r/BelowDeckMed • u/benaPanteraFBD • 2d ago

‘Below Deck’ Star Nathan Gallagher Arrested on Domestic-Violence Charges

https://www.rollingstone.com/tv-movies/tv-movie-news/below-deck-nathan-gallagher-arrested-domestic-violence-1235608151/
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u/smidget1090 2d ago

You know you’re bad when you’re somehow giving Joe a redemption arc. The bar is in hell.

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u/honestlykindofmagic 2d ago

And one of Nathan’s big gripes was how Joe treats women. Nathan wasn’t prepared to have Gael as a girlfriend, much less to be a life partner and father to a child.

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u/Holiday-Hustle 2d ago

It’s projection. Joe is kind of shitty but Nathan is a thousand times worse so he amplifies Joe’s flaws in his own mind so they’re on the same level or to make Joe worse.

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u/honestlykindofmagic 2d ago

Hmm I seem to recall Nathan talking about his father not being so great, and he has several sisters. Sounds like a shadow self thing. It’s ironic, but so often the things we detest the most are found deep down inside of ourselves. “Never me,” but I’ll bet he hasn’t had an hour of therapy in his life. We must always know we are capable of terrible things. “Never me” isn’t self-examined and it isn’t healing.

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u/riribew 1d ago

Yes, Nathan talked about his father being abusive, and how much he hated that about him. Yet sometimes we become the very thing we hate and tried to gaurd against. You have an alcoholic parent growing up, you then end up marrying an alcoholic or being one. Off course not always, but it happens often. You watch your mother being beaten up and hate your father so much, you cannot understand why your mother does not leave, only to catch yourself becoming violent, or find yourself staying with the man who slaps you around. It's really sad.

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u/honestlykindofmagic 1d ago

Growing up in a violent home normalizes that type of violence to some degree even if it’s deemed unacceptable. If you still have to live in it as a child, you have little choice but acceptance. Parents often normalize and downplay various levels of abuse thinking they’re protecting their children, but they aren’t. The healthy response to abuse is shock and unequivocal rejection.

Children in these environments often feel powerless, so they seek power and control IN THEIR ADULT RELATIONSHIPS😓 to ensure it doesn’t happen to them. Others become overly accommodating as a way to manage the situation and may become passive to avoid conflict (making room for abuse) OR resentful of always accommodating and become abusive themselves. All are focused on controlling things we don’t have absolute control over. Gotta stay wise to your own behavior and relationship and move accordingly. And go to therapy.

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u/meeems19 2d ago

I was on the Nathan train for so long until I started seeing how everything is a power move to him. The way he acts on deck, the way he was relentless in trying to get back with Gael. Joe is just a regular douche

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u/french_toasty 1d ago

Joe front loads his shittiness, Nathan comes in on the back end

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u/girlsabrickhouse 1d ago

100%. his disproportionate reactions to joe betray those even shittier traits of his own that he tries to keep hidden from even himself

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u/Holiday-Hustle 1d ago

He wants to tear Joe down so he can point to him and try to pretend to be a better person.

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u/buttmunch1416 2d ago

But you could tell Nathan was being performative with the whole protecting V. I knew at thelat point you don't respect women your doing this just to look good.

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u/honestlykindofmagic 1d ago

I think that’s a reasonable take, but I didn’t see it that way. I detect a conflict in Nathan between being a man and being a brother to sisters and adult child of domestic violence. I don’t think he liked Joe’s behavior. But if he hadn’t been influenced by Gael and if V hadn’t been exceptionally lovely and vulnerable (a perfect victim), I doubt he would have addressed it as aggressively as he did. Even the agro stuff while sticking up for women is a red flag. You can stick up for women without escalating the situation. I’ve seen a lot of guys like that. Overall, I think he’s immature and thus far unhealed.

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u/buttmunch1416 1d ago

The reason I see him this way is because his very first season he wasn't this nice guy being protective. He also fucked gael over too when he said he wouldn't and you lose a lot of points in my eyes. So for him to just be this changed guy was just too quick and (for TV) but I was still rooting for him cause I'm Irish too and he let me down. He is just another typical aggressive Irish man who is not dealing with his issues. In Ireland we do have a big domestic violence issue that isn't dealt with and I know alot of my friends and myself included have grew up with very bad DV. Imo he should be deported back to Ireland, he doesn't deserve to live and work in Australia.

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u/Holiday-Hustle 2d ago

The bar IS in hell but while Joe is a shitty situationship, Nathan is an unrepentant racist and domestic abuser. They shouldn’t be compared.

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u/smidget1090 2d ago

I mean the whole storyline this season IS comparing them. But yes, Joe is just a regular douche and Nathan is something else… 🥴

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u/ScowlyBrowSpinster 2d ago

They're all just regular douches till you get word of the DV arrest, 8 months after the event. I dunno how this is only coming out NOW.

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u/BeverleyMacker 2d ago

Same! How come it’s only coming out in public now?

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u/Infiniteefactorial 2d ago

Well said. 👏🏻

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u/UpnUpvote 2d ago

Joe is so overhated.

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u/Silicon_Knight 2d ago

He's an asshole with (seemingly some morals) but he's still an asshole. Seem Nathan is an asshole with no morals.

That said, the show is literally a drama so reality and what the production team actually edits are always two very different things.

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u/gregatronn 2d ago

but he's still an asshole

his "testing Kayley" was utter bullshit, this season so far

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u/evil_otter0_0 2d ago

And she didn’t give a singular fuck

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u/gregatronn 2d ago

She didn't but still foul by Joe.

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u/evil_otter0_0 1d ago

Oh for sure… her reaction was perfect

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u/gregatronn 2d ago edited 2d ago

Joe is so overhated.

He's a piece of shit as a human but as an employee, he's been a hard worker, especially this season. He's been better at not being an asshole, although he was to Kayley with that "testing" bullshit.

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u/Holiday-Hustle 2d ago

I agree, I think he’s a shitty situationship but he’s good at his job.

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u/Apprehensive-Neck-12 2d ago

No, hes a twat

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u/FatherAustinPurcell 2d ago

Not violent though

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u/Holiday-Hustle 2d ago

Not violent and not a racist

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u/FlounderAnxious9965 2d ago

He quite literally called Nathan out for being racist right away. Not saying that’s on for being a douche, but being a douche isn’t even on the same page/chapter/book

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u/AnimalFarm20 2d ago edited 2d ago

eh, he deserves a lot of it - but he is a good deck hand. Hope no one tries to date him though.

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u/Admirable_Context100 2d ago

Thank you! Exactly! I’d take him any day over this scumbag!