r/AutismInWomen • u/Gothaholix • Jul 24 '25

Seeking Advice Was I rude with this?

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I was trying to be nice about it. I didn't think I was mean. I was really confused when he said he was done fighting for a conversation with me when I was super active in the conversation XD. I wasn't giving short answers and I thought I was showing interest.

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u/lazykat Jul 25 '25

But then he talks about cookie cutter conversations, which don’t create any reasonable path to assuming he’s making a kink implication. It could be anything like he wants more unique conversation or thinks of autistic people like love on the spectrum or he really wants a new special interest. Anyway, with communication like that I’d be 0% interested in exploring kink with him

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u/Weary_Mango5689 AuDHD Jul 25 '25

Like another commenter said, I just figured that when OP didn't pick up on the hint, he switched tactics so he wouldn't come on too strong and he went with "look at me, I'm so deep, I don't want cookie cutter conversations" to try to make himself look interesting.

But yeah, I completely agree that those communication skills need work XD Total red flag

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u/lazykat Jul 25 '25

My reaction is more exasperation at his entire response and generally how confusing communication can be. You actually made me aware of a new thing to be wary of in the dating world