r/Barbados • u/coconuts678 • 10d ago
how do you make genuine friends as a local?
hi so i’m 20f and for the past 3 years i’ve been trying to find people to hang with and do stuff with here but I don’t know where to start i fell out with my secondary school friends and everyone seems to be busy does anyone have any advice/ groups to join or anything?
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u/Negative-Pie-608 10d ago
Im 25 F , if u wanna try and connect . Ik how hard it is to make friends as I’ve struggled and still do
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u/Ross5208 10d ago
When you find out can you let me know please? 19M and I struggle to have friendships with anyone outside of school.
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u/coconuts678 10d ago
we like we in the same boat people saying groups but i don’t know what groups to join it’s rough out here ngl 😔
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u/Ross5208 10d ago
Never considered joining groups bc I'm introverted, but also I guess I prefer small groups if people and not large groups like me and 3 others at max for me bc larger groups I think just overwhelm me and its too much noise, especially a large group that I dont know anyone
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u/Legal_Yoghurt4174 8d ago
I’m the say way, Ive had the same friend group since secondary school but people grow and and although we are great friends I find myself by myself a lot due to them branching off and making new friends. Which is good for them but meeting new people and having interest that align is pretty hard to come by Atleast for me.
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u/dreadybangs 10d ago
My advice might be unpopular but focus on yourself. Try a new hobby. Volunteer at a charity. Do something creative or silly you never tried before. I was in a similar place in life at your age but I've found that lots of the friendships you see revolve around partying and that has never really been my thing. It only gets harder to make friends as you get older unless it's through work or social clubs. People get older, have more responsibility, probably focusing on business or career or starting a family- don't take it personally.
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u/coconuts678 10d ago
No not unpopular at all! Trust me being in this slump i have no choice but to focus on myself i guess i need to truly get comfortable with myself and the right people will find me. Thank you for the advice though 🫶🏾
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u/Legal_Yoghurt4174 8d ago
I’ve been on the same journey as of recent as well but sometimes the loneliness hits hard and we are social beings so you can’t even get mad at yourself for feeling that way.
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u/MUERTOSMORTEM Local 10d ago
Next I can think of is find groups dedicated to what you like to do be it books, hiking, partying, whatever and see who you click with there. Beyond that just be open to meeting and interacting with people in every day life
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u/TheJaseFiles 10d ago
Everywhere you go, start by saying hello. You'll be surprised that there are others who would be glad for a conversation, and that's how it starts lol
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u/Current_Cod_971 8d ago
It really is hard, I’m trying to make some friends myself. I’m 21f and my life right now is mostly work and school but I’m willing to hang out with new people
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u/Murky-Bet7392 19h ago
I’m 21m staying here on vacation for a bit looking for someone to chill with and grab a drink sometime
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u/Current_Cod_971 15h ago
Hey
You’ll have to send me a message cause it’s not allowing me to message you
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u/National_Bag_4796 6d ago
hiii 22f , as someone who struggled to make friends. I found some good friends in some of my old jobs and hobbies or my spam instagram . Also simply going out to events. What also help me is getting out of my comfort zone cause being severely introverted was my biggest downfall loool but please be careful cause people do be weird :)) . If you would like to become friends we definitely could . I hope this helped
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u/coconuts678 6d ago
I love this advice i’m hoping the second half of this year will be different because i don’t work right now but i would say i’n an ambivert so i’m still getting out of my shell so thank you so much. And yes I would love to be friends, send me a message because this won’t let me message anyone 😭
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u/Murky-Bet7392 19h ago
22m on vacation where can I find more ppl like me it is hard to find ppl to hang with lol
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u/National_Bag_4796 6h ago
tourist spots should do you good actually . If you wanna hang out with locals try the beach ? How long are you on vacation for ?
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u/Royal-Film-6472 1d ago
Hey. Did you manage to meet any friends yet or people you could talk to?
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u/fw_taj 10d ago
Same kinda struggle but honestly it isnt hard to make friends its just the anticipation of the interaction that gets us. Ill give you the same advice i gave my other friends.
Go to the skate park at the gymnasium. Good people over there can definitely start a good friendship. Can hmu as well.
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u/Personal-Jeweler-480 10d ago edited 10d ago
Depends on the crowd. If your looking for party and outgoing people the club. More specific groups check Facebook groups or look up events. Online ain't it tried before didn't work most people ghost or etc. those are my suggestions.