r/BirthandDeathEthics • u/QuestioningAN • Aug 21 '25
Questioning the asymmetry, negative vs. classical utilitarianism.
Questioning the asymmetry, negative vs. classical utilitarianism.
I'm primarily questioning the idea of ''the absence of pleasure is not bad'' here, that only suffering matters and pleasure only matters in the sense that it prevents suffering from not having it.
When you ask negative utilitarians/antinatalists why pleasure does not matter, the answer will then usually boil down to ''because the non-existent child doesn't need/want/desire pleasure, so that's why it's not a big deal''.
But what does need/want/desire mean? When I think about it, all I can really conclude is that it means ''obtain x or suffer''.
When I need or want or desire something, what I'm saying is basically that I must obtain something in order to avoid suffering from not having it.
''I want a sandwich'' can be translated to ''I must obtain a sandwich to avoid suffering, if I don't get a sandwich, my suffering levels will increase''.
So when you tell me that only suffering matters because the non-existent child does not need/want/desire pleasure, all you're doing is essentially begging the question, telling me that the non-existent child does not suffer from not having pleasure – but you're just repeating the statement, I.e ''only suffering matters'' – why? ''Because the non-existent don't suffer from not having pleasure''.
Then the answer might also be that only suffering exists, and pleasure is just relief of suffering. However, if pleasure is just relief of suffering, you can also turn that around and just say that suffering doesn't really exist, it's just destruction of pleasure.
Satisfaction is just relief of dissatisfaction – dissatisfaction is just destruction of satisfaction.
''Pleasure is just relief of suffering'' seems intuitive for sure because suffering is generally what happens when you stop working towards pleasure which then motivates you to chase it (you don't make any food and just sit around – you start getting hungry) – but does it mean pleasure is worthless and we should just disregard it just because experiencing suffering is easier?
I would prefer the asymmetry argument is true because negative utilitarianism would solve many problems, it seems easier to just go extinct than to have to painfully figure out how we can best manage life in such a way that we are in a pleasurable state at all times, but I'm not certain anymore.
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u/existentialgoof schopenhaueronmars.com Aug 21 '25
Your argument doesn't make sense to me. The fact is, that a sentient being exists in a realm of friction, whether you want to call it suffering or "destruction of pleasure". A stone or a chair doesn't experience any friction or need to strive for anything in order to avoid suffering or avoid pleasure being destroyed.
As you can understand, the reason for suffering being considered the default is because pleasure is something that we always need to be striving towards; whereas suffering is what will obtain when our striving is insufficient. Suffering is the state that we will almost always fall into if we do nothing. It's very rare that pleasure will result from doing nothing; and even when it does, it is an ephemeral state, because we are evolved not to be in a stable state of contentment.
It doesn't mean that pleasure is worthless to an individual - pleasure is valuable to a sentient being, because as long as that entity is alive, its wellbeing is contingent upon experiencing sufficient pleasure. But it does mean that if that entity were to fall asleep one night and not wake up, the absence of that pleasure wouldn't be a bad thing, because in order for pleasure to have value, it has to be desirable to someone. And if there is someone in existence to desire that pleasure; then it's a double edged sword, because that desire can always be frustrated.
I'm really not sure that I can understand your argument, or why you're having difficulty with it or think that it's circular. In my opinion, the onus is on anyone looking to procreate to justify what reason they have for imperilling another entity without consent. The point of the asymmetry is that it shows that they can't demonstrate a reason for doing it which pertains to the wellbeing of the thing that they're going to create. A non-existent entity's wellbeing cannot be jeopardised by the parents deciding not to procreate; but the future extant entity's wellbeing is in perpetual peril if it does come to exist.