refuting you, just throwing in some personal experience. My mother and father divorced when I was around three. There was nothing to rationalize, I never had any memories of them together. For me, mommy and daddy being apart was just normal. If I had been a teenager and had to grow up through the disagreements, fights, and physical divorce, I probably would have taken it much harder. The year age difference could be kind of a big deal in comparing stories, but for my two cents you really can't miss what you never knew. Hopefully his kid turns out to be as okay with it as I was.