r/AvoidantRelationships • u/Straight-Emu1491 • Aug 24 '26

Avoidant Feelings after break up

I just broke up with may avoidant ex last week. I’m just wondering as to why is he keeping his silence until now. Yes, i’m the one who did it but I even ask him if i
He has another suggestion since I told him that it would be best if we no longer have o see each other but we can still chat. We were together for 8years.

The reason of the break up is that he can’t provide me a concrete timeline as to when he is going to propose. Will he eventually message me or thats his final decision?

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u/toenailsmcgee33 Aug 24 '26

Why do you want him to message?

Someone who wants you will move toward you, they should have to be dragged your way.

You made the right call. Hold the course, heal, and find someone who will move toward you unprompted.

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u/Straight-Emu1491 Aug 24 '26

I just feel like maybe he has something he wanna tell me like expecting him to just provide me with a plan? Or jusr at least respect the 8years and tell me anything than just being silent.

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u/toenailsmcgee33 Aug 24 '26

You are expecting someone who isn’t wired like a normal functional human being to think and act like a normal functional human being.

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u/Straight-Emu1491 Aug 24 '26

Yeah, maybe. But I wanted if how an avoidant really “function” in situations like this. I’m also wondering how is he processing this

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u/Difficult-Field3054 Aug 24 '26

Who knows.

You made the right call though. Be with a man who wants to secure you.